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[harryboheamoth]

I just want to say thanks alot for the advise on my last post very informative information.

Ok this is sort of a follow up on my last post but it's different topic. It's like this I met this girl _ like 2 months ago and we talked for a month alot. Well she says she loves me now and I think I love her too but it's pretty much all on paper and _ chat and we don't get much time to talk, because she is always so busy. I'm talking like 1 hour a day at the most she comes on and chats with me. I asked her to call me which I find odd that she keeps saying she will but then she don't you know. Kind of makes you wonder??? I mean what if we are not compatible in real life it's so much different. She says she is going to come visit me this summer but I don't know if I should pursue this or stay with what I have here you know? I mean I pretty much talk on the phone with the women here more than I chat with the other girl _. Plus I got to see her once a week for the past two weeks the whole evening and night time. I mean working with kids I can expect that and it's fine with me.

Anyways, the _ girl did'nt talk to me for like a whole month, because her harddrive blew in her computer and in this time I went back with the friend I met previously which was the 36 year old with 3 kids. One is 2, one is 8 or 9 and one is 14. Her ex does not live here.. We only went out together two times other than before when we met and talked on the phone. We talked about the supporting the kids thing she is not after my money at all if anything she offers to pay for things for me, because she probably figures I don't have as much money. She says that she has been independant for so long she don't expect the guys to pamper her children and told me she does not expect me to do so. I mean when we went out we pretty much went dutch I paid for some things she paid for others. We talked about my college and she is happy to let me go through and do well. I won't go into details but our sex life so far is very open and the communciation is excellent between us. We get along so well that it's almost scary you know?? We both share a very high sense of openness and we communicate about everything and anything freely and openly with no problems.

I know that while the girl off the net is 18 and very very mature for her age and has a lot going for her, I also dunno if she would really be able to share the same amount of time with me even as the women with children. Going to college for being a surgeon and trying to keep a perfect school record might be more tied down than having kids in my view. Also being a long distance from eachother and even if she visits won't be much time with her in real life. I offered to move, because I have already been planning moving on campus to a bigger college i'm in a community one right now, and she said she was not sure about moving yet it's a huge leap and she hopes we can date alot. I kind of think mabye I'm jumping too fast with the _ girl I mean I feel like I love her but how can I really know it's just not a chat room fantasy but in real life it will all be different. I mean communication is totally different in real life and I don't want to ruin something i have here with someone that I can see, touch, feel, and enjoy being with from time to time. I also tend to wonder if she really loved me why she don't call me, or talk to me more. It's kind of odd you know I mean even if her computer gone bad you would think she could make time for me. What if something happens in real life bad or she get's really busy do I get dumped off on the side of the road.

Really though I'm torn between both of these people in a way I'm kind of confused not sure where my heart is going. Me and the women here are just friends now, but I can feel her vibes and she can feel mine towards being more. What I think I should do is continue to see the women here and see where it goes. But in my heart I'm scared of that big question "What if this _ girl is all I know she says and it's right" The women here is also thinking about moving out west which I found strikingly crazy. It has been my dream for a very long time to move out west and start a new life. The pieces of the puzzle just seem to be fitting together rather well with the relationship I have with the person here. I'm just a little confused in my direction of this. Any feedback is appricative thanks a lot for taking the time to read my previous post.

[Bramble]

2 months is a bit quick I reckon so give it a while longer then get her number, if shes not willing to give it yet keeps saying she'll call you i'd say she's hiding something.
Mrs 36 with 3 kids aint the one for you so move on. Why am I so sure, you wouldnt even think of Miss 18 if it was right with Mrs 36.

[harryboheamoth]

Well Bramble I basically told the _ girl I needed time and that I was sorry but I was confused and I could not break it off with the women I was seeing right away. I had to see where it went before I could just hurt the women I am seeing now in real life. Now I can see a clearly painted picture, because I said about her being 18 and all and she had plenty of time. Then she said well I lied I'm going to be 22 soon. HAHA guess that means she is not a Douge Houser genius taking college courses in high school graduating with a 4 year degree at the age of 19!! What a load of crap she said she only lied about her age. Well that lie esculated into atleast one other of her taking college while in highschool.

Also she said that she was on the track team and they were going to update the sight in a week but I looked at all the pictures and meets and did not see her. Also one time she said she had different practices the same time she said march madness for volleyball one time and Midnight march madness practice for basketball same time period for both practices??? Umm umm is that even physically possible?

This _ crap is nothing but garbage people can lie so easily and hurt you that's it's sad. She said I was not being honest well I was honest about everything and look where it get's me a slap in the face. She also lied about calling me which she never did. About a month into it she said she would call me and all this stuff and never did. Was always some escuse why she could'nt talk to me or call me when she was gone for long periods.
I know it's tough to call a stranger, but if we really had a good thing going she should of not lied but had said I don't want to call you yet! You know I did not pull her teeth to call me I just requested that mabye we could talk on the phone sometime and she said she would call me. This girl is hiding way to much stuff and now I see it clearly it was never right to begin with. With all this cloudyness I have no idea how much she lied about that I did not know.

I really don't know where I stand with my current relationship, I need to take my time and see where it leads. However, being in past relationships now I can trulely see past the differences in age and stuff it's all about the person. This person just feels very very honest, sinceer and a very nice women even with ex and children. I can open myself up about all the little glitches that I may face and she is open about my feelings for it. She is not making me make compromises yet that I don't want and I don't want to judge her for that type of stuff until it would actually happen. If it's right though and in my heart I feel I can live with the compromises of children then that's what I'm going to do.

Anyway's Miss 21 aka miss 18 was only in my heart because I met her while I was just friends with the other women. I might of felt puppy love but I never really truely knew if it would work out. I think the interenet can just give you a false sense of security about someone. Until you actually meet them it's near impossible to know the real truth you can usually tell a little easier in real life if someone is total bsing lies to you. Right now though my eyes are set on this women and no one else the only reason I started dating again other than the internet girl was because she left for a month without talking to me.