Should I wear a skirt to please my boyfriend?

[Tuney]

I think it's very shallow judging someone on how they look or dress. Femmininity is more than a look (even blokes can look feminine in a skirt or dress). However it is typical of the current trend where appearance is deemed to mean suitability and don't worry about content. First impressions are based on appearance but initial judgements need far more qualification to be meaningful. Is one partner demanding that the other follow their rules not akin to bullying?

[sheer_black]

Hi

I think you should dress how YOU wish to, and what YOU feel happy and comfortable in.
Somewhat a bit of a cheek imo, 'suggesting' how you should dress.
Perhaps if HE would like to wear what he is wanting to see, then you can likewise make comments on how he looks.

x

[Guest]

Hi

I think you should dress how YOU wish to, and what YOU feel happy and comfortable in.
Somewhat a bit of a cheek imo, 'suggesting' how you should dress.
Perhaps if HE would like to wear what he is wanting to see, then you can likewise make comments on how he looks.

Cheers
Paul

Maybe after 'n' million posts on this thread you're finally getting near the obvious truth; which is... successful relationships are based upon mutual love and respect. This means that both partners should have the space to dress how they individually wish most of the time, but that occasionally, even if only on special occasions, you should dress to please your partner.

Dictating to your partner how to dress day in day out is certainly bullying and unjustifiable. At the other extreme, insiting that what you wear is always your choice and yours alone is both insensitive and arrogant. Commonsense, innit?

[Guest]

I am really bored with my 'can't be bothered' wardrobe and always wearing jeans.

My boyfriend loves me to look girly and always compliments me when I wear a skirt or dress.

He likes it and it makes me feel good so I've decided to wear loads more skirts this year.

[Guest]

I’m a fairly typical wife (and mum) but my husband is very opinionated on how he likes women to dress. He takes a big interest in what I wear and is very insistent that I always wear clothes which he regards as feminine and not too revealing. Partly to please him I started wearing skirts most of the time when we were going out and since we got married I wear one every day. It’s not a problem I’m used to it and generally like what I wear. Skirts are also perfectly practical and comfortable as long as you wear the right things for what you’re doing.

It’s always important for both partners to try and please each other and I think how you dress is a very easy and obvious way of pleasing a man.

Women have always looked different from men and worn different clothes and it seems to me that this has now been replaced especially for teenagers by competing for attention by just showing more flesh, which can’t be such a great idea. I hope I’m not a prude and obviously what you do in private is another thing but personally I’m pleased that my husband prefers a bit of old fashioned modesty in public. I think women would get a lot more respect from men if they didn’t always assume that “less is more”.

So yes “wear a skirt to please your boyfriend” if it makes you both happy !

[Guest]

Read this with interest as I had a boyfriend very like the girl who started it. He baggered me endlessly to wear a skirt every time we went out and in the end bullied me to change from a typical “tomboy” not much interested in my appearance and really quite masculine into being wearing mostly skirts and conforming to his idea of ladylike behaviour.

I’m not with him anymore and when we split up I had wore nothing but jeans for a month ! But after a while I realised that I preferred my new self and looking and feeling more feminine and I particularly like the change in the way men treat me. So now I almost always wear a skirt / dress and the new man loves it ! Interested to know how “Mixed Up” and one or two others are getting on.

[fawcett 1]

Hi,

I've been reading these posts and some interesting and valid points have been made.I applaud all the girls here who have committed to wearing skirts and some even stockings and a slip. My Husband wants me to dress like that all the time and some days I really can't be bothered. The other problem is most of my skirts are lined so how can you wear a slip under a lined skirt girls? I tell my husband that if the skirt is lined then I don't have to wear a slip but he thinks that wearing a lace trimmed slip is part of being feminine.I have experimented with stockings rather than tights/hose and once you get used to them they are ok. My Husband certainly likes me in stockings and part of it is pleasing your man is'nt it.
I must admit that men in general treat me differently if I am wearing a skirt and high heels rather than trousers.You also walk and sit differently in a more "ladylike" way.
I'm sure that if more younger girls/teenagers tried wearing a skirt more often the "ladette" culture would change.

