Scorpio man in love with an Aries woman

[Spring Goddess]

I am an Aries female who had a relationship (loving AND painful) with a Scorpio male. I would like to add to the above post that while Aries and Scorpio both express the SAME energy (Mars) they do so in different ways: one in its fiery aspect, the other one in the water aspect. The fire (Aries) aspect is direct and confrontational and out in the open, the water (Scorpio) one is elusive, indirect, and 'I'll get you from the back' mentality. Both are actually trying to express the same thing, just in completely opposite ways, that's why a lot of the fights between Aries and Scorpio are so explosive (and damaging). Also the added rulership of Pluto to the sign of Scorpio only adds to their depth and elusiveness, making the Aries feel like they are fighting with shadows on the wall. Scorpio will feel like they are fighting with a child who has no idea how to control their emotions. Good luck, and blessed be

[scorpioshadow]

this is all true..

[Scorpioshadow]

Hi,Im a Scorpio male dating an Aries female.I would just like to say that I can be a person who only sees black or white,its either everything or nothing for us.I can honestly say that when choosing who I wanted to be with,the woman I picked of many I narrowed it down to an aries just because she was very honest and at the same time very sexy.I also felt wanted and needed as this aries kept wanting,calling out for me sort of speak..feeling she had to do whatever it took to have me...God knows she was persistent because it took atleast 2years for me to give in,lol.Out of all the woman I've talked to,I never met anyone to leave behind stereopycal woman behavior to just be who she was.Despite an aries having problems in expressing her emotions,I felt cherishing this woman for her strenghts was much more worth sticking through..sexy,fun,childish,spontaneous..I can only admire and try to adapt and learn this trait aries possess.Its been 8 years since I met my aries girlfriend and despite the ups and downs,and fierce arguments,we tend to make up and build a stronger bond..Ive always been very open when the time called for it..especially to let my aries woman know how I feel..although it can be confusing when I try,words cant seem to ever justify these feelings..and the problem I must say Ive always had was that I felt she didnt love me as much as I loved her..from the get go I guess we scorpios test and keep testing hoping to get the right answers and reactions to enable us to really jump in to it wholeheartedly.

[lovergyrl]

Scorpio Man,

How can an Aries woman tell if a Scorpio man really loves her? All the mind games, silences...why treat us so badly?

[lovergyrl]

Scorpio Man,

How can an Aries woman tell if a Scorpio man really loves her? All the mind games, silences...why treat us so badly?

[ShiningStar]

I am a female Aries, dating my Scorpio man for 6 years until both of us decided to break up mutually.. Although we broke up, we still keep in touch. And to be honest, I still have strong feelings for him, I still love him and still hoping that one day we can be together again...

Amongst all the men which I had dated in the past and all the conquests i went through, he's the only person who can take my breath again, be love or sex. No one has ever! dominated me but I let him and I love it. A ram being tamed can be really feminine, and which is a good thing.

It is a challenging relationship but I believe that if both of Scorpio man and Aries woman can reach a good understanding and accept each other traits, this relationship can work out in times..

I personally think Aries impulsiveness and possessiveness can sabotage to a Scorpio/Aries relationship. We should leave them alone sometimes and give them some space. My man cheated on me with a Virgo woman before during our 6 years relationship because I wasn't giving him much attention nor care, but in the end, he left her because he told me that he cannot forget about me and he still loves me. However, it's really hard to trust him, there are times I doubt him, there are times i simply don't. Scorpio guys, remember this! If you cheat on an Aries, don't expect her to trust you entirely, you need to show her your actions but not words.

I know when Aries fall in love, we tend to give so much love, sometimes to the extent that our Scorpio lovers cannot stand it. We need to give them a break! When Scorpio tells you they love you, they really mean it. They are secretive because it's part of their nature. If I learned about horoscope (our compatibility) earlier before we broke up, we could have worked things out and I could have stopped acting possessive, jealous, insecure against him which cause him pretty much worn out from this relationship.. So good luck to all the Aries girls who are dating Scorpio boys! Things will work out, ain't too late for you!

