Piepie wrote:I recently gave birth via c-section to our first child. During the pregnancy my husband did not want to have sex with me because of 'the baby inside'.I found this very difficult to understand, and felt that the situation and our handling of it was damaging our relationship. I had a very strong need to be physically close to and intimate with my husband during the pregnancy, needs which were not met. We had many discussions about it, some quite heated, some with hurtful comments, but we did not manage to resolve it. I felt unatteactive to and unwanted by my husband as a result.
Today my husband raised the subject of sex, he said he wants it, but hasn't known when the time is right as with a newborn we ate both tired and there isn't much time. While I am happy he is thinking he wants us to have a sex life again, I feel so low about it, and don't know how to move forward. I can't get over the pain of the rejection from last 7 or 8 months. I don't feel that he desires me in the way he used to, and my self esteem feels battered.
I wonder if he were to be romantic and seductive if it would win me over and the issue would be solved, but he isn't doing that, and asking for it would make sure I carried on feeling bad!
I love and desire my husband, and would welcome your thoughts and suggestions about how I can sort this out?
Thank you x
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