Sissy boyfriends

[Miss_Scarlet]

I know this topic has been covered before but I just wondered the general opinion out there....

My bf likes to be made into a sissy, wearing frilly maid's outfits etc and being told what to do. When we're talking dirty he always says he wants to be seen and I've sent him out the house on a couple of occasions or made him do the washing up (kitchen window leads onto main path). He likes to be the submissive one (which is fine most of the time - I'm happy to be dom) but sometimes I'd just like to have sex without him being dressed in one of his dresses...or for him to take control and dominate me. Also, I don't want others to see him - especially our neighbours....
I spoke to him about this earlier and said that sometimes I'd just like 'normal' sex, or sometimes for it to be dirty sex but without him being dressed up or for him to actually spend time turning me on rather than just assuming that I'll be turned on when he puts a dress on.

Am I selfish for wanting this and telling him?

Scarlet

[Rip Van Fish]

oh dear- how very sad.

[Miss_Scarlet]

Thanks. Anyone there who actually has something to say/has some advice?

[Tina TV]

You are not selfish in wanting this and you are not alone.

You've made the right start in that you both need to talk about it.

The solution will depend on you both and your specific needs. Might be as simple as a schedule, agree manly nights and girlie nights.

Or maybe a bit of different spice when you want the man to come out. You be the maid and get your botty spanked.

Or keep the "maid" locked up in chastity fo a while. "Play the maid and you stay in the cage, be the man for the day and I'll fetch the key". This really does depend on what you are into.

As for him wanting to be seen and you being afraid of the neighbours. Don't ignore it or he'll just start taking silly risks hoping for an "accidental" exposure. Better to let him do it in a planned and safe way, in America Halloween is a good excuse for him to go out dressed as a sissy, over here less so. If you have a local Pride event (or not so local if you're really worried by neighbours) then it's another place he can safely wear a frock for the day.

Don't give up on him. You've got a man who will like to go shopping, pays attension to what you wear, knows that high heels can't be worn for ten mile hikes etc.

Good luck

[Rip Van Fish]

sad, sad and............... sad.

[H. Franklin Layne]

Whatever happened to the days when men were happy to be men? The only time guys touched women's clothes was to get them OFF their woman?? If being a man is going to become a crime.....then I'm going on a crime spree!

[katielewin]

Sounds like an interesting relationship! I agree with the point made about talking it through as he needs to consider your needs/wants as well as his own. Never been in this sort of situation myself although I do know a number of girls whose men are into this sort of thing.....all I would say is set your boundaries to where you feel comfortable and make sure he understands, not sure that I would want my neighbours to know what I got up too!

[collegejulie]

you should both try to accommodate each others needs! switch it up. that will make for a better relatipnship. (sorry commenting on so many old posts and bringing them back to page 1.... need to hit 75 posts to use pm!)