Scorpio man in love with an Aries woman

[dim]

Wow...i kinda freaked out today with all these things that i read! Hi everyone, i'm a Scorpio man, crazy about an Aries Woman, and boy oh boy, now i know why me and my sister always fight...lol See i never really payed attention to my arguements with my sister, i just thought they were as they were....but with the aries woman my g/f, well i think! ;(, made me realize a lot of things. I searched the internet and found all these hororscope articles on the compatibility. Reading all of them, all i had to do is to actually remove the word scorpio and add my own, and hers where it said aries. It was just unbelievable how spot on the situation got. So here's my story.

1 month and a week ago, i met this girl in a club. By the way i'm 31, and she's 30. Anyways, i've had a rather crazy lifestyle before without a g/f, like for example clubs, drinking, going out, i have a great job, i have a good wage, i'm indpendent ect. But when i met her i went crazy. I wanted change in my life, and i knew that if i was to be with this girl, i need to be straight up with her, and be honest as possible, and change my lifestyle. See i'm telling you all this for a reason, which will come up later on.

Anyways, so from day one , i knew i was going to go out with her. Don't know what it was, but i really liked what i saw, and after speaking a bit i just was enthusiastic. So basically we eventually go to our first date, it was just great, i never sat down in a restaurant for over 3 hours!! EVER!..i was far from bored. 2nd date, we had the same thing, with a movie, GREAT time! and the 3rd we kissed, and it was just amazing...she even told me the same thing. See all was good, until i brought my caring and opening up a little too soon. See what it was was that ARies was giving me a hard time for me reading her, so i became weak, trying to win this situation this love battle this passion battle. Once she jumped at me for my lifestyle when i explained to her how i wanted change in my life...and she's the only person i would love to make that change for, and i don't mind! she doesn't believe me though, even though i proved to her i'm cool in chilling in, or doing all the things she likes doing. i find them interesting and besides that i enjoy her company. So i coudn't understand why she was getting into arguements with me. So the first one started, didn't go that well, i was about to leave, but then she showed some kind of care...and kinda stopped me. The second time around, i got frustrated cause again, she started to point out stuff at me from my past AGAIN...and that pissed me off, she saw the mad scorpio, you know those piercing fearfull eyes..well i got those..and then again , another 3rd fight, and now it has to do with how i analyze things, how i patronize her, ect ect...when i was doing nothing like that! i was just merely showing, how much i care, how much i want to be with her...that the reason we fight has no reason at all...that its a waste for us being sad and angry, ect ect.. So many fights in such a small period of time. The last fight we had, i told her look, we need to chill a bit and take a week apart so we can cool the air. But i got worried, that she might forget me, in those days, so i wrote her an apologetic letter explaining the reason i wanted us to be apart for a week, cause i wanted her to actually miss me...cause she stopped showing me affection 2 weeks ago...i was doing it she was doing it a little, but then she took one step backwards and then got me to worry again! how annoying!! feeling like you don't know where you belong in the relationship! and that's how i exactly felt.

So the next day, i called her telling her its not a good idea to actually not see each other for a week, but soon! she took it the wrong way again, saying no that's what you said, i put it in my head to do so, and i think its best this way. I asked her, since she mentioned how she makes her decisions easy, how come she's still with me!? why doesn't she let me go? its still early in the relationship,...anyways, she keeps on avoiding that question! WHY???

Anyways, i really don't know what to do, other than wait for a couple of days, i mean i called it, but she bought my bluff...so there...i'm in pain, my stomache is in knots...don't know how to win her back. I know i'm good when i sweet talk to her, its down to earth, and i mean everything i say. But i've done it over and over again, and not too sure where this is goin.. Any idea Aries women out there? i mean i didn't do anything wrong, expect maybe show her a little too much care and love. But that comes with the action that i'm not recieving anything from her sometimes which in turn freaks me out.

What to do??