[Deprived Guest]

I really have 2 b honest here...a bf who is pressuring u 2 wear a skirt?? Im a feminist, he dont like the pants?? then he can go F*** himself. Seriously. Ladies. The 20th century is over. Women CAN wear pants. and any1 who DOESNT like it can go pout in a little corner. But im gona admit the only time i ever wear a skirt is wen i c my bf. it is by far WAY easier access 4 him (plus no undies of course, depending how long the skirt). If ur bf wants u 2 so he can have easier access, ok. But if hes pressuring u 2 change who ur, to change wut u love, and 2 change ur personality, I say NEIGH! i mean...NAY!!! im lucky my bf doesnt give a crap wut i wear. i only wear the skirt 4 sexual purposes. If this is ur bfs intentions and if U R OK w/ IT, then just wear the damn skirt. But if he wants u 2 wear 1 just so he can stare@ur ass all day wen ur NOT doing sexual things...NAY!!!!!!!!!

[Latest Movie]

My wife wears what she wants, however she likes to look feminine and so usually chooses skirts and dresses.

When I met her she dressed modestly and I encouraged her to wear lower tops to show a bit of cleavage. At one point she went a bit over 'the top' such that, when viewed from the right position her nipples were on show. As much as it turned me on to see other guys ogling, I asked her about it. Her reply was that she thought it was what I wanted.

Nowadays, she chooses to dress showing a modest amount of cleavage.

My point being that she was choosing to please me. Now I hope she cohooses to please us both.

Incidently, when we go out, I invariably ask: "When am I wearing tonight?"

[Guest]

Hi,

I've been reading these posts and some interesting and valid points have been made.I applaud all the girls here who have committed to wearing skirts and some even <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_52' target='_blank'>stockings</A> and a slip. My Husband wants me to dress like that all the time and some days I really can't be bothered. The other problem is most of my skirts are lined so how can you wear a slip under a lined skirt girls? I tell my husband that if the skirt is lined then I don't have to wear a slip but he thinks that wearing a lace trimmed slip is part of being feminine.I have experimented with <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_52' target='_blank'>stockings</A> rather than <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_52' target='_blank'>tights</A>/<A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_52' target='_blank'>hose</A> and once you get used to them they are ok. My Husband certainly likes me in <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_52' target='_blank'>stockings</A> and part of it is pleasing your man is'nt it.
I must admit that men in general treat me differently if I am wearing a skirt and high heels rather than trousers.You also walk and sit differently in a more "ladylike" way.
I'm sure that if more younger girls/teenagers tried wearing a skirt more often the "ladette" culture would change.

Quick note, just seen your post. I got into a quite a log dialog with the girl who started this on the theme of how we are not really androgynous tomboys its just that we have become lazy and forgotten how to be and enjoy being feminine. As part of which we wear nothing but jeans with black trousers for work and have gradually become more masculine in our outlook and behaviour.
Long story but as a result of thinking about it I decided independently (no husband or boyfriend involved) to try to be conciously more feminine and to wear elegant and reasonably modest skirts and dresses, underwear etc. It kind of snowballed and much to my surprise I have really enjoyed the experience. Since New Year I have not worn trousers once (long skirt and warm tights, boots for the snow today) and I feel very comfortable although it did take a while to overcome the habit of sitting / walking like a man. I agree 100% that if more younger girls/teenagers were encouraged to wear a skirt more often and just be proud of being girls not "one of the blokes" the "ladette" culture would change and what’s more I think men would be much more respectful and I think most (not all - each to her own) women would feel better about themselves. Also if you are in a relationship, it seems a pretty easy way to please (most) men ! - S

[scratcher]

I really have 2 b honest here...a bf who is pressuring u 2 wear a skirt?? Im a feminist, he dont like the pants?? then he can go F*** himself. Seriously. Ladies. The 20th century is over. Women CAN wear pants. and any1 who DOESNT like it can go pout in a little corner. But im gona admit the only time i ever wear a skirt is wen i c my bf. it is by far WAY easier access 4 him (plus no undies of course, depending how long the skirt). If ur bf wants u 2 so he can have easier access, ok. But if hes pressuring u 2 change who ur, to change wut u love, and 2 change ur personality, I say NEIGH! i mean...NAY!!! im lucky my bf doesnt give a crap wut i wear. i only wear the skirt 4 sexual purposes. If this is ur bfs intentions and if U R OK w/ IT, then just wear the damn skirt. But if he wants u 2 wear 1 just so he can stare@ur ass all day wen ur NOT doing sexual things...NAY!!!!!!!!!

