Should I have my daughter's ears pierced ?

[katyshaw]

Wrong - I am a real person who is nothing to do with the person posting as Julie H - and everything I have written about my daughters, Emma and Anna is entirely true. I won't bother writing again.

[The Colonel]

I started this thread and forgot to report that I did have Emma's ears pierced at four months after all. There were no problems and she looks so sweet wearing the little gold studs that I am really pleased I made this decision for her. I am expecting my second child in September and if I have another daughter she will definitely have her ears pierced while still a baby too. I am sorry that not everyone agrees with the decision of moms like me to start our girls off with earrings at a young age but I thoroughly recommend it on the basis of my experience.

Just to let you know that I did have another daughter ( Anna) - born on Setember 11th. Yesterday my partner and I took her to have her ears pierced and she looks so sweet wearing her little gold studs. She hardly cried at all - it was so quick and easy. Her older sister, Emma, still wears earrings all the time. As a parent of two little girls I think it is good idea piercing girls' ears when they are babies - so much easier to do it now rather than wait until they are older and likely to fiddle with them more - and they really do look lovely.

OH LOOK, JULIE H IS BACK UNDER ANOTHER STUPID USER NAME...AS IF ANYONE BELIEVES THESE STUPID STORYS...ALEX170170 WE KNOW THIS IS YOU.

I was rather upset to read that someone thinks I have made up the posts on this board - I really am a real person ! I am 25 years old with two daughters, Emmma born on 15th March 2005 and Anna born on 11th September, 2007. No Alex, I would not consider having either of my daughter's ears double pierced when they are young. That is a decision each of them can make when they are older if they want to.

When did ALEX ask that?

It was a guest that asked that.

Now why would you think it was Alex? That is puzzling.

Maybe because you wrote the guest post and the above?

I was prepared to give you the benefit of the doubt until I saw that.

If you are who you say KatyShaw - why can't you answer the above?

[Guest]

I started this thread and forgot to report that I did have Emma's ears pierced at four months after all. There were no problems and she looks so sweet wearing the little gold studs that I am really pleased I made this decision for her. I am expecting my second child in September and if I have another daughter she will definitely have her ears pierced while still a baby too. I am sorry that not everyone agrees with the decision of moms like me to start our girls off with earrings at a young age but I thoroughly recommend it on the basis of my experience.

Just to let you know that I did have another daughter ( Anna) - born on Setember 11th. Yesterday my partner and I took her to have her ears pierced and she looks so sweet wearing her little gold studs. She hardly cried at all - it was so quick and easy. Her older sister, Emma, still wears earrings all the time. As a parent of two little girls I think it is good idea piercing girls' ears when they are babies - so much easier to do it now rather than wait until they are older and likely to fiddle with them more - and they really do look lovely.

OH LOOK, JULIE H IS BACK UNDER ANOTHER STUPID USER NAME...AS IF ANYONE BELIEVES THESE STUPID STORYS...ALEX170170 WE KNOW THIS IS YOU.

I was rather upset to read that someone thinks I have made up the posts on this board - I really am a real person ! I am 25 years old with two daughters, Emmma born on 15th March 2005 and Anna born on 11th September, 2007. No Alex, I would not consider having either of my daughter's ears double pierced when they are young. That is a decision each of them can make when they are older if they want to.

When did ALEX ask that?

It was a guest that asked that.

Now why would you think it was Alex? That is puzzling.

Maybe because you wrote the guest post and the above?

I was prepared to give you the benefit of the doubt until I saw that.

If you are who you say KatyShaw - why can't you answer the above?

julie h and alex170170 is the same person, along with katyshaw...katy shaw claims shes not going to post again, but we all know she / he will make up a new user name with more dumb stories that are getting really easy to pick up after a few reads...

[The Colonel]

I started this thread and forgot to report that I did have Emma's ears pierced at four months after all. There were no problems and she looks so sweet wearing the little gold studs that I am really pleased I made this decision for her. I am expecting my second child in September and if I have another daughter she will definitely have her ears pierced while still a baby too. I am sorry that not everyone agrees with the decision of moms like me to start our girls off with earrings at a young age but I thoroughly recommend it on the basis of my experience.

Just to let you know that I did have another daughter ( Anna) - born on Setember 11th. Yesterday my partner and I took her to have her ears pierced and she looks so sweet wearing her little gold studs. She hardly cried at all - it was so quick and easy. Her older sister, Emma, still wears earrings all the time. As a parent of two little girls I think it is good idea piercing girls' ears when they are babies - so much easier to do it now rather than wait until they are older and likely to fiddle with them more - and they really do look lovely.

