Should I wear a skirt to please my boyfriend?

[Mixed_up_Miss]

My boyfriend took me shopping on Saturday and picked out 3 dresses and 3 skirts for me in just one shop and in under an hour. Typical male attitude to shopping I suppose!

As soon as we got home he told me to change into girdle and stockings, my new blue dress and high-heals. He was very excited but it’s been a long time since I had a skirt swishing around my legs and I felt a bit weird. It did make me look VERY different.

When he took me out last night he told me to wear my black pleated dress. I was shy and vulnerable in public but he was ultra-protective and made me feel special. I was very, very aware the whole evening that I was wearing a dress. I guess that we did look kike a proper couple and I did look like a “proper girlfriend”. He seemed more relaxed and more accepting. My wearing the dress shows we are different but brings us closer together if that makes any sense.

I offered to pay my share for the clothes but he won’t accept any money. He told me to “pay” him with housework. I’m no domestic goddess but he has given me my chance to prove that I can make a good contribution in the home.

I didn’t anticipate how restrictive a narrow pencil skirt would be - it really limits my ease and freedom of movement, particularly when worn with high heals. My girdle is surprisingly comfortable – I feel very “held in” – although the straps and buckles do become galling after a few hours particularly with a tight skirt. The garters are fiddly and annoying but the stockings themselves are pleasanter to wear than tights.

We have come to an agreement on hosiery – I’ll wear my girdle and stockings at weekends and whenever he takes me out, I’ll be free to wear tights at all other times.

He has really taken charge – he is taking me shopping in a week or 2 for more dresses and skirts, including the skirt outfits I’ll wear to work.

Wow he really has got into this. Looks like he has spent a lot of money on you. Can I ask, is he saying from now on you will always wear skirts or dresses, or do you just wear a skirt or dress when you go out. Looking back you don't live together right, so when you are on your on do you go back to trousers?

Also what do you wear to work, has he changed your work clothes as well?

So what do you prefer stockings or tights? Or what does he prefer?

Final question - are you happy with the changes?

Wow he really has got into this. Looks like he has spent a lot of money on you.
He is the youngest partner in his law firm so he’s not short of money, but yes he is very generous. He takes me to lovely restaurants, hotels, shows etc and never lets me pay for a thing.

Can I ask, is he saying from now on you will always wear skirts or dresses, or do you just wear a skirt or dress when you go out?
Well, its early days. I’m now wearing skirts or dresses when I’m with him but not necessarily at other times. He’d like me to wear them all the time, and if he did ask me to move in (which is what I really, really want), I guess I’d be under a lot of pressure to wear skirts / dresses full-time.

Looking back you don't live together right, so when you are on your on do you go back to trousers?
When I’m on my own I’m still usually wearing trousers although I have put on a skirt a couple of times - he says that if I wear skirts all the time I’ll get used to them sooner.

Also what do you wear to work, has he changed your work clothes as well?
I’m still wearing trousers to work. He says he’ll buy me some skirt-suits to wear to the office in place of my usual black trousers.

So what do you prefer stockings or tights? Or what does he prefer?
He likes me to wear the girdle, garters and stockings. tights are OK and he doesn’t like me going bare-legged. To be honest, the girdle is less onerous than I expected it to be, so I’m open-minded.

Final question - are you happy with the changes?
I have to say that I still don’t like skirts but I’ll wear them if it brings us closer together.

[Mixed_up_Miss]

I like the clothes your BF picked out for you (except for the frilly skirt).

How do you feel about wearing them? My wife and I have the same disussions about clothes, so maybe I should buy here some clothes as well.

Tommy

Hi Tommy,

Wearing a dress or skirt seems to emphasise man / woman distinctions if that makes any sense. He is now very much in charge and I guess I do feel more feminine. I still wouldn’t wear a skirt from choice but it’s hardly the end of the world and if it improves our relationship it’s a price I’m willing to pay.

