Still in nappies.

[Rachelannf]

Hi, i thought it time i added my thoughts to this topic, as some of the posts seem to try and belittle or ridicule the use of a nappy for a child beyond the "normal",shall we say,age for this.I have a son who still wears a nappy to bed and has done for some time now,we have tried everything in the past and nothing has helped him to stay dry,i felt he suffered with all the pressure and demands on him and the more we tried the worse it was.I took the decision to put him back in nappies,some thought it strange or daft,but i felt it would be best for both of us, at least if he was to wet,the only thing that would suffer was a nappy, not the bed,not his pj's, etc, .I feel we quickly saw the benefits and continue to use them until he becomes naturally dry, we will just wait it out.I know some think it wrong,dont know why, but there are many children who continue to wet ,we should do what is right,not what people think is right for the sake of an age issue.

[Guest]

I don't know what to do.

Recently I went to visit my daughter in her rented studio appartment close to Southbank uni (she's 18) and whilst she went to the bathroom I decided to put her clothes in her drawer that ironed and washed for her.

In her underwear drawer I felt some very soft towels and aload of them all the way down. I thought the were innocent bath towels but then as I pulled one (they were all folded really neatly) out they were larhe white square towelling. Too thick and soft to be towels, they were definitely terry towelling, they were infact Adult size nappies. As i opened her other 3 drawers they were full on them and plastic pants as well as mother care nappoy pins. I guess they must've been about 30 nappies. I even found a pair of terry <A HREF="http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/">knickers</A>

I didn't say anything to her and acted like nothing had happened. She enever said anything to me. Saying that, she does have a history of liking nappies and plastic pants as a child, we once caught her wearing her sister's terries when she was 9)
Has she been wearing for some time and where did she buy them from, I didn't even know u can buy adult terry nappies, do they sell them over the net ?

anybody got suggestions ?

[Sooz]

Look. I wanted real help here for my 14yo daughter, and my own sanity. And hers!

Yet we seem to have been invaded by AB/DL's, and people with tunnel vision, those who ridicule anything that strays from the "norm". Rachelannf made a realy good point about her difficulties with her son. Yet, Steve, "Diaperman" has also made a valuable contribution, and that is much appreciated. Thank you Steve, it has really helped me in my understanding of my daughter's "interests". I have searched the internet for information about those who choose to wear nappies, etc., and I understand that it is harmless.

I love my daughter, and if that's what she wants, who am I to deprive her of her "pleasures". I love wearing my choice of seductive underwear, why should she not choose her own underwear?

I've changed my mind, because of the postings here. I will live and let live...

Sooz

[KazT]

Hi Sooz

Please don't get too upset about your daughter.

It doesn't have to be a problem if it's handled properly.

I was always demanding nappies when I was growing up and I still wear them occasionally at 25.

I lived at home until I was 22 and my mother knew about my liking for nappies and platic pants although she would never let me go to school in them for fear of what others would say.

She also tried to make me feel bad and say that I would never find a boyfriend if i wore nappies and plastic pants.

I did meet my current boyfriend and after about 6 months I told him about my underwear preference and he was shocked at first but now he's fine about it and even tells me I look sexy as i feel good when i'm wearing them.

I know this may seem "weird" to most people and i can understand but i'm not hurting anyone and keep this to myself and my boyfriend who i now live with.

I don'd know why I like nappies and plastic pants rather than conventional sexy undies but i do know that I feel nice earing them,so until I don't i'll keep wearing them.

I don't know if this helps but i'm sure there are lots of other women besides myself and your daughter who enjoy this choice of underwear.

KazT

[Sooz]

Thankyou KazT. As I have already said, I am beginning to accept, and understand, my daughter's penchant for wearing nappies and plastic panties, now that I have done more research, and following various contributions on this message-board.

I decided that I must try to understand. So, when I was in Sainsbury's last week, I saw, and bought, a pack of "Poise" pull-up incontinence pants. I tried one of them, and forced myself to wet. It felt "nice", I have to admit!

However, this is not something that I would want to do on a regular basis. But, at least, I now have a better undersanding of my daughter's needs, and yours. Thank you for your help.

[Sooz]

Look, doctor00, you are so stupid. No doctor in this world would produce the rubbish that you do. Believe me, I know many doctors, as friends, and they can all spell, and use the appropriate capitalisation and punctuation which seems to evade your vacant mind. Clearly, you are invading this site for your own peverted reasons.

