Caught My husband cheating

[Maya1]

I recently found out that my husband has been cheating on me. he was caught as his girlfiend (one of many) decided to send me an e mail even the i choose not to belive this it was only when i went to his e mail address and found all the same e mails that she had forwarded in both his in box and his sent items that belived it. I also know that he has been paying out upto £60 a day for hotel rooms to spend time with them.

I am 29 years old and am not happy with him as he is controlling and suspisiouse all the time probable as a result of his own cheating and dont know what to do anymore.

please help.

[LightRibena]

Ask yourself, do you still want to be with him? If it's a no, then you should find someone you can stay with, pack up your stuff and leave. Perhaps you're not sure if you want to work on your relationship or not, so taking a few days away from him might help clarify what you want and what you can do.

Whatever you decide, don't let him control you. You can always do better than someone who needs to keep you knocked down for you to stay with them.

[Maya1]

Thanks the advisce it has made me think about a few things and I will be taking a few days just for me to think

[H. Franklin Layne]

Thanks the advisce it has made me think about a few things and I will be taking a few days just for me to think

While you would justified to do so, I commend you on taking some time to think things out and not just jump to the emotional response. I do think you will be better off sending him on his way. I firmly believe in the "once a cheat, always a cheat" theory. They all seem to think they are special, and their cheating and adultery should just be accepted as part of who they are. I think they're selfish, narcissistic cunts, and ought to be put out to the curb. There are some things that can't be forgiven, IMO.

[jenniferTT]

I firmly believe in the "once a cheat, always a cheat" theory.

I agree with Franklin. Some people just tend to find excuses for cheating. Think clearly and figure what you want. And don't cheat yourself.

[sexywife]

I firmly believe in the "once a cheat, always a cheat" theory.

I agree with Franklin. Some people just tend to find excuses for cheating. Think clearly and figure what you want. And don't cheat yourself.

your not cheating if you are open and honest, i just say "could you handle me having sex, how would feel about that? "

[MaxtheGaul]

your not cheating if you are open and honest, i just say "could you handle me having sex, how would feel about that? "

Have to agree with you, and what does hubbie say?

[H. Franklin Layne]

I firmly believe in the "once a cheat, always a cheat" theory.

I agree with Franklin. Some people just tend to find excuses for cheating. Think clearly and figure what you want. And don't cheat yourself.

your not cheating if you are open and honest, i just say "could you handle me having sex, how would feel about that? "

That is just a rationalization for to cheat. When you rationalize what, deep down, you know to be WRONG, you're still a cheat. But you're the worst kind of cheat; the kind that knows it's wrong, but too fucking selfish to honor your wedding vows. An "open relationship" is nothing but a shack up, and those that do that when married, are plain WEAK. They make me sick!

[sexywife]

your not cheating if you are open and honest, i just say "could you handle me having sex, how would feel about that? "

Have to agree with you, and what does hubbie say?

Actually my hubby lets me, he lets me have fun. Girls I really recommend as least doing this once in you life!

[MaxtheGaul]

as long as he doesn't allow you too often.

[none of the above]

Actually my hubby lets me, he lets me have fun. Girls I really recommend as least doing this once in you life!

I need no "permission" from anyone to have fun.

And if I wanted to shag about I certainly wouldn't bother getting married.

[H. Franklin Layne]

I'd like to be a fly on the wall in their divorce court hearing.......I bet he won't be quite as generous with his "approval" when the terms of divorce based on adultery are being negotiated! I'll provide the cat calls and whistles when hubby's lawyer makes HER pay spousal support!