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Microgynon ruining my relationship

Postby Jill23 » Fri Jul 06, 2012 11:13 pm

Hi everyone,

I am 22 years old and have been taking Microgynon 30 since the age of 16. I have been with my boyfriend since then and until about 2 and a half years ago had a good sex life. About 3 years ago I started to have some pain during and after sex. It was a burning feeling similar to that of a urine infection and afterwards for hours I would feel like I was bursting for the loo. This led to me gradually losing interest in sex and I could probably say that over the last 2 1/2 years we have had sex about 10 (if even that) times. About a year and a half ago we were attempting to have sex when I got unbelievable pain which meant that penetration was impossible (it felt like a knife was trying to enter!) so I went to the doctor, who said I was suffering from a muscle spasm and gave me a muscle relaxant. I work in a Pharmacy and know that this was probably just to get me out of the door! Since getting that however I've pretty much made almost no attempt at sex but the main problem is not only do I fear that it will be painful but getting more to the point, I have absolutely no sex drive whatsoever!! THIS HAS BECOME A MAJOR PROBLEM!!

My boyfriend and I are now on, what we are calling 'a break'. The thing is we still love each other and really want a future together but recently we have grown apart. The more I think about it the more I realise that the lack of sex has actually been a bigger issue than either of us has been able to admit. I think the lack of physical intimacy has led to use growing apart. This led me to investigate more of the side effects of Microgynon on sites like this one and I've seen how many women are tired, demotivated, moody and depressed. I thought that it was just me being a total Bleet to him but the more I think about it the more I think that my pill may be to blame as I never used to be like this. So I am thinking about coming off Microgynon 30 and have an appointment with my doctor (a different one who won't just palm me off with some pills that are no good to me!) on Thursday to decide the best option. I want to get my sex drive back and get our physical relationship back on track and stop being such a snippy Bleet! But I need contraception too. I'm scared that no matter what pill I take I'll be the same. Can anyone recommend a pill that may be better? I was thinking of the mini pill possibly Cerazette but there's some stories onlibe about that too. I have no idea what to do really, was also considering the implant but don't fancy that being in my arm. Or give me any advice on what I can do to get things working again? I'm fed up of feeling the way I do and its not fair on him.

Please help, I want my boyfriend back :'(
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Re: Microgynon ruining my relationship

Postby Surrey Girl » Sat Jul 07, 2012 2:38 am

I can well understand why you would have gone off sex if you constantly associate it with pain and discomfort. I feel for you, I really do.

No one can recommend a pill for you honey... different people respond differently to them all. You just have to try and see I'm afraid.

I would suggest that maybe a first port of call might be to come off the pill and go back to condoms. I know, I know, they are not sexy... but at least you will find out whether or not the pill is the cause of the problem or whether you are putting the cart before the horse. If you still find sex uncomfortable with no pill at all, then clearly there is a more significant problem.
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Re: Microgynon ruining my relationship

Postby LightRibena » Mon Jul 09, 2012 12:49 pm

I guess it depends how quickly you want to notice a change. From personal experience I've found switching from the pill to condoms was the quickest transformation, switching pills can take longer to fully readjust.

Considering the delicacy of your relationship, I would likely avoid the pill until I was back on track. Get some more information about an IUD, it is hormone free and lasts around 3 years. My doctor had recommended that they're usually more suited to women who have had kids, but I do have a friend who had one put in. It was an uncomfortable procedure but hasn't caused any other problems.
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Re: Microgynon ruining my relationship

Postby Jill23 » Sun Jul 15, 2012 12:37 am

Thanks for the advice I seen a better doctor the other day who was great and suggested staying off the pill for a while to be sure that I've been feeling this way because of and not despite my pill. He said starting a new pill would just "muddy the waters more" so in the meantime I'll be sticking to condoms. I was supposed to start my pill again on the 9th of July after my 7 day break but didn't and believe it or not I'm feeling better already. I'm considering once things get back in track going on the mini pill or discussing the IUD with the nurse who I also seem last week, and who has given me lots of good advice. Thanks again :)
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