[Spring Goddess]

ShiningStar wrote:

I personally think Aries impulsiveness and possessiveness can sabotage to a Scorpio/Aries relationship. We should leave them alone sometimes and give them some space

You are right, ShiningStar, I think that was my mistake as well with the Scorpio I dated. I did not give him enough space and let him be alone, but there was also a miscommunication problem in that he never told me he needed it, he would just become mean to me. I find Scorpio men very bad at expressing their feelings in general, and elusive as hell. They never know what they want, and when they DO get what they want, they are not happy with too much happiness, they always have to instigate and agitate and make things go all messy. The Scorpio I dated was very immature, so maybe I am wrong, maybe there are Scorpio men out there who are grown up and ready to deal with an Aries woman, but I have doubts such a relationship would work. It did not for me, and we tried *everything*, short of counseling. We should have done that, but oh well....we were just too different.

Also, one more note on Scorpio men: they are paranoid as hell, and very private. Mess with that and a nuclear holocaust is likely to ensue. I looked at my ex's computer once, through his stuff, and he almost blew the roof when he saw me, and completely ignored me and treated me like a stranger for a week. They have a strong power to dissociate their feelings from their brain, so they can be objective and appear very cold when they want to. *sigh*...so glad I'm not with one anymore!!! I'm with a warm and loving Leo guy, and after the Scorpio, it really feels like a warm ray of sunshine after an icy deadly storm!

[VeryBlingEverything]

Both very stubborn and persistent signs, but also both in need of a partner who is always on their side. An argument probably has an deeper lying cause then the argument seems to be about. Lack of attention? Lack of interest? Something more fundamental than just working late again. Try to get to that, by discussing in a normal or even soft tone of voice (it's very hard to argue when you speak softly) what's on your/her mind. In the end we all want to be understood and supported no matter what!

[tesstickle]

mmm im an aries woman set to date a scorpio man after reading all of the comments i think i should 4get the last 4 months _ chat an run for cover

[merigang]

Suprisingly, reading all these posts has made me feel better or at least understood, after yet another fight with my Scorpio man. I am a text book Aries woman and I love this man more than I have ever loved anyone. He's not even what I would have picked on paper but the chemistry between us is phenomenal. I adore the way he smells and looks, in fact I sometimes worry that I am addicted to him....so much for being a tough independant Aries chick, huh? I've gone soft over this guy!

I sometimes laugh to myself at how much I give in and back down to him compared to relationships I have had in the past, I dont think he gets how much I bend for him - but I just want to because I want this to work so much because when it's good eveything else pales in comparison- we are on fire! Sadly and like 98% of the posts here, we butt heads badly, we're slightly better than in the beginning and I say this 8 months into the relationship! but the one thing that ruins us is that we have different emotional needs and responses, especially when we argue.

I am a storm in a teacup when I'm angry and will be all 'Blah blah blah! right!! - now gimme a hug and lets have a glass of wine and watch telly' (done and dusted, yanno?) but he just clams up and retreats and goes into his man cave (office) and will not come near me to the point that he will not even brush against me in bed if he's feeling slighted or still angry, he's normally very affectionate- and this "cooling down period" could take him days.

If there is a red flag to a bull (or should I say ram) it's freezing me out and pushing me away. I just get angry and feel all indignant and start going on that 'if you loved me you'd understand why I got angry and just gimme a hug and get over it- like I have!!!'
It just goes in circles. He gets angry, goes all Scorpio and broods for days and I get angry and indignant and start up again. Rinse. Repeat. Exhausting.

He says to me 'When are you going to learn to just give me space to calm down - I need time to process everything and I cant just turn around straight away and give you a hug just because YOU'RE over it - it's just not in me!'
So at the time I think that's ridiculous and assume he's cold because he cant let it all go.

I have no idea what to do while this process is taking place, like how to be around him?? it confuses me. I feel like yelling 'What do I do while you are doing your deep Scorpio processing of all of this ? just hang around and wait until you come good again?'

It's infuriating- our styles are so opposite, I want it out in the open and fixed in the shortest time possible and he has to brood and digest and process forever.
This is what's doing us in. I try to give him room but it's like 'Can you give me a time frame on the processing thing? is it one day or four days that you'll be shitty? just so I know how to pace myself'. Ughhhh.

