Skirtlifting

by **janetan** on Mon Jul 28, 2008 2:44 pm

Dianeblue,

I know exactly how you feel. I still wear skirts after my experience, but I do feel a little different in them. Sometimes I have put on a skirt and it just feels to light, airy, or easy to pull up. I just put that skirt away and wear another one. Who knows maybe I'll feel like wearing one of those in the future.

I don't think you are paranoid, I just think you are more aware of the vulnerabilities of the skirt that all women face. Don't worry about it, wear what makes you comfortable and get out there and have fun!

by **katlin765** on Mon Jul 28, 2008 3:39 pm

Kangaroo2,

What an unusual discussion here. I'll put in my two cents. My skirt lifting experience may not be as spectacular as some of the others, but here it goes...
My skirt was pulled up in a mall parking lot by one of my friends. He's a great guy, and I know he was trying to be funny. I don't think he understood that you can really embarrass a girl by doing that. I was putting stuff in my trunk when he lifted my skirt as high as it would go. I screamed instinctively, which only made more people look. I had nice underwear on, but that did not help ease the embarrassment. When my skirt was back down, I think he noticed that something was wrong. He couldn't figure out why I was so upset. I explained that some girl's may think that's funny, but most girls are really, really embarrassed by this. He apologized and said he would never do it again. We are still friends.

I have read most of this discussion, and I put myself in the shoes of the other girls that have had their skirts lifted. I think the worst skirtlifting had to be the girl whose boyfriend pulled up her skirt on purpose to humiliate her. The fact that it was her BF that did it, makes it 10 times worse. What a betrayal. He's supposed to be the one person that cares about you, and than he lifts your skirt like that. What a scumbag!

by **kangaroo2** on Mon Jul 28, 2008 4:30 pm

dianblue,

Wear your skirts! To allow this one incident guide your fashion taste/wants is a bit OTT. Most likley it won't happen again and it sounds like you want to wear skirts. Start out modestly and gradually regain your confidence.

By letting him get you to stop wearing skirts is to let him win. I know it sucks that he did that, but in some sense if this is what he does, I sort of feel sorry for him. But hey, I know your pain. Rise above it and put it behind you as best you can.

You Go Girl!!!!

Amy

by **kangaroo2** on Mon Jul 28, 2008 4:49 pm

katlin765,

Tnanx for sharing. I'm sure all interested ppl sympathize with you.
It sounds as if your friend boy is one of those who impulsively did what he did but realised that oopsie, not good.
Some jerks just stand there and laugh away. How cruel.
It matters not what undies we have on, at least you had nice ones!

And you are still friends. Good on both of you!
Stay in touch,

Amy

by **sandradee** on Mon Jul 28, 2008 5:11 pm

Dianeblue,

I know exactly how you feel. As mentioned in my previous posts, I had a similar thing happen to me. And, yes, I was a little reluctant to wear skirts after that, but I am so glad I still wear skirts. They are part of my fashion being and I still wear them often. I don't think my skirt will ever be lifted again. I really don't. Kangaroo2 hit it right on the head, start slowly when choosing skirts and gradually work your way to where you want to be. You'll be fine in no time.

by **aaron32** on Tue Jul 29, 2008 4:11 pm

Yep my skirt was lifted up too. It happened after I was divorced and I started dating again. Not easy, when you are my age. We had been having quite a good time that night. It was our second date and he took me to a movie and to dinner. He seemed like a pretty nice guy. He wanted to go out for a drink afterwards and so we stopped at some bar and grill. We were standing at the door when all off a sudden, he lifted my skirt up. He completely lifted up my skirt!!!!!OMG! I totally freaked. It sucked so bad! I slapped him and got right out of there. I don't know if he was drunk or on drugs or what. At that point I just wanted to get away. He actually had the audacity to leave a message on my machine asking why I hadn't returned his calls. Can you believe this guy?? I hate to admit this, but I have pretty much stopped wearing skirts. I just don't feel right when I wear one now.

by **dianeblue** on Wed Jul 30, 2008 3:59 pm

Thanks for the responses. I know you guys understand and can relate to my situation. Several of you have put this in the past and got on with your lives, which is great! I just don't think I'm there yet.

by **bear70** on Thu Jul 31, 2008 4:51 pm

Skirt Lifting. What a rotten thing to do.