[Mixed_up_Miss]

This is pretty much exactly the girdle I’ve got
http://www.laurensilva.com/Rago_Shapewear_Open_Bottom_Girdle_p/rago-1365.htm

IMHO you would be better off with just a garter belt than a full girdle, or is your boyfriend insisting on a girdle?

He seems to like the full ensemble – girdle, garters and stockings. I dislike the garter most so I do think a garter belt would be a good solution, but thanks for the suggestion anyway!

[Mixed_up_Miss]

Wouldn't wear one if boyfriend was pressuring me. I'd find someone else who liked me in what I wear. And you can look sexy in anything. People find people with no clothes on attractive, so clothes mean nothing.

That’s so EASY for YOU to say. It’s exactly what I would have said previously.
And don’t be so sure. Just 2 weeks ago I was telling my boyfriend I’d never wear a skirt, and just look at me now – a “frilly female” getting used to little dresses, tight skirts and even my ******* girdle. Okay in a perfect world we’d all be loved for our inner beauty but I want THIS relationship to work, and maybe it’ll happen to you some day…

[another view]

The garters are fiddly and annoying but the stockings themselves are pleasanter to wear than tights.

Hi There. So you have survived! I thought the girdle would put you off but obviosuly not. Did he choose the stockings and tights as well as your skirts and dresses?

We have come to an agreement on hosiery – I’ll wear my girdle and stockings at weekends and whenever he takes me out, I’ll be free to wear tights at all other times.

So has he got you to wear tights in the week or can you wear what you want or have you made the big decision to wear skirts and tights all the time?

He has really taken charge – he is taking me shopping in a week or 2 for more dresses and skirts, including the skirt outfits I’ll wear to work

How do you feel about wearing skirts to work. Are you going to wear the girdle / stockings to work as well or go for tights? Is he insisting you wear a skirt every day to work or just every other day?

How do he react when he finially got you in a dress and stockings? I found that once they have got you in a dress they never want to see you in trousers or jeans ago. Can kinda make things worse!

How do you feel about high heels. Thats one thing I don't like. I much prefer a nice pair of flats.

I can't believe how much you have changed from your first message here. If your boyfriend is anything like my husband when you move in he will get you to wear skirts all the time!

Sorry for the the questions, your post really reminds me of what I went through.

Glad things have worked out (i think??) for you. Let us know what he buys you next time.

[Guest]

Wouldn't wear one if boyfriend was pressuring me. I'd find someone else who liked me in what I wear. And you can look sexy in anything. People find people with no clothes on attractive, so clothes mean nothing.

That’s so EASY for YOU to say. It’s exactly what I would have said previously.
And don’t be so sure. Just 2 weeks ago I was telling my boyfriend I’d never wear a skirt, and just look at me now – a “frilly female” getting used to little dresses, tight skirts and even my ******* girdle. Okay in a perfect world we’d all be loved for our inner beauty but I want THIS relationship to work, and maybe it’ll happen to you some day…

I had a boyfriend who scrutinized everything I wore, even though I attracted attention from nice guys. He did it to make me insecure more than anything. Even if I'd have worn what he wanted, he would have trashed it, he was a dick. So I dumped him.

[Mixed_up_Miss]

Wouldn't wear one if boyfriend was pressuring me. I'd find someone else who liked me in what I wear. And you can look sexy in anything. People find people with no clothes on attractive, so clothes mean nothing.

That’s so EASY for YOU to say. It’s exactly what I would have said previously.
And don’t be so sure. Just 2 weeks ago I was telling my boyfriend I’d never wear a skirt, and just look at me now – a “frilly female” getting used to little dresses, tight skirts and even my ******* girdle. Okay in a perfect world we’d all be loved for our inner beauty but I want THIS relationship to work, and maybe it’ll happen to you some day…

I had a boyfriend who scrutinized everything I wore, even though I attracted attention from nice guys. He did it to make me insecure more than anything. Even if I'd have worn what he wanted, he would have trashed it, he was a dick. So I dumped him.

