by Morpheus317 on Fri Aug 29, 2008 3:03 am
First of all, speaking as someone who is polyamorous, there are a lot of people who have answered here and not taken the time to consider some very important things.
-Not all people base their rules on the Bible, which, by the way, has plenty of examples of multiple person marriages.
-People seem to think that the only reason to get married is to ensure sexual fidelity. There are plenty of reasons otherwise: companionship, long term commitment, raising a family, economics, intellectual compatibility, etc. If you are marrying just for sex.....(perhaps that explains the rates of divorce)
-Cheating is word used for deception. There is no deception in an open, but committed relationship.
-Many people have talked about "the children" when in fact, there are lots of children raised in polyamorous situations who do just fine. In fact, the children have MORE loving, involved adults to care for them and to be examples.
-Many people consider polyamory to be akin to being gay or bisexual, etc. Some of us (myself included) have little to no jealousy capabilities (perhaps envy, but not jealousy). We don't ask people to NOT be monogamous, but there appear to be plenty of people out there that expect us to do AS WE ARE TOLD and that think they have the right to make decisions for us. Sorry, but freedom means a lot to me, I don't give up my right to makes personal choices so easily.
I suggest, if you want to learn more, you look up the word "polyamory" on Wikipedia and perhaps read the book "The Myth of Monogamy" which shows that in the animal world, monogamy doesn't really exist.
