My son wants a perm

by **Guest** » Sun Aug 27, 2006 4:21 pm

My son mentioned the other day that he wants to get a perm. I was shocked to hear this as I didn't think it was common nowadays especially for boys. Is this something to be concerned about? I didn't say much in reponse yet other than we'll see. How old should he be? Do you think he will be made fun of? I was thinking maybe it should be done before school starts to lessen the pain.

by **Yamaharley_UK** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 11:59 am

How old is he?

The young like to experiment with their image. Within reason, I'd go with the flow. That was what we did. For many years (through school and uni)our two sons had middle-of-the-back-length long hair and one still has... now he's married and has an executive job. The other has a steady girlfriend, also a good job, but his hair is now only (!) shoulder length. Oh, and they all (both sons + wife & girlfriend) wear earrings. It's just individuality.

Your son will know what kind of reaction he's likely to get from his peers.

I'm sure any concerns you have (about him, about others' reactions) are almost certainly unfounded.

by **louise P** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 7:59 am

I like Yamaharley am curious to know how old your son is.
Generally speaking I see nothing wrong with your son having a perm and it certainly is not anything to be concearned about.
My husband was a child when he first had his hair permed, unlike your son it wasn't at his request that he had it done his mother permed him from the age of 8 firstly with a home perm kit then later with at the hairdressers where she worked.
I am sure your son will not be made fun of for having curly hair anything goes today. OK I admit it could be a bit embarrassing actually having the perm done for a boy to sit under a dryer with tiny curlers in his hair is not very cool but I guess your son must have considered that before requesting a perm.
I agree i think it would be better to get his perm done before he returns to school.
Let him have it done, if he doesn't like he can always have it cut out.

by **Guest** » Fri Sep 22, 2006 10:26 pm

Just wanted to say that I took your advice and told him to do it if he wants to. We weren't able to get him in before school started but he had it done Monday night. I have to say that I like it on him very much so and that he really likes it. By the way, he is 14 and he said a few of his friends teased him a little, but most of the girls think it's cool. His hair is shorter and this created a little body so he can comb it back. It's not the bad boy look or anything. I think he really likes it though! Maybe he will start a new trend?

by **Guest** » Sat Sep 23, 2006 5:39 pm

More and more men are concerned about their appearance and are using more and more grooming products. Go to any better quality department store and look at the display of men's cosmetics to get an idea of what they are buying today. So it is not at al surprising that teenaged boys are becoming concerned about their appearance and want to do what they can that will improve it. Hair styling, including perms and color treatments, are now quite common among professional men. A boy wanting a perm is very much in fashion today.

by **Guest** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 9:09 pm

I think it's great that he got a perm. Is it real curly or just wavy. Do you think he'll do it again? I may suggest it to mine. Any other parents out there that have boys or husbands with perms?

by **Guest** » Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:09 pm

I think it's cool that he got a perm. It is 2 years later now, is he still perming? Just curious how my son would look with one. Maybe it would help control it. Anybody else have this request? or any opinions?

by **The Colonel** » Tue Jul 15, 2008 4:41 pm

. wrote:I think it's cool that he got a perm. It is 2 years later now, is he still perming? Just curious how my son would look with one. Maybe it would help control it. Anybody else have this request? or any opinions?

I can't say I greatly believe this as the father of 4 boys.

I don't think very many boys ask for perms and I certainly would not allow it!

by **Guest** » Sun Jul 20, 2008 3:45 am

The boy is 14 and has gotten his perm. The original poster posted both here and on the pareting forum. Here is a link to the post on the parenting forum that gives the latest update.

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/about83194.html

by **The Colonel** » Mon Jul 21, 2008 1:27 am

. wrote:The boy is 14 and has gotten his perm. The original poster posted both here and on the pareting forum. Here is a link to the post on the parenting forum that gives the latest update.

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/about83194.html

Whatever.

No boy gets a perm. :roll:

by **Guest** » Mon Jul 21, 2008 3:11 pm

Colenel,
I wouldn't go that far. Your telling me earings are better? A perm is gone in 3 months or so, the holes from earings could last a lifetime. What is your reasoning for a boy not getting a perm?

by **azraelle** » Mon Jul 21, 2008 3:49 pm

It doesn't fit in with his aristocratic view of "appropriate behavior" for his sons, although being gay is perfectly acceptable. Go figure.

by **The Colonel** » Mon Jul 21, 2008 4:55 pm

azraelle wrote:It doesn't fit in with his aristocratic view of "appropriate behavior" for his sons, although being gay is perfectly acceptable. Go figure.

How one dresses and what one is are two separate things.

Don't be so quick to confuse the two.

A man cannot help if he has green eyes but he can help it if he wears a dress.

I don't believe the story - simple as that.

I'd also get him to a martial arts club too - he'll be beaten up for certain.

Homophobic/anti-gay then Az???

by **azraelle** » Mon Jul 21, 2008 5:14 pm

The Colonel wrote:
azraelle wrote:It doesn't fit in with his aristocratic view of "appropriate behavior" for his sons, although being gay is perfectly acceptable. Go figure.

How one dresses and what one is are two separate things.

I couldn't agree with you more, Colonel. How I dress has nothing whatsoever to do with my gender preference. Neither does the way I (or anyone else, for that matter) wear my hair!!

Not homophobic. Can't understand why YOU are so cross-dress-a-phobic, and yet so open-minded with respect to gender preference.

by **honbuns** » Mon Jul 21, 2008 5:19 pm

azraelle wrote:
The Colonel wrote:
azraelle wrote:It doesn't fit in with his aristocratic view of "appropriate behavior" for his sons, although being gay is perfectly acceptable. Go figure.

How one dresses and what one is are two separate things.

I couldn't agree with you more, Colonel. How I dress has nothing whatsoever to do with my gender preference. Neither does the way I (or anyone else, for that matter) wear my hair!!

Not homophobic. Can't understand why YOU are so cross-dress-a-phobic, and yet so open-minded with respect to gender preference.

Is it that you believe the old saying 'clothes maketh the man'? I know that sometimes people may appear strange but most of the time this is just some attempt at individuallity.

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