If your boyfriend criticised you no matter what you wore that was a bad scene and you're better off out of it - TOTALLY agree.
My boyfriend is traeting me like a princess when I dress to please him. It does trouble me though if he's using dresses and skirts as a way of getting me under control. I may be prepared to be a housewife but DEFINITEly NOT a doormat!

[Mixed_up_Miss]

The garters are fiddly and annoying but the stockings themselves are pleasanter to wear than tights.

Hi There. So you have survived! I thought the girdle would put you off but obviosuly not. Did he choose the stockings and tights as well as your skirts and dresses?

We have come to an agreement on hosiery – I’ll wear my girdle and stockings at weekends and whenever he takes me out, I’ll be free to wear tights at all other times.

So has he got you to wear tights in the week or can you wear what you want or have you made the big decision to wear skirts and tights all the time?

He has really taken charge – he is taking me shopping in a week or 2 for more dresses and skirts, including the skirt outfits I’ll wear to work

How do you feel about wearing skirts to work. Are you going to wear the girdle / stockings to work as well or go for tights? Is he insisting you wear a skirt every day to work or just every other day?

How do he react when he finially got you in a dress and stockings? I found that once they have got you in a dress they never want to see you in trousers or jeans ago. Can kinda make things worse!

How do you feel about high heels. Thats one thing I don't like. I much prefer a nice pair of flats.

I can't believe how much you have changed from your first message here. If your boyfriend is anything like my husband when you move in he will get you to wear skirts all the time!

Sorry for the the questions, your post really reminds me of what I went through.

Glad things have worked out (i think??) for you. Let us know what he buys you next time.

He bought me the girdle and stockings about 3 weeks ago. I’d categorically refused to wear them, but when I was finally changing into a dress it just seemed easier to do as I was told and haul on the girdle and stockings as well. I hate fiddling with the suspenders but otherwise I guess they are not too bad. The tights are just ordinary supermarket tights that I bought myself. I couldn’t go bare-legged in autumn / winter weather anyway. If he expects me to wear tights right through the summer that might be different – what do you do in a real heat-wave, tights must get SO uncomfortable?

Getting me into a dress and stockings has had a big impact on both of us. I guess it proves that he’s in charge and that I’ve accepted this. I don’t see myself as a ‘submissive little woman’ so this change in our relationship will take some getting used to. And where that man can now get his hands…

Its early days but currently I’m wearing a dress or a skirt whenever he’s around and mostly trousers when he isn’t. I think it would be a very bad idea for him to see me in trousers again and I’m certainly not going to risk it any time soon. Later – who knows? I very much hope that once feels he’s made his point he won’t mind if I start wearing trousers again, some of the time anyway.

He’s suggested I wear skirt suits to work and says he’ll buy me some. I’m not looking forward to it – most of the girls in the office wear trousers. But clearly I will have to be wearing a skirt when he takes me to lunch or collects me straight from the office.

High heals would never be my footwear of choice but I don’t think that flats go well with skirts and dresses except maybe in the home. I actually started wearing heals a while ago to try to placate him – I hoped that if I wore heals, frilly blouses and more make-up he wouldn’t mind so much about my trousers! What I do find constraining is the combination of high heals and a tight skirt.

Well, I DON’T LIKE SKIRTS but maybe I have to surrender on this issue to “win the war”. I have a Masters degree and I used to have big career plans, but I’m just a lousy temp secretary and being realistic by far my best option is to find a man and become a housewife. I know it sounds all wrong from a women’s rights point of view but he is the man of my choice and I’ve reluctantly decided I’ll wear a skirt 24x7 if that what it takes to get him!

I don’t think I ever asked – do you have to wear skirts or dresses ALL the time or do you get to wear trousers when you’re on your own in the house?

I’m visiting my parents next week (no internet) but will be back in touch when I return.

[Guest]

Wouldn't wear one if boyfriend was pressuring me. I'd find someone else who liked me in what I wear. And you can look sexy in anything. People find people with no clothes on attractive, so clothes mean nothing.

