Wife Pregnant By Someone Else

[bg85]

Hi mate,

First of all I feel for your circumstance, however in my eyes you need to look at this logically - you can no longer look at your wife and see if its enough to just love her and accept that there will be a child there too, you need to look within you and see if you have the ability to bring the child up with your wife, especially with it in the back of your mind how said child was conceived.

Good luck to you whatever you decide.

[splinkygb]

BG: Nicely put! You have to look at the longer term issues!

[zak]

Thank you for the replies.

All has worked out ok in the end.

First off my wife was not unfaithful. I'm not a cuckold but I do enjoy her seeing other blokes and also enjoy the odd threesome. The guy she got pregnant by is someone we have known for ten years or so and lives on the other side of the world but sleeps with my wife a few times a year as circumstances allow. Maybe this seems odd but there are many posts on here covering similar things.

Anyway, she had a baby girl 3 weeks back who I will be adopting with the full consent of her father. Her real dad will see her when he can and will help support her.

Once I got over the initial shock things made more sense and the hardest part has been dealing with relatives. We didn't think it was fair to let my parents think they had a grandchild and similarly not fair for his parents to not know.

All in all I wouldn't rewind time and we are determined to make things work.

Cheers.

[Miler]

I love my wife so much that if she were pregnant by another man, I'd have to get over it, support her and plow on. Divorcing her would be out of the question.

[allways]

Hi Zak how's it going with your arrangement. Does the father visit often? Some would be judgmental but whatever spins your wheels and it works, enjoy it

[rescuer]

Man I was going to say that if you two wants to work things out by staying together,that is TOTALLY up to the two of you.I know if I was in your shoes and doing the same thing as you two,I would want the same things.This is one of the chances of things happening when couples are out there having 3somes and swinging without using protection,if the woman is still able to get pregnant and I am sure that you already knew that it was a chance of it happening,especially if she was still able to get pregnant.Good Luck and hope it work out for you.Hey anytime the two of you would like to have me as a friend and talk sometime,let me know.