I would also point out that, in the UK, impersonating a Doctor is a criminal offence. Go away!

[doctor00]

Look, doctor00, you are so stupid. No doctor in this world would produce the rubbish that you do. Believe me, I know many doctors, as friends, and they can all spell, and use the appropriate capitalisation and punctuation which seems to evade your vacant mind. Clearly, you are invading this site for your own peverted reasons.

I would also point out that, in the UK, impersonating a Doctor is a criminal offence. Go away!

Firstly I did not say that I was a doctor, you just simply assumed, and secondly using the username doctor00 is NOT at all a criminal offence. So I would just like to say who the hell do you think you are coming to these conclusions. I originally posted a message asking for help (on page 5)as my cousin is having similar problems to all the other people on this web site. So why assume (once again) that I am using this web site incorrectly. I am simply trying to get an understanding to why she is acting in this way.

[sandra2054]

I can't seem to email you my email is sandra2054@yahoo.com
there seems to be a permanent error, do u have another email

Hi

Sorry it's taken so long, I've been away for a week due to something
urgent so have not had the chance to reply. Ive decided to give you a
bit more background to our only 8 year old daughter to see if you can
help- sorry its a bit long

Originally we took her out of Pampers by 3 but as with all children
she still wet the bed and had frequent wetting accidents so we used
disposable nappies intermittently. These didn't really help as she got
older she wet more frequently, needed to many changes and sometimes
they
leaked and she got nappy rash.

We continued Pampers till she was 5 and started searching for other
disposables, we switched many brands but they didn't really help so we
decided to use terry towelling nappies- as suggested by our doctor who
found nothing wrong wih her. He just said she's one of those girls who
may take longer to get dry. We've tried everything making her wee
before
bed, limiting her water intake, using alarms etc. and nothing works and
I'm just sick of changing wet beds every morning.
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We went along with that and when she was almost 6 we bought terry
towelling nappies from Drylife. As these nappies were designed for
older
children/adults (36'' by 36'') they were thicker and bigger and had the
same baby softness. We were afraid that she would know we were making
her wear these nappies like a baby so we told her they weren't nappies.
After a few nights she seemed to really enjoy wearing them even telling
me to change her into a nappy and every night she pulls down her
underwear- we usually change her on the bed and use 2 terries into a
kite
shape with a folded one to act as a soaker. These nappies have really
help
as they are more absorbent and she always says that they are
comfortable. Sometimes when we nappy her she's actually dry in the
morning and
her terries is only slightly damp with a small patch where as when we
take the nappy off she always wets the bed. But as she walks to the
bathroom or gets out of bed she starts to lose control and goes
toilet in her nappies- she never poos in them. Sometimes during the
night she wakes up sits on the bed and when i ask her if she needs to
go
she says no and than starts to wet her nappies.

We try to encourage her to wee before bed and sometimes she refuses
to but rusehes to my room to wear the towelling nappies instead. As the
plastic pants creates stretch marks on her legs we pull over a pair of
cotton triners ontop of them as they help absorb her wee and are
silent. To help the nappy stop sagging she also wears a white onesie.
The
problem is changing the nappies is a hassle unlike disposables
I have to fold tjem, pin them as well as wash and dry them as well.
At home she goes through about 4 changes a day including at night.

The problem is that i think she enjoys her nappies and wetting in
them. Even so she
has asked to wear them all the time but I only limit it to bedtimes
or when we're out/in the car.

I don't know if terries are making this worse, it's just that I don't
want wee everywhere when I leave her in pants, she doesn't seem to feel
ashamed even though i call her baby or say that I will tell everyone.
When we're out I simply put her dress over her onesies.

sandra

[sandra2054-1]

It's Sandra again

Just to se if you can explain why she like terry towelling nappies so much.
She seems only willing to wee in them and to use them as a toilet rather than the actual toilet itself.

I don't know if it's the towelling nappy material she likes as she says she doesnt like disposables, pampers etc. She only says they feel comfy, could it be the fact that I use 2 terries and a soaker all made out of terry cloth. Is terry towelling material exclusively used for nappies or is it used for others things as well ? I know they feel soft and babyish. And the fact that she likes it when I tell her to take them to the washing machine and having to hang them up.

Do kids actually like wear a terry towelling nappies ?