That’s so EASY for YOU to say. It’s exactly what I would have said previously.
And don’t be so sure. Just 2 weeks ago I was telling my boyfriend I’d never wear a skirt, and just look at me now – a “frilly female” getting used to little dresses, tight skirts and even my ******* girdle. Okay in a perfect world we’d all be loved for our inner beauty but I want THIS relationship to work, and maybe it’ll happen to you some day…

I had a boyfriend who scrutinized everything I wore, even though I attracted attention from nice guys. He did it to make me insecure more than anything. Even if I'd have worn what he wanted, he would have trashed it, he was a dick. So I dumped him.

If your boyfriend criticised you no matter what you wore that was a bad scene and you're better off out of it - TOTALLY agree.
My boyfriend is traeting me like a princess when I dress to please him. It does trouble me though if he's using dresses and skirts as a way of getting me under control. I may be prepared to be a housewife but DEFINITEly NOT a doormat!

Good attitude, but some men just expect you to dress how they want and if you won't comply, they'll find someone who will.

[Phantastica]

I quite like your blue dress, your black dress and your tight black skirt. I don’t think I’d wear that frilly skirt or that awful tiered dress!
But seriously, these are demanding clothes to expect a tomboy to wear. Maybe he thinks that if he gets you into tight, frilly outfits to start with, you’ll be really grateful when he gives you some more relaxed skirts and dresses later.

Housework ain't my style but enjoy all your washing, cleaning and ironing. Hope you end up as a happy housewife.

Love

P

[another view]

The tights are just ordinary supermarket tights that I bought myself. I couldn’t go bare-legged in autumn / winter weather anyway. If he expects me to wear tights right through the summer that might be different – what do you do in a real heat-wave, tights must get SO uncomfortable?

Hi there. I agree if you wearing a skirt or dress you need to wear hoisery. In the summer I usually wear bare cooling tights or hold-ups. If it is really hot then my husband wouldn't expect to wear any hosiery but this summer that hasn't been the case!

Getting me into a dress and stockings has had a big impact on both of us. I guess it proves that he’s in charge and that I’ve accepted this. I don’t see myself as a ‘submissive little woman’ so this change in our relationship will take some getting used to. And where that man can now get his hands…

So do you think that by giving in to your boyfriend has improved your relationship? This is a strange question but do you feel more submissive? I felt that once my husband got me to ditch the trousers he seemed to take charge. And I agree it lets their hands have easier access....

I think it would be a very bad idea for him to see me in trousers again and I’m certainly not going to risk it any time soon.

So what do you think he would say if you reverted back to trousers or is just he happy that you will wear a skirt when you go out with him? Has he actually told you not to wear trousers again?

He’s suggested I wear skirt suits to work and says he’ll buy me some. I’m not looking forward to it – most of the girls in the office wear trousers. But clearly I will have to be wearing a skirt when he takes me to lunch or collects me straight from the office.

How would feel about wearing a skirt suit to work? I personally would find this a bit too much wear a skirt suit every day, especially if I had to wear stockings and a girdle. Has he said you can wear trousers on some days to work and is he insisting you wear stockings to work or tights?


High heals would never be my footwear of choice but I don’t think that flats go well with skirts and dresses except maybe in the home.

Don't heels hurt after a few hours? I only wear them when we go out for a meal or something. Your right, heels and skirt and very restrictive.

Well, I DON’T LIKE SKIRTS but maybe I have to surrender on this issue to “win the war”. I have a Masters degree and I used to have big career plans, but I’m just a lousy temp secretary and being realistic by far my best option is to find a man and become a housewife. I know it sounds all wrong from a women’s rights point of view but he is the man of my choice and I’ve reluctantly decided I’ll wear a skirt 24x7 if that what it takes to get him!

Wow, you have got a masters. So what changed your mind from going for a career to becoming a housewife? Looking after a house and family I think can be very appealing and rewarding. I don't have a degree, I worked in retail until I got married so becoming a housewife for me was a great escape from a job I hated!!

Do you think if you got married you would end up wearing a skirt 24/7 or would you wear trousers as well?