OH LOOK, JULIE H IS BACK UNDER ANOTHER STUPID USER NAME...AS IF ANYONE BELIEVES THESE STUPID STORYS...ALEX170170 WE KNOW THIS IS YOU.

I was rather upset to read that someone thinks I have made up the posts on this board - I really am a real person ! I am 25 years old with two daughters, Emmma born on 15th March 2005 and Anna born on 11th September, 2007. No Alex, I would not consider having either of my daughter's ears double pierced when they are young. That is a decision each of them can make when they are older if they want to.

When did ALEX ask that?

It was a guest that asked that.

Now why would you think it was Alex? That is puzzling.

Maybe because you wrote the guest post and the above?

I was prepared to give you the benefit of the doubt until I saw that.

If you are who you say KatyShaw - why can't you answer the above?

julie h and alex170170 is the same person, along with katyshaw...katy shaw claims shes not going to post again, but we all know she / he will make up a new user name with more dumb stories that are getting really easy to pick up after a few reads...

So very true.

[HRHCeCethePorkyPrincess!]

IMO you may as well tattoo (a la 'Shameless') your baby too whilst your at it..pieced ears on babies look awful.

Call me what you like but it looks CHEAP and NASTY and is of no purpose other than to adorn the child with probably equally nasty jewellry (that the kid could well pull out/yank!).

Let your mate pierce her kid but I would leave my BABY in the state she should be left..

[Jenna3]

If Mom has pierced ears then daughter will want pierced ears at some point because most little girls want to be just like Mommy. I pierced my daughters ears at age three (same age that my mother pierced my ears) then again at age five because she "wanted more earrings like Mommy" (my ears were double pierced at the time). Since then at age sixteen I pierced her ears a third time (again at her request) and she gave me my third lobe piercings. For most little girls it is not a question of "should I" but a question of "when".

[HRHCeCethePorkyPrincess!]

If Mom has pierced ears then daughter will want pierced ears at some point because most little girls want to be just like Mommy. I pierced my daughters ears at age three (same age that my mother pierced my ears) then again at age five because she "wanted more earrings like Mommy" (my ears were double pierced at the time). Since then at age sixteen I pierced her ears a third time (again at her request) and she gave me my third lobe piercings. For most little girls it is not a question of "should I" but a question of "when".

...will you be encouraging your daughter to drink like her Mommy, smoke like her Mommy perhaps partake in drugs like her Mommy..infact does it work nowadays because Mommy has it the kid will too?

Fecksake..when did parents STOP parenting?

[Karen-3]

Jenna is right that sooner or later most little girls will want to have their ears pierced. I decided to have my daugher's ears pierced before she started school, so we pierced them when she was three years old to give her plenty of time to get used to wearing them. When she was eight she asked to have them double pierced and I said "Yes."

But in response to Porky Princess, piercing my daughter's ears is not like encouraging her to drink or smoke. I drive my car most every day, but I have no intention of allowing my daughter behind the wheel until she is old enough to get her learner's permit. I enjoy an occasional drink, but will not allow my daugher to drink until she is 21. In the meantime, I intend to educate her on the concerns and problems of excessive drinking. I do not smoke and have already started educating my daughter on the hazards of smoking. You are certainly entitled to deicde when you will allow your daughter to have her ears pierced, but others have the same right to make the decisions concerning their daughters. Jenna and I each decided three years old was the right time to pierce our daughters' ears. I do not have any regrets about my decision and I think Jenna does not have any regrets about her decision.

[The Colonel]

If Mom has pierced ears then daughter will want pierced ears at some point because most little girls want to be just like Mommy. I pierced my daughters ears at age three (same age that my mother pierced my ears) then again at age five because she "wanted more earrings like Mommy" (my ears were double pierced at the time). Since then at age sixteen I pierced her ears a third time (again at her request) and she gave me my third lobe piercings. For most little girls it is not a question of "should I" but a question of "when".

That is not true.

My son eldest sons have a pierced ear - but I do not.

[The Colonel]

If Mom has pierced ears then daughter will want pierced ears at some point because most little girls want to be just like Mommy. I pierced my daughters ears at age three (same age that my mother pierced my ears) then again at age five because she "wanted more earrings like Mommy" (my ears were double pierced at the time). Since then at age sixteen I pierced her ears a third time (again at her request) and she gave me my third lobe piercings. For most little girls it is not a question of "should I" but a question of "when".

That is not true.

My son eldest sons have a pierced ear - but I do not.

Sorry for the typo.

[uri]

Colonel, I think you're wrong - there's a difference between boys and girls piercing ears. for boys it's a fashion, for girls it's the norm. Most moms have it - most dads don't. so it's not just the individual mother. And there's age too - a girl of three is like to want to look like mom, a girl or boy of 13 is more likely to want something different - belly button might be the choice.