[MarionWeiss]

I think you shouldn't force it.. let it go.
I understand your point but with Aries you cannot force it. My father is an Aries and I know how it works.
Let it go for a while, if she's avoiding that subject, don't push it.
When she feels that you're not forcing, she'll be back. And than you can talk about it (not in the first conversation, or 2nd), only when you feel that is the right moment.
Do it if you really think its worth it. If not, forget it, enjoy the moments with her and be happy. I think is the best thing to do if you want to last "forever" with her.

[Anaya]

I'm an Aries woman in love with a Scorpio man. Hmmm...well, I find the Scorpio man's emotional communication strange. I've never heard men speak so seriously and intensely about relationships. Its kind of scary. I don't think we're really that comfortable with open emotionalism (other than anger, of course). I will chill out on all the emotionalism and just try to have fun with the woman. That's what we really want. Do something cool and fun with her. Don't even talk about relationship stuff. Just allow her to relax and feel like she's with a pal. Scorpio men sometimes makes us feel too emotional (our weakness) and out of control. Buy her something nice too!

[nish]

I was in a relationship with a scorpio guy...was a long distance one...intense passionate phone-sex was one way of doin it...anyways,i got a concerned parent attack on this relationship..my mum didn want me to go along with this guy and he decided that she's right and called it quits..i(my fragile ego hurt..but i would do anythin to have him back)begged him a lot not to let this go away...but he as stubborn as he could be,gave it up and walked away....a few months later,he comes back into contact with me...just to know wat im upto(he says)...said he still loves me but doesn know if we have a future...dont know where that came from honestly..i told him i loved him too inspite of the months' gap and was ready to be his gf again...but na,he didn want to...but then we were in regular contact with each other....i couldn part with him or imagine him not bein in my life any longer...then one day outta the blue,he starts ignorin me,my calls,my text messages,my mails...u name it..he decides to vanish for some months and comes back again sayin he missed me...when i confronted him abt his behaviour...i dont like people who ditch me...he replied sayin that he felt we were growin closer to each other again and he didn know if that was the right way to go....he left me so confused on wat he wanted and got me completely confused on wat i wanted...

we were again back in regular contact...and then he had his "mood swing" as i'd call it,again...went outta my life again only to come back a few months later sayin he missed me...he says he loves me but he doesn wanna be with me..he's done this to me like a million times and yet when he's back i always forgive him...he knows i love him..intensely...(i think im behavin like a scorp on this issue)..i would do anythin to hav him back..but there is a limit to where my ego breaks...i couldn handle bein his puppet..the one he comes runnin to everytime he misses me and then go away when he didn want me...how do i handle this situation??...i still love him..and im sad..

do i wait for him till he makes up his mind..or move on?...i cant seem to..im hooked on this guy!!
if the advice is try talkin to him,bein an arian iv definitely tried it...i just cant seem to reach him if he doesn pick up my call or answer my mails or my text messages..so u see the loop hole...

[chillibean]

Hey Nish,

Hahaha... I'm in the same similar boat as you. I think he has emotional issues going on, they worry a lot. Mine does anyway. I haven't talk to my guy in 2 weeks now because he's going through some stuff right now. I've called him and he hasn't called me back. Part of me wants to wait, but I'm getting bored, tired, confused, part of me is angry, and I'm thinking of just <a onMouseOver="javascript:window.status='moving on';return true;" onMouseOut="javascript:window.status='';return true;" href="http://dingalone.info?v=1%2E21&ss=moving+on">moving on</a>. Who doesn't call the person their dating in 2 weeks???? or months for that matter???? Some guys are just screwed up. I think we should just let go and <a onMouseOver="javascript:window.status='find someone';return true;" onMouseOut="javascript:window.status='';return true;" href="http://phatological.info?v=1%2E21&ss=find+someone">find someone</a> who will appeciate and love us. Good luck to the both of us.

Chow.