But when it's good I just adore the ground he walks on, we are like wondertwins when it's all normal, totally on fire with everything else. I love his sincerity and depth and in bed, wow....so very passionate and intense. He makes all the others (all? the 'couple' of others lol) seem two dimensional. Amazing, lovely, caring, funny, talented and can talk through with me any personal or work problem I might be having like a champion, great empathy and insight.
Except for me when we argue. This combination seems like a karmic lesson I have yet to figure out.

And here I lay in bed now on a Saturday night with a glass of sav blanc feeling like crap (insert violin music) because I know it will be days before things are normal again- all because I blew up and "got in his face" instead of "giving him space" (space schmace!!).
He's gone off to do a gig, he plays guitar in a band and I'm feeling bad- guilty knowing he'll be putting on a happy face when he's feeling like crap too.

Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? keeps going through my head.......why can I never find that Saggitarius man that Aries women are suppose to be so damn compatible with? where are these Sags'??? I'm yet to find one.
Mind you, I dont think I'd get over this man in a hurry and even with the awful clashes I STILL adore the ground he walks on.
In the meantime I empathise with you Aries women/Scorpio men combos. It's the very best and the very worst rolled into one - may the force be with us all!

[merigang]

mmm im an aries woman set to date a scorpio man after reading all of the comments i think i should 4get the last 4 months _ chat an run for cover

YES!!!

[merigang]

I am a female Aries, dating my Scorpio man for 6 years until both of us decided to break up mutually.. Although we broke up, we still keep in touch. And to be honest, I still have strong feelings for him, I still love him and still hoping that one day we can be together again...

Amongst all the men which I had dated in the past and all the conquests i went through, he's the only person who can take my breath again, be love or sex. No one has ever! dominated me but I let him and I love it. A ram being tamed can be really feminine, and which is a good thing.

It is a challenging relationship but I believe that if both of Scorpio man and Aries woman can reach a good understanding and accept each other traits, this relationship can work out in times..

I personally think Aries impulsiveness and possessiveness can sabotage to a Scorpio/Aries relationship. We should leave them alone sometimes and give them some space. My man cheated on me with a Virgo woman before during our 6 years relationship because I wasn't giving him much attention nor care, but in the end, he left her because he told me that he cannot forget about me and he still loves me. However, it's really hard to trust him, there are times I doubt him, there are times i simply don't. Scorpio guys, remember this! If you cheat on an Aries, don't expect her to trust you entirely, you need to show her your actions but not words.

I know when Aries fall in love, we tend to give so much love, sometimes to the extent that our Scorpio lovers cannot stand it. We need to give them a break! When Scorpio tells you they love you, they really mean it. They are secretive because it's part of their nature. If I learned about horoscope (our compatibility) earlier before we broke up, we could have worked things out and I could have stopped acting possessive, jealous, insecure against him which cause him pretty much worn out from this relationship.. So good luck to all the Aries girls who are dating Scorpio boys! Things will work out, ain't too late for you!

Great post and so true.........

[Mcloving]

Hello there people… Ok here we go lol I am a Scorpio male and my “friend” is an Aries female the 1st time i met her in (MAY 2010)i said to myself “she the one” we get on so well together she live about 3 hours away from me and any time she is in my town where together, But the thing is my feelings for her is getting deep. I am very romantic to her which she say she don’t like but i have the funny feeling she does but just don’t let on. She has even said you know me to well and loves the fact i’m always there! Also she has said why am i the ONLY guy she let to get away with my cheesy lines and romance without getting a slap (haha) i respect her alot and have never tried it on (jump on her or kissed her)which is a 1st for me lol. But i really want this girl but she say she not looking for a boyfriend right now! She a busy proactive girl which i support 101% but i want to do this as her MAN!! HELPPPPPP should i just tell her how i feel and risk losing her or should i just hate her and turn my back like us Scorpion can do??