Fair enough, feminist, each to their own; but is your bf illiterate as well as you?

[Mixed_up_Miss]

Read this with interest as I had a boyfriend very like the girl who started it. He baggered me endlessly to wear a skirt every time we went out and in the end bullied me to change from a typical “tomboy” not much interested in my appearance and really quite masculine into being wearing mostly skirts and conforming to his idea of ladylike behaviour.

I’m not with him anymore and when we split up I had wore nothing but jeans for a month ! But after a while I realised that I preferred my new self and looking and feeling more feminine and I particularly like the change in the way men treat me. So now I almost always wear a skirt / dress and the new man loves it ! Interested to know how “Mixed Up” and one or two others are getting on.

Sorry I’ve not been in touch. My life has no settled down after a period of flux and I’m now reasonably confident about my long-term future.

There is no immediate prospect of marriage but my boyfriend now accepts me as a fixture in his house! He wants me to concentrate on housework so he told me not to look for another job, even part-time. I thought he’d give me an allowance but he prefers me to ask him whenever I need anything. He is ever so generous in buying me stuff but it does kind of emphasise my dependence.

He is the sort of man who puts a girl on a pedestal and I must say that he treats me like a princess! He took me to a heavenly 5 star resort in the Seychelles for a surprise Christmas holiday and gave me an awesome diamond bracelet on the day itself!! He is fiercely protective of me in public: he doesn’t like me going anywhere on my own any more and God help any man who fails to treat me with complete respect! I’m learning to be quite ladylike – knees together, ankles crossed and legs to the side, and no more drinking, smoking or swearing!

I get to do all the cleaning and washing and ironing of course which my mum says is a waste of an expensive university education, but I can’t complain – it leaves plenty of time for trips to the beautician, window shopping and gossipy daytime TV!

As one of the girls warned me he has become very, very controlling in the bedroom. He requires me to be submissive and essentially passive, compliant but not eager, and modest to the point of timidity. He expects me to put my nightie on before I remove my bra and panties and to keep it on during lovemaking. He likes me to show ladylike embarrassment if he asks to see me naked. He recently told me to stop using contraception l and although I’m nervous I understand his reasoning: a girl on the pill might be tempted to fool around, but a girl at risk of pregnancy has a big incentive to stay faithful to her man. He isn’t much interested in female sexuality and I can’t exactly say “no” but he is considerate about my comfort and it is fun most of the time!

Skirts are my only real bugbear. I really, really thought that by now, if I wore pretty dresses when he took me out, then he’d allow me to wear jeans and trousers during the day, in fact I was counting on it. To my discomfort he remains adamant in keeping me in skirts, dresses and nylon 24x7. He says that wearing skirts predisposes me to a traditional relationship and a traditional role, whereas trousers – even occasionally – might lead me astray into some kind of unisex, feminist “equal rights” lifestyle. I don’t know. I admit that dresses and skirts and slips and stockings are perfectly ordinary girls’ clothes and I’ve tried and tried to get used to them but I still feel a bit trapped to be honest. When I’m in a skirt I can simply never forget what I’m wearing – but although I don’t enjoy it, maybe my skirt is the continuous reminder of my femininity that a reformed tomboy needs.

[Polgara69]

Welcome to Stepford honey.

[fawcett]

Nice to hear from you Mixed up Miss.
My husband would be envious, as I do get away with wearing trousers occasionally even though he wants me in dresses, skirts, lace trimmed slips and stockings all the time ( normal feminine clothes he says). I even now get away with not wearing a slip under a lined skirt.
Do bear with it and I am sure that he will become more flexible and I do fell a tad envious of your lifestyle as I have to work. I still feel that you are doing the right thing as many others on this forum have agreed and a few clearly don't understand your situation or have any empathy with it.

