What age were you when you first married? The first time. ;-

[Winston Smith]

Coppers can be as corrupted as any one of us.

Oh yes. The best coppers are the ones that are able to think like criminals. It's like the old saying that the best gamekeepers are ex-poachers.

[C.G.]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage

[Who?]

I was 35. Not too young but still a doomed marriage. Do I win a prize for holding off until my mid-thirties?

[Lucylastic]

Right, that's all of you I reckon. When will Zia reveal all?

[ZiaAries]

Right, that's all of you I reckon. When will Zia reveal all?

I'm glad somebody reads my posts properly. I was gonna let is slide and not post again but since you bought it up... I had just turned 20. I couldn't even legally drink booze, but I could legally take on a huge responsibility that I wasn't prepared for. I wanted to back out of it, but so many things were happening at the time and I was too shy, too embarrassed, and too timid to do what I should have done which was run, and run fast! By the time you guys married at the age of 24, I had divorced, married him again, and was left a widow.

[C.G.]

Right, that's all of you I reckon. When will Zia reveal all?

I'm glad somebody reads my posts properly. I was gonna let is slide and not post again but since you bought it up... I had just turned 20. I couldn't even legally drink booze, but I could legally take on a huge responsibility that I wasn't prepared for. I wanted to back out of it, but so many things were happening at the time and I was too shy, too embarrassed, and too timid to do what I should have done which was run, and run fast! By the time you guys married at the age of 24, I had divorced, married him again, and was left a widow.

I hadn't forgotten!

[C.G.]

It's easy to get carried along by events on the lead up to a wedding. On my first wedding day, I remember knowing it was wrong and wanting to back out. A Rolls Royce pulled up to take me and my Dad to the wedding venue and I remember not wanting to go. I should have said no and everyone would have just had to get over it, with hindsight. But you don't feel you are able to when you are young.

[blondebimbo]

I'm 30 and not married but I have been with the same guy since I was 16. We just never got round to it and the longer we leave it, the less I want to be hassled with all the planning and expense of a wedding. I would seriously consider just going to a registry office one Saturday afternoon and be done with it.

[ZiaAries]

I'm 30 and not married but I have been with the same guy since I was 16. We just never got round to it and the longer we leave it, the less I want to be hassled with all the planning and expense of a wedding. I would seriously consider just going to a registry office one Saturday afternoon and be done with it.

Good for you. If it ain't broke, don't fix it!

I wonder if you are already "common law" married. Do you know?

[blondebimbo]

I'm 30 and not married but I have been with the same guy since I was 16. We just never got round to it and the longer we leave it, the less I want to be hassled with all the planning and expense of a wedding. I would seriously consider just going to a registry office one Saturday afternoon and be done with it.

Good for you. If it ain't broke, don't fix it!

I wonder if you are already "common law" married. Do you know?

Don't know. Not sure if it means anything legally.

[Winston Smith]

On my first wedding day, I remember knowing it was wrong and wanting to back out.

Ditto. But I felt swept along by events and powerless to stop it. I remember the night before...I was staying at my parents and all the relatives were down. We all went down the pub and I hardly said a word all night which people put down to me being nervous. I felt like I was on the outside looking in...almost like an out of body experience. It was a horrible, horrible feeling.

[Plucky_ Gold]

I'm 30 and not married but I have been with the same guy since I was 16. We just never got round to it and the longer we leave it, the less I want to be hassled with all the planning and expense of a wedding. I would seriously consider just going to a registry office one Saturday afternoon and be done with it.

Good for you. If it ain't broke, don't fix it!

I wonder if you are already "common law" married. Do you know?

I agree. I know many couples who are too lazy to plan and go through the wedding after being together for too long. I'm one of them. We only went to the registry and done with it since I had to be married to be able to come here and stay. Both my 3rd brother's wives werent married to him, they just lived in until one died and another claimed the first place. My US sister were living with her partner until they came here to get registered and fled to US, they were both already 46 and 56 years old by then.

[Winston Smith]

I was 37 the second time around.

[LightRibena]

I know many couples who are too lazy to plan and go through the wedding after being together for too long.

I would say calling it laziness isn't usually the reason for not marrying. After all, marriage isn't for everyone.

[Plucky_ Gold]

I know many couples who are too lazy to plan and go through the wedding after being together for too long.

I would say calling it laziness isn't usually the reason for not marrying. After all, marriage isn't for everyone.

I cant say for others but my husband and I are lazy. Also, since my family arent in HK and are spread in Malaysia , US and Canada, that makes lots of planning. That'll cost us more if they demand us to provide accomodation and air tickets. So, I couldnt be arse to plan it and kept saying no to my husband. Afterall, the parents are as poor as church mouse and wouldnt be providing a single cent, so why bother about their Chinese custom and please them?