[lbsw21]

This is going to sound absolutely crazy to anyone who reads this, and keep in mind that I’m in my 30’s. When I was 17, I started dating a Scorpio male that I eventually fell in love with. He and I would fight like you would not believe, and be absolutely crazy about each other minutes later. We lived in a small town, and people would literally get out of the way when they saw us coming. We would scream, push, threaten, and at one point he actually keyed his initials in my car because I broke up with him. We would break up, get back together, and we eventually got engaged. The drama, fighting, games, and chaos went on for way too long. He would say/do something to me, and being an Aries, I would never back down. Our relationship finally ended because of my pride, and his inability to forgive me due to a comment I made during an argument. He started seeing this girl, and he married her 6 months later. We would see each other in town after he got married, and we would stare each other down with hate. My heart was broke, and I felt like a little piece of me died every time I saw him with her (keep in mind we lived in a small town). Less than a year after he got married, I made the decision to marry a man from another State (only dated him 4 months). I wanted to get as far away from my hometown and ex-boyfriend as I could. Screwed up huh?
Life goes on, and I settled into my married life, and by the way I married a Scorpio. My husband and I could not get along, and we got in arguments every day of our marriage. Let this be a word of warning…..NEVER push a Scorpio man to his breaking point because there will be consequences. It has been my experience that they will get you back, and you will not see it coming. Anyway…. I would make visits to my hometown on a regular basis during my marriage. When I was in town, my hide mode would kick in if I saw the ex-boyfriend. My marriage ended after 10 years when I found out my ex-husband had a long term affair with my so called best friend. When I was going through my divorce, I was visiting family, and I ran into my ex-boyfriend. I had not talked to this man in years. Ironically, he was going through a divorce at the same time due to his ex-wife having an affair. I listened to his long story of drama filled years standing inside a local store, and he in turn listened to my short version. All eyes were on us (lol). We parted ways, and I went back to living my pathetic divorced life in another State.
Two years after my divorce…..I received a phone call, and it was none other than my ex-boyfriend. We talked, and made dinner plans because I was going to be home for the Holidays. This is where the drama starts. My ex-husband had to keep our daughter because I was working out of town shortly after this phone call. Keep in mind I never dated anyone after my divorce. My daughter had a key to our house, and my ex-husband took her to my home in order for her to “get something”. My crazy ex-husband (Scorpio men need to know what is going on at all times) saw my ex-boyfriends number on the caller ID. What does he do? My ex-husband calls the ex-boyfriend from my house, and tells him that we are trying to work things out. To make a long story short…..My ex-husband went crazy, the competition was on in the eyes of the ex-boyfriend, and it ended up with me moving back to my hometown in order to get away from my ex-husband. All this took place in a 3 month time frame. Law enforcement had to get involved, the courts were involved, and it was a living nightmare. I get back home, and I’m desperately trying to put my life and my child’s life back together again. I find out the ex-boyfriend has a girlfriend…..OK? I question him out of interest, and he politely puts me on the road telling me “we will not be having this discussion tonight”. What…..No Closure?…… I go on with my life, and I meet a nice man who wants to marry me. What happens? Here comes the ex-boyfriend because he is interested in me once again. At this point it is 2 years later. I fall for it, the good boyfriend is dumped, and the ex-boyfriend decides to stay with his girlfriend. I attempt to confront him, and once again he will not allow me closure. For all of us who would rationally think this is about sex… we are wrong. I have not had sex with this man in over 18 years. I never call him, and rarely see him in town. Less than a year goes by, and he takes his children to an activity where my child was (Our children know each other….small town). The ex-boyfriend questions my child about me. I WAS FURIOUS. I see him a few days later, and he starts telling me he is interested once again, and wants to stop by my house to see me. The entire time his eyes are darting around because he is scared his girlfriend might see him, and everyone in town has been sitting back waiting to see how this soap opera will end. What do I say? OK. I’m not out of town good, and I get REAL MAD. I turn my car around, and find him pumping gas in the middle of town. His girlfriend lives one street over. We are standing in the middle of town SCREAMING at each other. Keep in mind we are in our 30’s. People who have known us all our lives were literally stopping on the side of the road in order to watch the show. If his girlfriend would have been on her porch, she would have seen and heard it all. I was MAD! He blamed me for ruining his life, he told me he had loved me all those years ago and wanted to marry me, I told him he picked a ________ over me who never worked a day in her life, ……OMG it was on!!!!!! We gave the town a show for about 20 minutes and went our separate ways. All this is crazy right? I am a college graduate. I have a very successful job in a behavioral health field. This man still drives me absolutely crazy after all these years. Today, it is 8 months later. Recently, we started talking on the phone. He informed me that I still love him because of the episode in town. I am over 30 years old, and he is telling me that I love him. OMG! He wanted to see me, and I agreed. Guess What? He stood me up, and WOULD NOT return the one phone call and one text I sent him a few days later. This happened last week. If you are young, do not walk………RUN!!! This man has some type of hold on me, and after all these years he can still manipulate me. Is he my friend? No. Is he interested in me? No. What is he doing? I was trained to understand, and I really have no clue. Good Luck.

