by so_confused » Mon Dec 26, 2011 9:31 am
Ok I need some advice. All of my friends seem to not understand, maybe its just me. I am an aries and they are a scorpio. We started talking about three months back, he had been coming into my job for the last year on a regular basis. Every time I would see him I couldnt help but smile, he made my heart pound and my hands all sweaty. There was alot of flirting going on between the two of us, he was like a magnet I was drawn to him. I have never had that feeling with anyone.
So we started talking romantically three months ago, the first month we talked all the time. I was in a relationship with someone and am unhappy, scorpio told me that he was in the same boat and had every intention of calling it off because he was tired of the way she was treating him. Maybe a week or so after we started talking he started telling me that he loved me, wanted to run away to hawaii and marry me, he wanted to have a baby with me. Talking really deep and very serious, I told him that we needed to take things slow but I really liked him and it scared me. He told me that he never felt the way he did about me with anyone, he loved me more than I knew and it scared him. He told me things that he said that he never told anyone before and I was open and honest with him about anything and everything, I told him I would be truthful with him no matter what.
We took a trip out of state for the weekend and when we got back things started to change. He started getting distant, he invited his gfs daughter because he had one of his friends there with us and he was trying to hook them up. she went and told her mom where he was (didnt know that i was there too) and scorpios gf/fiance texted him and told him that he needed to come get what things he did have there and that they were in a pre-break up.
He went and got his things and became very depressed looking, he said it was because of her kids and that he and I were fine. He told me that he needed to have some reflextion time and think things out. We went about a week with out talking. We barely texted each other, I hate texting someone and they not text back.
He texted me and asked me if i still loved him and i told him that i did and he told me that he loved me more than i would know. I asked about his gf and we ended up getting in a tift i guess you could say, the next day he was telling me that I needed to stay where i was at and he told me that he still loved his gf/fiance. I freaked out on him and he told me that if i kept it up i was going to end up pushing him away, so i composed myself.
A couple days later he acted like nothing had happened and he said he didnt remember anything he had said.
He is with his gf/fiance, I guess they are trying to work it out, his things are still at his place, and he still texts me and we still have relations. we were suppose to hang out yesterday but they had their kids in the morning and then when I texted them they were at the mall. When I asked him about getting together he was like why dont u just hang out with your bf, I sent him several text after that and he didnt answer. so my family and i went out later that afternoon he texted me wanting to know what i was doing because he wanted to get together and have relations.
It got late and I still couldnt, I asked if i could get em something for xmas and he said it was too weird. I told him that he had bought me lots of things and asked if that was weird and he told me that was before. before he realized things about himself, when asked what kinds of things he told me that he didnt want to talk about it.
So i asked him if that meant we were just friends who help each other out from time to time and he said yea, when i asked him if he was fine with that he said that he was. When he told me that i told him that i was cool with that and honestly i am not, deep down i was hurting, I am so in love with this guy its driving me crazy.
When we are together its something amazing, i think about this scorpio from the time i get up till the time i go to bed, when i wake up in the morning I go and check my phone in hopes of a text message from him to let me know that he cares and is thinking about me.
The day before yesterday he was made a comment over text about how hot this girl was that i knew where i worked and of course my jealous flag popped up but i was nice about it and answered what he had asked. Then he made a comment about another girl that i knew that was at my work. I asked him I was like are you saying this to see what i would say and he said yeah like i thought he would. We got to talking about being jealous and i told him that it was making me jealous and asked if that was bad and he said no. So i asked him if he gets jealous about me and he said that he did, when i asked why he said that he didnt know.
I asked him if he got jealous because i was having relations with my bf and he said heck no and that i should be with my bf.
I dont know how he really feels, I am beginging to wonder if he says some of those things because he knows that they will hurt me... Is he really just wanting to be fwb, does he love me more than fwb??? Please someone help me I am going out of my mind.
.. and be assured, she won't be too easy lol.. she might soften and all but holycrap..I'm always unexpected [well, that's me at least] but Im sure she just wont be easy by any means.. and I think it's something that's attractive about us as Aries women.. I think she might've already told her mum that she liked you .. if she would introduce you to her and other family-members..seriously that must be SOMETHING [: .. One thing I need you to be completely aware of.. your intensity would lie in your eyes.. Scorpios eyes, real deep [inward, outward gaze + the sparkle added to them since they belong to water signs] .. Pisces and Cancer have a sparkle to their eyes as well but it differs in the gaze. While Aries' intensity lies under the surface 
.. so just take your time to reach underneath the surface and yes you'll be amazed! granted! .. 
lol .. thanks for all the tips. And yes your right she not easy (you know what i mean) And it is something i like about her! not easy too (uno)lol I love the fact you can be angry then forget all about it - something that us scorpions Don't do!. Most of all i love your Energy you can make an old man feel young! (not saying im old by the way) lol.. She is also caring although she might not show it like i would i guest she still being that "friend" and she has said she like me eyes "so i will use the power of hazel" when i say my lines haha.. So ok what is the things you dont like about us scorpios? the fact we can get into a moody one? or the Jealous side? which you lot can be to (so i have heard) she hasnt shown it yet tho! oh yer any more tips 
and I hope I hadn't written too much 
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Once we know in our heart that we can trust that person we start talking then it all comes out (well not all) got to save some info for the next time lol.. The problem we do get is that where inpatient, maybe thats the reason i'm feeling like this about miss aires. But i do believe she is the one! i think of her everyday and its drives me mad seeing updates on her facebook and some of the reply from other guys she gets ect 
. But i never say anything 
i just have to remember that you are very open and would say if there was a next guy (i hope)i remember when we first met and i was really on her alot "she told me thats off putting" so i stopped being too close, i guess i was moving too fast (impatient side showing) and she still stack with me 