A girl in high school lifted my skirt as I was talking to my BF and his friends. Obviously, I was quite embarrassed. This girl was one of those people that always talked negatively about others and seemed to enjoy gossiping about other people's problems. I never got along with her. Years later, I saw her at a movie theater. She was talking to some guy and she was wearing a skirt. I stood behind her and I actually debated if I should pull up her skirt like she had done to me. I decided not to do that. Revenge would have been nice, but I think it would have been bittersweet. My husband said I should have done it, but I feel I made the right decision.

by **kangaroo2** on Thu Jul 31, 2008 9:48 pm

bear70

I'm sure your husband wanted you to lift her skirt. And perhaps for a fleeting moment it would be sweet revenge. But you did make the right decision and not lift.

Geez a fellow girl lifting your skirt.

Amy

by **janetan** on Thu Jul 31, 2008 11:39 pm

Bear70,

You showed great restraint not lifting her skirt up. Good for you and her.

If I saw my skirtlifter in a skirt as you described, I would be tempted to lift her skirt. I hadn't really thought about revenge, but I sure could see that it would be easy to do. Part of me says it would be great to see her suffer the same humiliation as I did and part of me says that I would be stooping to her level. I don't know. I might have pulled up her skirt. It would be a tough call.

I do believe that you made a wise choice in your case.

by **danielleg** on Fri Aug 01, 2008 2:25 am

I've never had my skirt lifted.

But, if some girl did that to me and I had the chance, I would pull her skirt up big time! She would deserve it if she had lifted my skirt. I guess "an eye for an eye" applies here. I would absolutely, positively pull her skirt up in the most embarrassing way possible. I'm not proud of it, but that is what I would do!

by **Vengeance Demon** on Fri Aug 01, 2008 2:42 am

You just tell me where to find these girls, I'll lift their skirts for you! :twisted:

by **bellakendra** on Fri Aug 01, 2008 3:03 am

I disagree with the previous post that "an eye for an eye" or "a skirt for a skirt" is the way to go. I just don't think I could pull another woman's skirt up, even if she had done the same to me. Does "turn the other cheek" apply here?

Don't get me wrong, I know I would be radically pissed if someone lifted my skirt. In fact, I would be quite traumatized by it. And I agree that a payback would be satisfying, but I still wouldn't do something that mean to a woman.

No, I would not have pulled her skirt up. I would have walked right on by.

by **katya58** on Sat Aug 02, 2008 5:10 am

I'm surprised that so many women have been through this. My skirtlifting occurred years ago when I worked for a department store. My supervisor at the time was a monster. He asked me out several times and I told him I don't date men that I work with. I just don't. Well, he really didn't like the rejection and he started making my life hell. He told some of the other managers that I was seeing him, he called me a very demeaning name in front of my coworkers, and he purposely scheduled his work time with mine.
At this point, I was thinking about quiting. One morning, I was helping several customers and that is when he lifted up my skirt. He made some smart comment about me when he did it. That was the final straw, I kneed him, and walked right out of there. I threatened to sue the company and not one of the customers agreed to describe what they had seen. It was my word versus his. Damn! I quit and got another job, but I have never forgotten what happened.

by **Karen5k** on Sat Aug 02, 2008 12:06 pm

If you wore a skirt in elementary school, you probably had it done. I remember some times on the playground when a boy would run up behind me and do a quick lift of the back of my skirt. It would get me mad and I'd run after them or throw sand at them or something. Now that I'm older it doesn't happen any more, of course not being a skirt wearer might have a lot to do with it.