Unpromising dreams

[LitLounge]

Ever since we're together my girlfriend has been having the worst dreams, always somehow related to her losing me in every possible way.

The first dream was where I was completely ignoring her, and she tried everything to get my attention but she couldn't. She's had some where I died because my heart had stopped beating, etc, etc.

She's had a lot of bad relationships and ended up being used by her previous boyfriends, they didn't really love her. She knows damn well that I sincerely love her and maybe she's afraid of losing that again? She has a new similar dream nearly every night. Can we do something about this?

[jinjin]

Probably as a result of her past experiences, your girlfriend is expressing anxiety and fear through her dreams. Getting over this boil down to building trust and communication.

[cherryred]

It sounds like she's scared of losing you in the same way she's lost other boyfriends in the past. All I can tell you is to make sure she knows you're not going to leave her. Tell her you love her, but more importantly, SHOW her. Stand by her side no matter what. The slightest hint that you're not there for her might be interpreted as losing interest.

These dreams should die down over time. As she begins to feel more secure in her relationship with you, worries about her past will soon fade away.