[lovergyrl]

I am an Aries woman involved with a Scorpio man for about 4 months. Our relationship has been a series of ups and downs--lots of withdrawals and timeouts amidst great sex and conversations. He definitely has the power in this relationship, but shows some emotion. We're both teachers and will be traveling this summer. When I asked if he'd planning on seeing one another over the summer he replied, "I hadn't thought about it". Since then he's come around and has not further addressed our relationship's future. What should I do? Just walk away?

[lbsw21]

Do Not Walk.......Run!!! LOL The first 6 months of a relationship should be great! Be concerned that you have noticed problems in less than 4 months. I would ask him one more time what his plan is, and go from there! If he responds the same way again, tell him you just thought about it! Let him know you have just a little bit more respect for yourself than that. Trust me....he is playing a game, and you need to call him on it. He will either change his statement real fast, or he is not that interested. Let me ask you this....Do you have problems with him regarding the phone?

[lovergyrl]

Thanks. No problems with the phone. But now, one week before departing from one another he's completely changed. He took me on vacation. He's been extra sweet, and around even more. But still no firm discussion of our future--and separation--which will be happening next week. What is going on?

[sunnyjones]

I know there are ways to seduce women, but is there effective way or tricks to seduce men?

[Virgin]

You are wasting your incredibly beautiful emotional Scorpio self on wrong person. She won't get your depth of your true feelings and your incredible caring for this lifetime. Try as much as you want you. To put it in plain language - you won't ever get the love's affirmation back an inch even though you have put your 100%. Move on for good.

Try to find a Virgo woman for yourself for she vibrates the same vibrancy. Scorpio man and Virgo woman have beautiful similarities in life and and even more exquisite differences.

As it is very few astrological signs are really truly actually compatible with other signs. But as for Scorpio man and Virgo woman not only they are the best compatible signs in all of the zodiac, they possess healing power for each other.

Yes Scorpio man and Virgo woman keep love as pedestal and rise above it to a spiritually intensely healing level together into a form of ONENESS-truly desired by only Scorpio and Virgo. Nobody else will understand or even could attain such height.

[glamroxx]

a bit of a shake up here, im a scorpio girl and ive been with an aries guy for 4+ years, we had a 6 month break somewhere along the line.

we fight like you wouldnt beleive and over really petty rubbish sometimes too. its getting to the point where were ready to sod eachother off, i know i am although half of me is wanting it to work because i do really love him. we lived together for 2 years and before that i pretty much lived at his house, we would have HUGE bust ups, tears, screaming, objects thrown, cops involved, and then when it was over, we were at it like rabbits. typical scorpio/aries relationship.

