by suzzie76 » Wed May 09, 2012 7:14 pm
Just saw this. I lived in India for 1 year in 2010 as part of HB's work. Basically Indians are obsessed with marriage. The middle class is moving to find your own and get approval or heres a selection which one do you want? Many give up looking and simply let their parents look anyway.
There are claims in India arranged marriages last longer or less likely to fail. However I seem to meet alot of people that are seperated but not divoriced or have affairs openly or privately. In working class, a number of the drivers I met where on 2nd wife. A doorman at our place in UAE is Paki, he is building his 2nd house on his farm for his love wife. First wife (arranged) lives in other house.
So basically the so called arranged lasts is rubbish, they just still live in a society where its not socially acceptable to get divorced but do it effectively anyway. And divorce rate is rising, as usual change is starting at wealthy end and moving down.
Some one ask me there early on over there was my wedding arranged and I said no and said I could not even contemplate my father picking the man who will have sex with me with or without my approval. Once I became a bit more aware of the culture I was a bit more tactful. I don't object to the parents selecting and kids getting to know them and make decision yes or no. But like western countries, getting married very young in this day and age is probably not going to end well, but yes some do. A bit of life experience I think goes a long way to help you know who you are and who you want.
Suzzie
