Janice198 wrote:hi there,
I need some advice. I don't know what to do. I am 33 and my husband is 45. We used to have a great sex life until a year ago when he lost all desire for any affection. No hugging, no kissing, no cuddling or sex. Absolutely nothing.
I've recently had an affair with a younger man. We started talking on facebook; he was separated from his wife and one thing led to another. We were together only 1 time. I am devastated and can't get over it. I think I may be in love with him. I don't know what to do about my feelings and my marriage now. I know it would hurt my husband if I tell him the truth. I know you guys will condemn me for the affair but I am not dead yet and don't want to live like I am for the rest of my life.
How many HONEST attempts at discussing the problem with your husband did you make before spreading your legs for Mr. Right-Now? It disgusts me how easily and quickly jumping between the sheets becomes for people when they have a problem in their marriage!! I loathe adulterers, that is well known here. I've told family members that cheated on their spouse to fuck off after relaying how they felt they had a right to cheat because sex had become so infrequent, yet no communication was going on tot ry and resolve the issue. Sorry, that S*** doesn't cut it with me, and most people that still have an ounce of integrity. I would try to offer words of advice or understanding, but I think they would be wasted on a cheat. They all seem to have one thing in common, a sense that it isn't their problem and therefore they should somehow be forgiven, and relieved of accountability.
You just ruined your marriage, go pat yourself on the back, and begin collecting the fee up front for your services.