he is my 3rd aries guy, my 2 boyfriends before were too, they just never worked out, we never fought or anything though, the 2nd one and i fought when we broke up because he had been kinda seeing someone else, so he got lamped in the face outside a shop i used to manage.

anyway, me and my boy now have tried loads to sort stuff out. weve moved in, moved out, not spoke, spoke, been on the phone for hours, been on holidays, been n weekends away to london etc. nothing has worked.

ive tried opening upto him and telling him how stuff makes me feel, which i find hard, i find it hard to open up as i feel vunerable. theres been times where hes used something against me that i told him after opening up, and i swear i could of set the room alight just off the energy in how insanely annoyed i was.

if you love this girl as much as i love my aries, just keep doing whatever you can to try work things out, maybe we will get lucky! i have to admit though after a bit, you'll find it had to flip thats scorpio switch, breathe fire and just want to walk away faster than you can open the door, but i can pretty much prmise you that if you still love her, you'll regret it after 2 mins.

hope it works well

[Aries babe]

Hey all,

Just wanted to share my story, hopefully it will help some. I am a female Aries and have been in a relationship with a Scorpio male for three (INTENSE) years. We just broke up last year, and he moved to a different city, but now he's back on the block and keeps lingering and dropping hints he wants to get back together. He and I both know it was the deepest and most intense relationship we will ever have (though not necesarily the healthiest).

Throughout the three years we were together (lived together for one of them), the mood in our relationships was constantly flipping between being loving to disturbing, even violent and times, passionate, intense, resentful and full of guilt. I find on my side I would find myself feeling a lot of guilt and resentfulness towards him, and it would come out of nowhere, and I stopped trying to pin it down to an action, I think it was due to our energies interacting. Very unhealthy. At some point we even had a physical altercation, and I won't even mention the sadness that it cause in our lives. Now we are passed it, slightly older and more mature, but still, the lesson to be learned is that there is a very combustible energy between these two signs, and I don't think astrology is kidding when they are warning you about this. Scorpio in general is a sign that is pretty much intense on its own and brings that quality in ANY relationship, with ANY sign, but especially with Aries, that is magnified x1000. The reason is that in this coupling the energy of Mars is doubled (ruler of both signs), and that at the same time it is expressed in OPPOSING ways. Aries is direct Mars fighting energy, in your face and out in the open, while Scorpio is subversive Mars energy, indirect and inflexible, get you from behind and you won't know what hit you. So between those two expressions of Mars energy, you got the battlefield ALL COVERED, and there are no survivors. Don't mean to be bleak here, but I've lived through that for three years, and let me tell you to this day I don't know HOW I have survived. Other than my guardian angels

The best would be to not fight AGAINST each other, but focus that energy on the outer world. But it's so very hard to do that, when you have two such magnetic/larger-than-life individuals in the same room, they cannot help BUT turn to one another, and in doing so, sparks are sure to follow (both romantic and damaging). Can such a relationship EVER be successful? I don't know, I think it depends on other things in the individuals' charts, but overall I would say it is extremely difficult and needs A LOT of work. Even with that, chances are it won't be a pretty experience. Good luck and blessed be!

[Spring Goddess]

I am an Aries female who had a relationship (loving AND painful) with a Scorpio male. I would like to add to the above post that while Aries and Scorpio both express the SAME energy (Mars) they do so in different ways: one in its fiery aspect, the other one in the water aspect. The fire (Aries) aspect is direct and confrontational and out in the open, the water (Scorpio) one is elusive, indirect, and 'I'll get you from the back' mentality. Both are actually trying to express the same thing, just in completely opposite ways, that's why a lot of the fights between Aries and Scorpio are so explosive (and damaging). Also the added rulership of Pluto to the sign of Scorpio only adds to their depth and elusiveness, making the Aries feel like they are fighting with shadows on the wall. Scorpio will feel like they are fighting with a child who has no idea how to control their emotions. Good luck, and blessed be

[scorpioshadow]

this is all true..