[parentof1]

I am a mother to a child of 11, he wets regualrly and has done since being a baby. He did grow out of nappies for a time while around the age of 6-7 but then started wetting and pooing again at night so my partner and I decided to try nappies again for a time. The times we needed to do this increased and he now wears most of the time. He wears pads at school and we have to nappy him for most evenings and he gets distracted by TV etc and often wets in the evenings without warning. He does wet at school but sorts his own pads out.
He is not totally happy about wearing nappies but we have tried all the other methods with no luck. He originally felt like a baby but no understands the need to keep dry. I do most of the changing but I often find that his need to go is restricted until he lies down and I undo the nappy (we use disposables for ease). I am often covered in pee as I open the nappy, which embarasses him. I have also noticed that he gets excited when I open the nappy. I am worried this is something he now enjoys secretly. I also do not enjoy changing my boy of 11...he messes heavily in his nappy. He also tells me that he has messed and seems to get satisfaction from me changing him. I have tried not nappying but he asks for it and then poos/pees anyway if not in a nappy.
Any ideas?

[Guest]

Please help.....my son is almost 15 YEARS OLD!!!! and wets the bed.....but i think it is deeper than that,as he said he likes to do it. We went to the doctor and he said he had a problem controlling it. Which i can accept but he refuses to wear drynites, so i came to a agreement with him that he could wear a disposable. Does anybody know waht kind of disposable will fit him. Im worried about getting it wrong, as money is tight, so can anyone tell me what size i can use or tell me of ones i can get in a supermarket.....thanks

Jennie

[problem_solved]

Please help.....my son is almost 15 YEARS OLD!!!! and wets the bed.....but i think it is deeper than that,as he said he likes to do it. We went to the doctor and he said he had a problem controlling it. Which i can accept but he refuses to wear drynites, so i came to a agreement with him that he could wear a disposable. Does anybody know waht kind of disposable will fit him. Im worried about getting it wrong, as money is tight, so can anyone tell me what size i can use or tell me of ones i can get in a supermarket.....thanks

Jennie

Hi Jennie
there are many types of disposables on the market today, but i would say the best and most absorbant would be the "Tena Slip" nappy. These come in different sizes and are very absorbant, even for heavy wetness. you can get these from the local Pharmacy. As you son has a medical condition, you might be able to get these FREE from the NHS (if you are in england) if you are in the US, then i know for certain that you can get the disposables from the goverment.

I hope this helps

[Guest]

Thank you for your help,he said he likes pamper though...would a size 6 stretch enough to fit him,if not I will go to the pharmacy

thanks again

[problem_solved]

Thank you for your help,he said he likes pamper though...would a size 6 stretch enough to fit him,if not I will go to the pharmacy

thanks again

Hi again

Im afraid that a Pampers size 6 will not fit him, they will be too small. the exact type/size you will need is "Tena Slip Super Small". they are exactly like pampers apart from with out the pictures on the front. they also have a wetness indicator, so any leaks into the nappy, you will be able to tell. Let us know how you get on with these. hope everything works out

[lynda1834]

I am a mother to a child of 11, he wets regualrly and has done since being a baby. He did grow out of nappies for a time while around the age of 6-7 but then started wetting and pooing again at night so my partner and I decided to try nappies again for a time. The times we needed to do this increased and he now wears most of the time. He wears pads at school and we have to nappy him for most evenings and he gets distracted by TV etc and often wets in the evenings without warning. He does wet at school but sorts his own pads out.
He is not totally happy about wearing nappies but we have tried all the other methods with no luck. He originally felt like a baby but no understands the need to keep dry. I do most of the changing but I often find that his need to go is restricted until he lies down and I undo the nappy (we use disposables for ease). I am often covered in pee as I open the nappy, which embarasses him. I have also noticed that he gets excited when I open the nappy. I am worried this is something he now enjoys secretly. I also do not enjoy changing my boy of 11...he messes heavily in his nappy. He also tells me that he has messed and seems to get satisfaction from me changing him. I have tried not nappying but he asks for it and then poos/pees anyway if not in a nappy.
Any ideas?

Hi

I would say the first thing to suggest is to get him checked out by a doctor (if you havnt done so already)

Also it is quite often that some children are known to have week bladders. usually by the age of 11 children are aware that they need to goto the toilet for a pee or poo. you need to determine if your child is aware that he needs the toilet. it seems asthough that your child is now getting into a routine in wearing nappys and messng and wetting them.
have you tryed not to use nappys in the day and only use them at night?

can you tell me how many nappy changes your child goes through in a day/night?