I don’t think I ever asked – do you have to wear skirts or dresses ALL the time or do you get to wear trousers when you’re on your own in the house?

I do wear skirts every day. I do go to a gym twice a week so obviosuly don't wear a skirt then and if I doing some cleaning or something it is a lot easier to wear some jeans, but apart from that I can be found in a skirt. It did take me a long time to get use to dressing this way and even now I find them annoying, but as I said before its the hoisery side that annoys me more. BUT... he loves me wearing them and so I wear them with tights or stockings because that what he likes. It is a compromise as I am sure I wouldn't wear them if I was single. Sometimes he likes me to wear a particular skirt or dress and we go shopping together and he chooses new outfits. Luckily he has great taste and would never make me wear anything trashy.

If you now have a selection of skirts and dresses and hosiery does your boyfriend tend to choose an outfit for you or just ask you to wear a skirt or dress?

I had a look at all the dresses and skirts he got you. They all look lovely, apart from the frilly cocktail dress. I wouldn't like to wear that. Have you worn the lilly frill skirt yet?

Well thats all from me, .Hope you had a nice weekend.

[Mixed_up_Miss]

The tights are just ordinary supermarket tights that I bought myself. I couldn’t go bare-legged in autumn / winter weather anyway. If he expects me to wear tights right through the summer that might be different – what do you do in a real heat-wave, tights must get SO uncomfortable?

Hi there. I agree if you wearing a skirt or dress you need to wear hoisery. In the summer I usually wear bare cooling tights or hold-ups. If it is really hot then my husband wouldn't expect to wear any hosiery but this summer that hasn't been the case!

Getting me into a dress and stockings has had a big impact on both of us. I guess it proves that he’s in charge and that I’ve accepted this. I don’t see myself as a ‘submissive little woman’ so this change in our relationship will take some getting used to. And where that man can now get his hands…

So do you think that by giving in to your boyfriend has improved your relationship? This is a strange question but do you feel more submissive? I felt that once my husband got me to ditch the trousers he seemed to take charge. And I agree it lets their hands have easier access....

I think it would be a very bad idea for him to see me in trousers again and I’m certainly not going to risk it any time soon.

So what do you think he would say if you reverted back to trousers or is just he happy that you will wear a skirt when you go out with him? Has he actually told you not to wear trousers again?

He’s suggested I wear skirt suits to work and says he’ll buy me some. I’m not looking forward to it – most of the girls in the office wear trousers. But clearly I will have to be wearing a skirt when he takes me to lunch or collects me straight from the office.

How would feel about wearing a skirt suit to work? I personally would find this a bit too much wear a skirt suit every day, especially if I had to wear stockings and a girdle. Has he said you can wear trousers on some days to work and is he insisting you wear stockings to work or tights?


High heals would never be my footwear of choice but I don’t think that flats go well with skirts and dresses except maybe in the home.

Don't heels hurt after a few hours? I only wear them when we go out for a meal or something. Your right, heels and skirt and very restrictive.

Well, I DON’T LIKE SKIRTS but maybe I have to surrender on this issue to “win the war”. I have a Masters degree and I used to have big career plans, but I’m just a lousy temp secretary and being realistic by far my best option is to find a man and become a housewife. I know it sounds all wrong from a women’s rights point of view but he is the man of my choice and I’ve reluctantly decided I’ll wear a skirt 24x7 if that what it takes to get him!

Wow, you have got a masters. So what changed your mind from going for a career to becoming a housewife? Looking after a house and family I think can be very appealing and rewarding. I don't have a degree, I worked in retail until I got married so becoming a housewife for me was a great escape from a job I hated!!

Do you think if you got married you would end up wearing a skirt 24/7 or would you wear trousers as well?

I don’t think I ever asked – do you have to wear skirts or dresses ALL the time or do you get to wear trousers when you’re on your own in the house?