[Guest]

Read this with interest as I had a boyfriend very like the girl who started it. He baggered me endlessly to wear a skirt every time we went out and in the end bullied me to change from a typical “tomboy” not much interested in my appearance and really quite masculine into being wearing mostly skirts and conforming to his idea of ladylike behaviour.

I’m not with him anymore and when we split up I had wore nothing but jeans for a month ! But after a while I realised that I preferred my new self and looking and feeling more feminine and I particularly like the change in the way men treat me. So now I almost always wear a skirt / dress and the new man loves it ! Interested to know how “Mixed Up” and one or two others are getting on.

Sorry I’ve not been in touch. My life has no settled down after a period of flux and I’m now reasonably confident about my long-term future.

There is no immediate prospect of marriage but my boyfriend now accepts me as a fixture in his house! He wants me to concentrate on housework so he told me not to look for another job, even part-time. I thought he’d give me an allowance but he prefers me to ask him whenever I need anything. He is ever so generous in buying me stuff but it does kind of emphasise my dependence.

He is the sort of man who puts a girl on a pedestal and I must say that he treats me like a princess! He took me to a heavenly 5 star resort in the Seychelles for a surprise Christmas holiday and gave me an awesome diamond bracelet on the day itself!! He is fiercely protective of me in public: he doesn’t like me going anywhere on my own any more and God help any man who fails to treat me with complete respect! I’m learning to be quite ladylike – knees together, ankles crossed and legs to the side, and no more drinking, smoking or swearing!

I get to do all the cleaning and washing and ironing of course which my mum says is a waste of an expensive university education, but I can’t complain – it leaves plenty of time for trips to the beautician, window shopping and gossipy daytime TV!

As one of the girls warned me he has become very, very controlling in the bedroom. He requires me to be submissive and essentially passive, compliant but not eager, and modest to the point of timidity. He expects me to put my nightie on before I remove my bra and <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/' target='_blank'>panties</A> and to keep it on during lovemaking. He likes me to show ladylike embarrassment if he asks to see me naked. He recently told me to stop using contraception l and although I’m nervous I understand his reasoning: a girl on the pill might be tempted to fool around, but a girl at risk of pregnancy has a big incentive to stay faithful to her man. He isn’t much interested in female sexuality and I can’t exactly say “no” but he is considerate about my comfort and it is fun most of the time!

Skirts are my only real bugbear. I really, really thought that by now, if I wore pretty dresses when he took me out, then he’d allow me to wear jeans and trousers during the day, in fact I was counting on it. To my discomfort he remains adamant in keeping me in skirts, dresses and <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_52' target='_blank'>nylon</A> 24x7. He says that wearing skirts predisposes me to a traditional relationship and a traditional role, whereas trousers – even occasionally – might lead me astray into some kind of unisex, feminist “equal rights” lifestyle. I don’t know. I admit that dresses and skirts and slips and <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_52' target='_blank'>stockings</A> are perfectly ordinary girls’ clothes and I’ve tried and tried to get used to them but I still feel a bit trapped to be honest. When I’m in a skirt I can simply never forget what I’m wearing – but although I don’t enjoy it, maybe my skirt is the continuous reminder of my femininity that a reformed tomboy needs.

Hi mixed-up.

I noticed this 'cos I was reading the post about contraception. My long term (10 years at the time) bf asked me to come off the pill. His reasoning was just like yours he just thought that it was (in his words) "tarty". I agreed to but ONLY on the understanding that we would live together / marry if anything happened. It did and we now have a lovely house, 2 kids and one on the way. I don't regret it for a minute, but make it absolutely clear that he must live up to his resonsibilities !

Have alook at the "Don't like contraception" post its interesting. I bet if you said you were happy to do it but that (if he doesn't want you pregnant) you have to be VERY, VERY careful on the time of the month, he would probably agree, it puts you where he wants you, with him in control. Anyway worth the discussion ? It's a big step ! Think carefully and good luck !