[Aries]

Hello there people… Ok here we go lol I am a Scorpio male and my “friend” is an Aries female the 1st time i met her in (MAY 2010)i said to myself “she the one” we get on so well together she live about 3 hours away from me and any time she is in my town where together, But the thing is my feelings for her is getting deep. I am very romantic to her which she say she don’t like but i have the funny feeling she does but just don’t let on. She has even said you know me to well and loves the fact i’m always there! Also she has said why am i the ONLY guy she let to get away with my cheesy lines and romance without getting a slap (haha) i respect her alot and have never tried it on (jump on her or kissed her)which is a 1st for me lol. But i really want this girl but she say she not looking for a boyfriend right now! She a busy proactive girl which i support 101% but i want to do this as her MAN!! HELPPPPPP should i just tell her how i feel and risk losing her or should i just hate her and turn my back like us Scorpion can do??

..Hello Mcloving. This is quite insane, reminds me of me and my current "best friend" ..I am an Aries woman and he is a Scorpio. We started off just like you and your "friend".. I can tell you exactly what to do since I acted similar to how she acts now with you, what she's doing here is [trying] to protect herself from a new love which she already finds pretty much appealing to experience. One thing she is 100% aware of is the chemistry between the 2 of you! Gawd, this intense feeling I'm sure she's aware of. You need to tell her how you feel asap, you won't ever lose her if you did. Since it's what happened with me, at the beginning of our friendship, like after months.. he decided to make the 1st step and he said "I think that I'm falling in love with you" .. I mean wow.. I melted instantly and couldn't help but burn inside, what a great feeling you'd give her!.. even if she wouldn't say it back at that moment.. trust me, she would feel it enough, but she might try to hold back since you mentioned that she isn't considering a bf for now, I was exactly like this, and he understood completely and took it slow with me.. you need to assure her that it is alright to wait and that you do care deeply. I couldn't help but fall for him as everyday passed.. he's very kind and gentle with me and by being there for me all the time [even as a close friend] that solely has done the trick and I fell for him madly, we've been best friends for 3 years now, we like to call it "best friends" but seriously we are more than that .. we are so in love with each other and each time we try to date other people [since we are best friends and shouldnt yet act as bf/gf] we can't make it work and we run back to each other even more and more in love. In my case we aren't dating coz me and him aren't living in the same city for the time being but trust me when we do move in again.. me nor him could imagine letting go of the other, I tell him that he's the best thing that has ever happened to me and that I always knew it had to be him and he tells me that he knew he loves me from day one. .. So please don't waste the chance on letting her know in words, she'd love your honesty and would definitely feel that you mean each word you say. I think that out of all the men I knew/dated.. he managed and always manages to get me back to him.. he simply doesn't even try.. all he has to do is just be himself.. his passionate and soft side amazes me in every way and I'm sure if you let her see that unique side of you.. she would just fall for you. One thing you might need to be aware of as well, is that the Aries woman likes to be chased [well most of the time] and reminded that she is whom you love/desire.. you already got feelings for her, deep ones, so chasing her shouldn't be hard.. it isn't hard to make her fall for you at all, especially if you're a Scorpio, it's pretty easy if you found the perfect timing and caught her on the right mood... I'm sure that you can make it! After all you guys never fail to get anything you deeply desire. Another thing is that you should try to be a close friend to her, get her to talk about herself with you, how she feels and what is troubling her, LISTEN to all what she says, he does that all the time with me and I love it! .. As an Aries I know that I like to complain and talk about things that goes on with me and my life, so this could be a hint.

If you would like to ask more or just know anything related to this.. let me know, made this account especially to reply to your question. Just thought it's too similar to my story. Goodluck.

[Mcloving]

Hello there people… Ok here we go lol I am a Scorpio male and my “friend” is an Aries female the 1st time i met her in (MAY 2010)i said to myself “she the one” we get on so well together she live about 3 hours away from me and any time she is in my town where together, But the thing is my feelings for her is getting deep. I am very romantic to her which she say she don’t like but i have the funny feeling she does but just don’t let on. She has even said you know me to well and loves the fact i’m always there! Also she has said why am i the ONLY guy she let to get away with my cheesy lines and romance without getting a slap (haha) i respect her alot and have never tried it on (jump on her or kissed her)which is a 1st for me lol. But i really want this girl but she say she not looking for a boyfriend right now! She a busy proactive girl which i support 101% but i want to do this as her MAN!! HELPPPPPP should i just tell her how i feel and risk losing her or should i just hate her and turn my back like us Scorpion can do??

