I was reading some of the posts and I just had to say something. I think it is the BIGGEST misconception that people are only saying stuff about skinny people and that no one will call an overweight person fat. I don't know where you have been going, but being dubbed as fat is the worst thing. Beyonce and Jennifer who are well within their healthy weight limits are always called fat by the public. Even though by medical standards they aren't, they are still called fat. I was an early bloomer (menstration, boobs...the whole nine at age 10!!) By the time I was in high school I was 5'6 and like 130-135. Even though by medical standards I was at a perfectly healthy weight (even closer to the slimmer side of the weight range) I was still called fat! I mean I thought a fat person was someone who was overweight. I never thought that there was anything wrong with my body. I ate well and I was a dancer. My thighs, butt and hips were naturally bigger than the rest of my body, but my thighs were freaking muscle...but hey...I was fat so they said. So I started purging everything I ate and soon enough I was down to about 118...but my butt, hips and thighs...still bigger assets...and I looked like I was dying, but that was ok, because they couldn't call me fat anymore...right?? Not really. I think the biggest misconception is that people have a hard time calling overweight people fat. Trust me they don't. Even if you aren't overweight and you have wide hips and a big butt...you can still be called fat and sometimes it's the people closest to you like your family that are the biggest offenders of it. Now with that being said, you can't change your body type. If you are skinny by nature, then that is just how you are and that is ok. Sometimes skinny people are medically considered underweight, but can't help it and that is ok. I think women lose sight of the main factor which is health. If you are eating the right way and actually eating (which I am sure you are) then there isn't much more you can do except maybe strength training. Building muscle will make up the difference in what you think you are lacking. Not all men have all of a sudden flocked to curvey women. Many guys like different body type while some really prefer one to the other. I think that what has been happening is that women like Beyonce and Jennifer Lopez with their curves have become so popular that it is just like curve mania, but it is just this stupid trend like skinny women were the trend in the 80's. But the point is that is the media talking. The fact of the matter is that there have always been a number of skinny and curvey women as well as obese and anorexic and bulemic. And some women can't help that they have boobs and a butt or no boobs and no butt. That is just the way it is. I was killing myself trying to be stick thin because someone called me fat. After years of therapists and nutrionists, I've learned that my 130-135 body was fine. Now I am an inch taller at 5'7 and 134. I go to the gym all the time, but not to lose weight. I go to get those bigger areas that I can't totally rid myself of firm. What it all comes down to is health. If you are doing the right thing then that's all you can do. Everything else is just opinion. Some people may thing Beyonce and Jennifer Lopez LOOK obese but in actuality they are at a good weight according to medical standards. They LOOK obese to some because they have these curves that some people do not find attractive and see as fat or what have you...but that is all pure opinion. I mean I heard someone call the singer 'PINK' fat. I don't think she is fat, but obviously some people do same goes for Serena Williams...I've heard people call her fat too, which I just don't see, but they see something.
I don't think that you skinny girls should let people make you feel bad. Your ribs stick out? You lack in the chest and bottom area? So what! They don't know you and they don't know how you live, if they did and were saying that then they are just @ssholes who you shouldn't be paying attention to anyway. A lot of women think that they are supposed to look one way and it just isn't reality. Conformity is such a pain. Trends and fads are in and out like that and people lose themselves in it like it is the most important thing in the world when it isn't even close. Work with what you have and love yourself. There are plenty of guys that like skinny women but lacking confidence is what makes you lose your appeal. You can either love and accept or you can opt for plastic surgery (which I wouldn't recommend).
