I have been seeing my current boyfriend for over 3 years, however things have turned rather sour and I have fallen for his friend.
This friend was also a good friend of mine, and I have known him for around 3 years now. We first kissed 2 years ago, but it was a drunken thing and we decided to forget about it and not let it ruin our friendship/my relationship. Anyway, since summer 2010 he made his feelings very clear and one repeatedly told me he wished he had a girlfriend like me, and that i deserve someone who takes good care of me etc.
I began to realise just after christmas that I had feelings for him and we started seeing each other. I am still with my boyfriend, however he seems to have neglected our relationship and doesn't seem very caring towards me anymore, which is the main reason me and his friend started having an affair.
It's got to the point where this guy says he loves me and I love him too.., we have even planned about how we will tell people that we are going to be together, because I have fallen for him so much and he has been so caring and loving towards me, I've not felt this happy in a long time.
Anyway, he stayed at mine last night and I couldn;t drop off, so while he was sleeping I played a game on his phone. Then a text came through from this girl he used to speak to. She has a boyfriend and she speaks to loads of different men, she basically used him for lifts and took advantage of him. Thing is my lover told me that he didn't care about her anymore and ignores here... but i read through some texts and he's still reffering to her as 'babe' and 'hun' and ending his texts with xxxx also she text him asking to meet him tomorrow and he said he wanted to.
I don't know whether to tell him that I know he has been texting her, because I dont want him thinking I dont trust him, but this is eating away at me, if he loves me why text her. She is very attractive, so i assume he must still fancy her and she is better lookign than me, but he has told me so many times that he thinks i'm beautiful and wouldn't change me for the world.
I acted funny with him this morning, but then just let it slip and he told me how much he loves me etc.
I'm so confused and don't know what to do... I don't want to end a 3 1/2 year relationship for him to find he runs off with another girl ..