..Hello Mcloving. This is quite insane, reminds me of me and my current "best friend" ..I am an Aries woman and he is a Scorpio. We started off just like you and your "friend".. I can tell you exactly what to do since I acted similar to how she acts now with you, what she's doing here is [trying] to protect herself from a new love which she already finds pretty much appealing to experience. One thing she is 100% aware of is the chemistry between the 2 of you! Gawd, this intense feeling I'm sure she's aware of. You need to tell her how you feel asap, you won't ever lose her if you did. Since it's what happened with me, at the beginning of our friendship, like after months.. he decided to make the 1st step and he said "I think that I'm falling in love with you" .. I mean wow.. I melted instantly and couldn't help but burn inside, what a great feeling you'd give her!.. even if she wouldn't say it back at that moment.. trust me, she would feel it enough, but she might try to hold back since you mentioned that she isn't considering a bf for now, I was exactly like this, and he understood completely and took it slow with me.. you need to assure her that it is alright to wait and that you do care deeply. I couldn't help but fall for him as everyday passed.. he's very kind and gentle with me and by being there for me all the time [even as a close friend] that solely has done the trick and I fell for him madly, we've been best friends for 3 years now, we like to call it "best friends" but seriously we are more than that .. we are so in love with each other and each time we try to date other people [since we are best friends and shouldnt yet act as bf/gf] we can't make it work and we run back to each other even more and more in love. In my case we aren't dating coz me and him aren't living in the same city for the time being but trust me when we do move in again.. me nor him could imagine letting go of the other, I tell him that he's the best thing that has ever happened to me and that I always knew it had to be him and he tells me that he knew he loves me from day one. .. So please don't waste the chance on letting her know in words, she'd love your honesty and would definitely feel that you mean each word you say. I think that out of all the men I knew/dated.. he managed and always manages to get me back to him.. he simply doesn't even try.. all he has to do is just be himself.. his passionate and soft side amazes me in every way and I'm sure if you let her see that unique side of you.. she would just fall for you. One thing you might need to be aware of as well, is that the Aries woman likes to be chased [well most of the time] and reminded that she is whom you love/desire.. you already got feelings for her, deep ones, so chasing her shouldn't be hard.. it isn't hard to make her fall for you at all, especially if you're a Scorpio, it's pretty easy if you found the perfect timing and caught her on the right mood... I'm sure that you can make it! After all you guys never fail to get anything you deeply desire. Another thing is that you should try to be a close friend to her, get her to talk about herself with you, how she feels and what is troubling her, LISTEN to all what she says, he does that all the time with me and I love it! .. As an Aries I know that I like to complain and talk about things that goes on with me and my life, so this could be a hint.

If you would like to ask more or just know anything related to this.. let me know, made this account especially to reply to your question. Just thought it's too similar to my story. Goodluck.

Aww Thank you for replying its driving me mad thinking i'm going threw this alone.(since my last message) while she was on hoilday she text me and said "she missed me a little bit" which was a big shock and i said the same thing back Then after she got back from her holiday 2weeks ago she was in my town again with her family and she induced me to her Mum and family which was nice as a "friend" she wanted me to come to a party and so did her family members but i couldn't get a ticket in time. Anyway she left my town the next day and was sad that we never got to say bye! I have took a step back and so i think she has at the moment,so we haven't really spoke since 2 weeks ago, but its her birthday is coming up (happy b day to you-by the way) and i think that is the time when im going to tell her how i feel (i hope haha), I got her something nice for her b day which i feel will show her how much she means to me Diamonds lol i hear its a girls best friend. But i have a fear seeing this ring (NOT an engagement ring) might make her run!.... i do think she has feelings but she holding back, i know you aires ladies have and get aload of male attention which can get to us scorpio men but i have to remind myself it works in boths ways as im sure you know. My biggest fear is not having the same connection losing my friend who i have a great bond with (by telling her) and of course getting (rejected).. I have played out every scenario in my head,but I hope your right! I Just wish she would just say what i want to hear lol (but i dont think i would of liked it if she was to easy) thank you again! x