But it doesn't matter why a girl (or boy) of three wants her/his ears pierced - the point is would you allow it. I wouldn't (but my ex didn't ask me back then). Not that's such a big deal. I'm Jewish after all, what we Jews do to week-old baby boys is much more comlex, dangerous, in a more sensitive place - and much more painful.

[The Colonel]

Colonel, I think you're wrong - there's a difference between boys and girls piercing ears. for boys it's a fashion, for girls it's the norm. Most moms have it - most dads don't. so it's not just the individual mother. And there's age too - a girl of three is like to want to look like mom, a girl or boy of 13 is more likely to want something different - belly button might be the choice.

But it doesn't matter why a girl (or boy) of three wants her/his ears pierced - the point is would you allow it. I wouldn't (but my ex didn't ask me back then). Not that's such a big deal. I'm Jewish after all, what we Jews do to week-old baby boys is much more comlex, dangerous, in a more sensitive place - and much more painful.

Fair point, but I still maintain that it should be an individuals choice. It is likely girls will want it done, plus quite a number of boys, but I still believe it is better for them to wait. (Essentially to give consent).

I adopt the same argument to circumcision as you mention. No disrespect, but I believe it is a horrible thing to do to a young boy with out his consent, and in terms of religion, he can't decide that either. My eldest had to be circumcised for medical reasons when he was 15 and so I understand the pain and discomfort he was in. He consented to the operation and it was necessary, but I could never do such to a newborn or infant.

I realise they differ in seriousness, but my point is consent should always be given. If the parent doesn't have it, they are inflicting what they want upon their child. Consequently, one must ask "Is it neccessary?".

Therefore, do you think either ear piercing or circumcision are necessary without consent?

There is probably no right or wrong answer, just opinion. What do you think in answer to the above?

[Polgara69]

Colonel, I think you're wrong - there's a difference between boys and girls piercing ears. for boys it's a fashion, for girls it's the norm. Most moms have it - most dads don't. so it's not just the individual mother. And there's age too - a girl of three is like to want to look like mom, a girl or boy of 13 is more likely to want something different - belly button might be the choice.
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I disagree here. I had my ears peirced when I was 7 and had a quite a few problems. Possibly cos I didnt look after them properly. Cant remember cos it was a long time ago! But I stopped wearing them when I was about 21. Daughter never saw me wearing them but she had hers done when she was 9. (I didnt want her to, her Dad took her. He wanted to from when she was a baby but I wouldnt let him). She wore them for about 3 months and then took them out and never wore them again. My stepdaughter has just about everything peirced you can imagine! (She is 20 now!) But she didnt get a taste for it from me!
I agree with whoever said in the first page of this thread (sorry cant remember!) who said kids wearing jewellery look like pikey kids. They do. I see them a lot where I live (council estate) little girls with scraped back hair (which has to hurt and give them a headache by the end of the day) and covered in jewellery. Its more of a fashion statement for their chav mothers than anything else. Ooh look how much stolen jewellery my child has! Urgh.
I know I am gonna get some backlash for that one but in a lot of cases it is true. When your daughter can answer the question, " Do you want your ears peirced?" then you can discuss it with her.

[HRHCeCethePorkyPrincess!]

Colonel, I think you're wrong - there's a difference between boys and girls piercing ears. for boys it's a fashion, for girls it's the norm. Most moms have it - most dads don't. so it's not just the individual mother. And there's age too - a girl of three is like to want to look like mom, a girl or boy of 13 is more likely to want something different - belly button might be the choice.
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I disagree here. I had my ears peirced when I was 7 and had a quite a few problems. Possibly cos I didnt look after them properly. Cant remember cos it was a long time ago! But I stopped wearing them when I was about 21. Daughter never saw me wearing them but she had hers done when she was 9. (I didnt want her to, her Dad took her. He wanted to from when she was a baby but I wouldnt let him). She wore them for about 3 months and then took them out and never wore them again. My stepdaughter has just about everything peirced you can imagine! (She is 20 now!) But she didnt get a taste for it from me!
I agree with whoever said in the first page of this thread (sorry cant remember!) who said kids wearing jewellery look like pikey kids. They do. I see them a lot where I live (council estate) little girls with scraped back hair (which has to hurt and give them a headache by the end of the day) and covered in jewellery. Its more of a fashion statement for their chav mothers than anything else. Ooh look how much stolen jewellery my child has! Urgh.
I know I am gonna get some backlash for that one but in a lot of cases it is true. When your daughter can answer the question, " Do you want your ears peirced?" then you can discuss it with her.

Completely agree!

[::Mitzi::]

Simple rules of parenting:

If it's a girl pierce her ears, if it's a boy circumcise him.

Both are great gifts.