I would like to reinforce the effectiveness of this type of punishment as a current recipient of this type of punishment which my Aunt has asked me to outline to you as a further humiliation to myself and hopefully to encourage those with concerns about using it as to it's effectiveness.
My punishment began after I arrived at my Aunt's house (where I live) at midenight one Friday drunk, with a cigarette in my hand and was sick in the hall and then sore at her. The following day my Aunt told me that if I wished to continue to be able to live with her then I would have to accept punishment for what I had done and accept a contract that would provide appropriate restrictions. I had little choice to accept and given my behaviour thought it was probably not unreasonable (although had I known what was to follow this would not have been the case). I therefore wrote and signed that I was willing to accept whatever my Aunt saw fit to impose. She then said I would initially be punished as follows:
a) At home dress in a school uniform at all times - black laced shoes, brown elasticted school knickers, grey knee socks, grey shirt, brown tie, a knee length full front buttoning brown pinafore dress with elbow length sleeves, grey V-neck woollen cardigan.
b) All of my existing clothing to be removed from my room.
c) When leaving the house to be dressed from new wardrobe which consisted of a green ankle length pleated skirt, 3 pairs of large white knickers, 3 pairs of grey ankle socks, white blose, grey blouse, grey long sleeved collared thick front buttoing dress, grey round necked cardiagn, navy V-neck cardigan, knee length collared arran cardigan. All buttons to be done up at all times.
d) All housework to be performed by me.
e) No access to TV, music or magazines - only reading material - The Bible
f) When not doing housework to be confined to bedroom or made to do cornertime (and I spent several hours doing this).
g) No money, make-up or jewellry.
h) Hair to be worn in a ponytail at home and a ponytail or bun outside.
i) 8 strokes of the cane to my behind.
j) Speak when spoken to. All responses to end with Sir and Maam.
I was shocked particularly when she informed me that this punishment would last for 2 months to account for my previous poor behaviour. I quickly learnt the consequences of misbehaviour when I argued and my punishment was increased to 3 months and my caning to 10 strokes.
Having been dressed in my new uniform I had to empty my wardrobes and then report to be caned. Being bent over in my uniform, my knicekrs stripped to my ankles and then having to count and thank my Aunt for each stroke was a very sobering experience - reinforced by the following hour stood hand on head with my face to the corner, my knickers round my ankles and my dress pinned up to leave my caned behind on show. Following this I did everything to comply. My public dress was such a change to my friends that I had to explain why I was now dressed in such a plain manner and they of course soon disowned me.
Any lack of compliance my Aunt dealt with quickly and harshly with extra work, cornertime and on a couple of accassions application of a tawse to my hands. Whilst not made to appear in public in school uniform I was not spared the humiliation of being seen by people visiting our house.
At the end of 3 months my Aunt then spelled out the maximum freedoms of my foreseeable future if my behaviour showed sustained improvement.
a) No trousers. Only skirts/blouses and dresses - longer than knee length and with long sleeves. Additional layers to be cardigans/jumpers.
b) No jewellry or make-up.
c) Hair to be worn in a bun or ponytail at all times.
d) Curfew at 8:00 PM Sun-Thurs, 7:00 PM Fri-Sat
e) All housework to be performed by me.
f) Limited TV and only with her approval of content.
g) Lessons in dressmaking and knitting to enable me to produce own clothes.
Thus I am now just over 3 months into my behavioural improvement plan period. I am now allowed our to curfew on Mon-Thurs but am still grounded on Fri, Sat, Sun. On Saturday I remain confined to my room when not working or in cornertime. In my wardrobe I now have an additional plain grey skirt and a black cardigan which was bought for me by my Aunt. I have also with my Aunt's oversight made a green Gingham dress in my size, a pair of knitted green knickers and a brown knitted round neck cardigan. My Aunt has hung these in my wardrobe so they can remined me every day of the consequences of any further behavioural failings.
I am sure you can see from this that I have been thoroughly and deservedly punished for me stupidity and misbehaviour. My humiliation has been complete, I have learnt my lesson and the strict discipline of my new existence is deserved and ongoing.
My humiliation is heightened because unlike the other girls mentioned in this discussion I am no longer at school. I am an administrative assistant in a local firm and am now 20 years old. My limited salary means I rely on my Aunt for cheap accommodation and hence her ability to inflict this punishment including the application of corporal punishment which I agreed to in writing.
I can ensure that sharing this publically with you is yet another lesson for me and I can recommend that my personal immaturity made application of this punishment very appropriate in my case. The length of the ongoing restrictions and the need to display good behaviour to earn even limited privleges has certainly aided my learning. This is consistent I think with an earlier author who highlighted the use of behavioural improvement plans. I would add that in my case that the initial application of a more severe still epriod of punishment and humiliation was necessary otherwise my behaviour would not have improved so quickly and would recommend the need for both punishment and a remedial behaviour plan.
I have no doubt that if anyone raises further questions that my Aunt will have no concern that I am made to answer them particularly if they further help me to learn my lesson and my future place.
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