I do wear skirts every day. I do go to a gym twice a week so obviosuly don't wear a skirt then and if I doing some cleaning or something it is a lot easier to wear some jeans, but apart from that I can be found in a skirt. It did take me a long time to get use to dressing this way and even now I find them annoying, but as I said before its the hoisery side that annoys me more. BUT... he loves me wearing them and so I wear them with tights or stockings because that what he likes. It is a compromise as I am sure I wouldn't wear them if I was single. Sometimes he likes me to wear a particular skirt or dress and we go shopping together and he chooses new outfits. Luckily he has great taste and would never make me wear anything trashy.

If you now have a selection of skirts and dresses and hosiery does your boyfriend tend to choose an outfit for you or just ask you to wear a skirt or dress?

I had a look at all the dresses and skirts he got you. They all look lovely, apart from the frilly cocktail dress. I wouldn't like to wear that. Have you worn the lilly frill skirt yet?

Well thats all from me, .Hope you had a nice weekend.

Hi,
Thanks for this. I'm rushing to get the train to my parents place. Staying for a week and I'll reply properly on my return if thats OK.
Missing by boyfriend like crazy already but its a good thing he can't see me back in my jeans, trainers and one of my sloppiest old T-shirts!!
Have a nice week and speak soon.

PS so pleased your husband is reasonable - good that there are SOME time when jeans or bare legs are OK!

[Jenny-Wales]

I have read your postings regarding this topic and I am worried that this could be the start of a problematic relationship for you.

You stated you dislike the hassle of a being a "girly girl" with reference to heels, tights, shaving etc and how uncomfortable wearing a skirt or dress makes you feel. You have also made reference to a girdle that he purchased for you and you said you would never been said dead wearing it.

Within a short space of time you went shopping and your boyfriend purchased some dresses and skirts. You did not make it clear if you chose the garments or he did, or you chose them together.

The first thing that worried me was when you boyfriend told you to change into girdle and stockings. From being a person (tomboy) that is used to jeans and t-shirt to wearing a dress and stockings is some major change.

Perhaps I have read too much detail, but did he make you wear a dress and stockings when you returned home?

You go onto to say that on you next date he also told you which dress to wear and you felt vunerable, but also protected and special.

You also mention that money is a bit tight so you in some ways have to rely on him financially.

And you state you will clearly have to wear a skirt and hoisery if he picks you up from work.

So here are a few things to consider.

If you do move in with him and become a housewife for him which I believe you want, you will come financially reliant on him. This will allow him to buy your clothes and choose what you wear. Reading between the lines it appears he will insist you wear a skirt or dress and hoisery at all times. How would you feel about this?

You have mentioned a few times that he is very much in charge. If he is choosing your wardrobe now, later in the relationship he may become more dominant, i.e make a preference over your hair style etc. Whilst many relationships work on the basis on one partner being "in charge" and the other following, would you be happy with this arrangement? You said that you have accepted that he is in charge, but what exactly have you accepted? Does he make all the decisions in your relationship, and if so are you happy with this?

In conclusion I have a friend who has a very similiar arrangement in her marriage. She fully accepts that her husband is the leader of the house or the head of house and her role is to please him. He provides for the family, she is a full time mother. She is a very submissive person and accepts the decisions of her husband, from clothing choice right through to the sexual side of the marriage. I can see your relationship develop into this, and whilst this is not a bad thing and can actually make a marriage work you should enter it wit your eyes open.

Please do consider everything, listen to you head as well as your heart.

[jules2008]

I prefer my wife to wear skirts or dresses when we go out to the theatre or restaurants, but most importantly I want her to feel special whatever she chooses to wear. - She enjoys wearing stockings and tights rather than bare legs.

[jinjin]

I read Jenny-Wales post and agree with her concerns. Although it is nice to do things to make your boyfriend happy, you seem to be becoming more and more dependant on him. It is possible that he is a manipulative person who wants to control the way you live. As you stated, you do not want this. I suggest you do whatever is necessary to find out how much freedom of choice you will have with him. If you have not done so then I think you should test him by taking part in activities (i.e. bicycle racing, motocross racing, home improvement, trail riding, horseball, polo) where pants should be worn for safety and see how he reacts.