' Sex Mad ' ?

[x KINKY x]

hey guys [ and girls ] was wondering if u cud help me out here....

im currently seeing this guy whos 35 who happens to be the builder who has done work recently in my house - i think he;s great but he has quite a long past

he told me that he has had many affairs with different clients and with the ppl he has worked with and that im not '' his 1st ''

he also said that he went to see a councellor and they come up with the conclusion that he is ' sex mad ' but he doesnt think he is...

i really like him but he is cheatin on his current ' girlf ' who he calls his '' lodger '' on me and im rly angry about this and i dont feel happy at all

i jst wanted ppls opinions on whether u aswell me think that he only wants 1 thing

[Guest]

Would you prefer if he lusted for your car?

Lust is a start to a relationship. A start anyway and who knows if you will want anything else from him once you get to know him? It sounds like he's being honest with you. You should maybe return the favor. Tell him what you want.

[x KINKY x]

thnx for replying...

yeah i appreciate his honesty...i mean he could make me feel special and keep all these afairs to himself which wud make the situation worse.

he is seeing some 1 right now tho and hes cheating on her with me

i rly dno what 2 think of him.... and i rly like him 2

[Guest]

Cheating isn't very nice and it's not a trait I go looking for in a partner. It's human though. You'll have to decide yourself, after getting to know him for a long time, whether his good points outweigh his bad points. It's possible he won't cheat again. It's just as likely, or more likely, that you'll wonder if he's cheating on you too, for the rest of the time you spend together.

It's probably a good idea to tell him to stop cheating now, before you get too deeply involved.

[Guest]

hey guys [ and girls ] was wondering if u cud help me out here....

im currently seeing this guy whos 35 who happens to be the builder who has done work recently in my house - i think he;s great but he has quite a long past

he told me that he has had many affairs with different clients and with the ppl he has worked with and that im not '' his 1st ''

he also said that he went to see a councellor and they come up with the conclusion that he is ' sex mad ' but he doesnt think he is...

i love him 2 bits but he is cheatin on his current ' girlf ' who he calls his '' lodger '' on me and im rly angry about this and i dont feel happy at all

i jst wanted ppls opinions on whether u aswell me think that he only wants 1 thing [/quote uve been watching to many films..

[forum member]

if you want more than just sex from him then i think at the moment your on a losing battle

personaly i think he's taking you for a ride and will give you any excuse as to not end things with his lodger

[Guest]

i love him 2 bits but he is cheatin on his current ' girlf ' who he calls his '' lodger '' on me and im rly angry about this and i dont feel happy at all

You have no right to be mad.I hope his girlfriend finds out.She has a right to be mad.

[x KINKY x]

thanks for all the sensible posts made

regarding ' forum members ' post.... i think ur right . i would like it to be more than just sex and i havent even had sex with him yet [ we've jst done stuff... ] but hes always hintin that he wants 2 sleep with me

also regarding the ' guests ' post [ the last guest ' ] i actually do want her to find out so she will realise that he isnt happy with her

he made the 1st move on me so its not like im makin him cheat on her with me !!

[Noliving]

I actually do believe that he is "sex mad". There is a condition where people become addicted to sex and as such they will have affairs all over the place just to please this addiction. His therapist is probably right and you should convince him to get treatment. Although you shouldn't be mad at the girlfriend. In fact you should expose this affair to the girlfriend so she can move on in her life and not be stuck with this loser.

[forum member]

if you tell his gf and you two end up together would you trust him knowing he went behind his last gf's back to see you, especially since you said he made all the moves

[x KINKY x]

thanks no living for ur post , ok im angry with her for being with him but i guess thats jealousy for you....i said to him i cant bare to think about us doing stuff and then him seein her and them doing exactly the same 2 gether.... i do feel soz for her in a way cos at the end of the day he is cheatin on her with me and well.... im sure she knows what he is like , theyve been toegther for a year aswell which majes it kinda bad -

if you tell his gf and you two end up together would you trust him knowing he went behind his last gf's back to see you, especially since you said he made all the moves

thats a very good question , i dont think id have the heart to tell her about it cos 1 she will prob jst laugh in my face and jst think ' ye right what ever ' or on the other hand she could totally beat the carp into me when its not exacrly ALL my faughlt..... ok yeah i am 2 blame but at the end of the day he did come on 2 me etc and i only found out they were seein eachother AFTER we;d done stuff which made me feel worse

i hate 2 say this but i rly dont think i cud trust him... i mean , if he is ' sex mad ' which i think he is...whats stoppin him doin stuff with the person hes doin work with now i cant bare 2 think of him like tha... and seeing as he proudly said that i '' wasnt the 1st client he'd done stuff with ' really made me think about what kinda situation i put myself in.....

he's screwin my head up already and we've only been seein eachother since the 17th of this month

[forum member]

hey im sex mad too, but when im in a relationship i take it out only on the one person, when im single then thats another story

his problem is more with the commitment, so it depends on what you want from him, from the sounds of it doesn't look like you want it casual

im not gonna say you're innocent in this cos you're not but it does seem like he did dupe you into the position you're in now

for your own sanity i'd say for now at least you should let this one go, his gf doesn''t deserve it either

[k9trainingbiz]

You've been together a week and a half and you "love him to death?" It's not even a relationship, sexual or otherwise. If you are that thick to wonder all the what if's and what about "us" and his "cheating", you deserve him. Get a life!

[x KINKY x]

You've been together a week and a half and you "love him to death?" It's not even a relationship, sexual or otherwise. If you are that thick to wonder all the what if's and what about "us" and his "cheating", you deserve him. Get a life!

excuse me , but where exactly did i say this ?

i think you'll find NOWHERE !

i said i really '' like '' him....why do people always have to blow everything out of context ! *shakes head*

thanks again f/m for ur post

[k9trainingbiz]

I'm sorry, you said you "love him 2 bits". The rest applies.