Guest wrote:poor thing

...i know how you feel, want to know how i know?
becuase i feel the EXACT same way...im 21 (22 in 2 weeks) and i have virtually no social life at all. these marks have ruined my life...people with nice bodies just dont understand how fortunate they are...im very depressed as well...the last time i went to a doctor he tried v-beam on me which has done NOTHING, then he came up with a new suggestion which was some bleaching cream that has ALSO done NOTHING...my next appointment is dec 8th and if he doesnt suggest something new then i dont know what im going to do ...i have a bad feeling hes all out of ideas too

I am 22 also, I will be 23 in Feb. I've had stretch marks since about 14, so since then... my social life has lacked completely.
I am off to the doctors in the morning, and deep down I know she wont have anything for me. She'll probably just tell me to lose the weight and they'll look better/different... but will they? Alot of people I know who have lost weight (I used a weight loss forum) said that their stretch marks looked worse after losing weight! I have about 3 stone to lose to get to my ideal weight.
Or she'll offer me some other crappy cream that doesn't even work. I know that none of these creams they advertise work. They don't do a thing. I tried bio-oil for months, it didn't do a thing. I've tried cocoabutter and that also didn't do a thing. When I last went to the doctors she prescribed me tretinoin gel... I haven't tried it much or stuck to it but how will that work? It needs to penetrate the lower part of the skin to actually do it's job, it cannot do actually penetrate the skin, so it isn't going to do anything, so I don't see the point.
Also the trouble is with these creams and other treatments they always say they only "work" on new stretch marks, that are like less than 6 weeks old and are still red/purple. Well that counts me out then. Or they are to prevent stretch marks... think I am a tad too late for that too lol.
I do know that there is no cure for stretch marks, no matter what treatment you try they will NEVER go away. I know there is no magic cure to erase them, after all they are a scar and will be there forever. I am well aware of this. But surely there is some kind of treatment out there (be it creams, or something else) that will make them look some what better. Not so silvery and reflect light so bad, deep and harsh looking.
All my stretch marks on my body - thighs, just below back of knees, hips, bum, stomach, lower back, boobs and arms are all white/silver because they are all at least 8 years old. I bl**dy hate them! they are disgusting, but I have kind of come to terms with them ones now because I know I wouldn't show off my stomach or legs if I didn't have stretch marks because I am not one of these lucky females that have long slender legs... I also have a flabby stomach lol. So even though I hate them, they will always be covered up anyway because of other reasons. The only people that would get to see those marks are me, and if I was to show them to someone. Now... the new ones, which are on my upper stomach (just below boobs) are new, they are dark purple, and swollen and look horrid. I have also gained a few more right next to my old ones on my arms (triceps? on the back of the arms where it joins the back/armpit) very visible when I move my arms. I cannot cope with these new ones as I feel I have enough already, I really didn't need anymore. Now, I feel as though I will now be having to wear trousers, long skirts, tops that wont show ANY part of my belly and now tops with long sleeves. So the only parts of my body that will be on show is my feet, lower legs (sort of) neck and upper chest area, face, lower arms and hands. The rest will have to be covered because I am covered in marks. Nice. I really do want to spend the rest of my life living like that. I am only 22 I have a long way to go yet. So in the summer, it's going to be absolutely horrid. I am going to get overheated because I will be covering up in clothes. People are going to look at me like "what!!? she must be boiling!" I am just going to feel the odd one out, and will get upset because I cannot keep cool, look nice and wear clothes I enjoy.
It completely sucks. I may also be moving abroad next year... so it's going to be hot pretty much all year round. I want to go, but I probably wont bother doing it because of my stretch marks. Everyone else will be walking around in cool clothes, while I will be walking around like a nun. All I ask is to be able to show my arms! Please, I'll cope with the other stretch marks but please I want rid of the ones on my arms! (well to get them to look better).
I also have a bf, I have pretty much hidden my marks from him throughout our relationship. Sounds weird, but I have been so obsessed over them I have never been naked in front of him or gotten undressed/dressed in front of him... just so he wouldn't see them. If he did see them, I know what his reaction would be and it wouldn't be nice. That's another thing, not being able to enjoy the normal things with my bf because I don't want him to see my marks. I can't undress in anyway what so ever in front of him ever. I don't want to go through life doing stupid things like that.
It's just stupid, it really is. It's making me sad, depressed and angry. I do seriously feel as if I don't want to go on anymore, I am so unhappy and I know I will never come to terms with them or be able to "be normal" in life, so why stick around I say.
Wow, what a rant I just did! Feels good to let it out though, I don't tell anyone how I feel about it all. And because I hide behind lots of clothes, no one really knows I have them... if they saw them, they would have such a gross shock.
Oh, I've been doing even more researching on the net and came across Mederma cream. Anyone tried this? Alot of the reviews aren't great to be honest, most say it doesn't work. Or they tried it for scars/acne. Only a few tried on stretch marks.
Also, what about StriVectin-SD for stretch marks? I only came across this yesterday. Been reading a few reviews and most have been pretty good. Alot of people actually use the stretch mark cream for wrinkles though, I don't really want to know about that lol. It is expensive though. Here in the UK, I think the cheapest you can get it is for about £75 for a 60ml tube (compared to about £25 for a 50ml tube of Mederma).
So I think if the doctor doesn’t come up with any suggestions tomorrow, I will probably go ahead and purchase some StriVection-SD (a lot of money for a cream imo). Maybe some TCA peel and then… I have no idea. I suppose I will have to realise there is actually nothing I can do to help my marks look some what better… whether I will be able to live with that, I really don’t know.
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