Help please Adult Dummys/Pacifiers

[shirleyb77]

Leave her alone doesnt do any harm at all....
If shes out snorting coke then you will be worried

[Babyseahorse]

Hi
I'm not so strong to write. But I would still like to come with a little chime, I'm a young woman at 24 who also use the pacifier. I really want to stop and would like to have someone to talk to in the process .. I have tried many times without success and this is now the final decision because I'm working on becoming a mother and personally I can not get those two things fit together. So I hope anyone who want to write with me ..
Tilly> I take my hat off that you have learned how to accept and respect your daughter's "need" for the pacifier. I think that I was missing in my childhood. I spent so much energy trying to hide it from my parents

-BabySeahorse

[ashha52]

Hi im am 18 and have been sucking on a pacifier for quite a long time and I just wish my parents were as understanding but thank you for helping me see im not just crazy!

[Xavier 2012]

Hi Tilley

Most adults have a creepy-crawly feeling when they think of a baby dummy. I had these feelings when, I was a baby till up to the age of nine. That was really different! Till that age, I never had a dummy, I hated them. Today babies have to give up the dummy at the age of 6 months already and the latest age should be two years. Why?

Fantastic from you, that you started thinking about, what your daughter gets from sucking a dummy. Gratulation to you, that you gave the dummy a try.The dummy has shocked you, to find out, how nice and relaxing it is to suck on it. Many people would get the same expierience would they try the dummy, but most of them have the creepy-crawly feeling about it!

I am using a dummy to relax and sleep with it for over 30 years now. I got the kick from a discussion of newspaper readers letters, that a dummy could stop dry, sore throat in the morning waking up and it helps to stop snoring too. I had always a dry throat in the morning , when getting up. I gave the dummy a chance and it worked very well with me. The dummy keeps my mouth closed when I am sleeping. Like you sad Tilley, the dummy makes you addicted, so Iam and I love my dummy and use it often.

Xavier

[Xavier 2012]

Hi Tilley

I think it was the right way, that your than 4 year old daugther, could keep her dummy after your nasty divorce. People would say, 4 years to old to have a dummy still. But you did the right thing than. The dummy helped your daugther over the upset time, that`s for sure. Later you tried to stop the use of a dummy, but she needed it still. As older the children, it may go more difficult to give it up. But force never works, than for sure, they won`t give it up at all! The gentle way may bring more sucess, if that doesn`t work, time time will bring it. A relationship, friendship, profession or just the age, can change their minds, it is time to stop now with the dummy. Should all this not work, never mind, there is more older children or adults still using a dummy. There is more people doing it, we can think off!! All this done mainly in the secrete at home or in the family, because lots peple have a creepy-crawly attitude about it.

Very good of you, to give in for your daugthers wish to use an adult NUK dummy. Now you have a nice, lovely daugther again, peace at last and you became good friends. ( After all the naggin and strow them away)

Xavier

[Xavier 2012]

Hi *BabySeahorse*

You should give up your dummy when your feelings says: " to be a mother in the future and still having a dummy does`t go together. Just get over it, no more dummy!

Or isn`t it that simple? Your feelings for the dummy is stronger, you can`t miss it. There is the other way, Baby and mother using a dummy. What is wrong on that? I am sure, that can work out well too. I had contacts to a couple, both using a NUK adult dummy/pacifier. Than 2007 little Domminik was born. The first weeks he didn`t like the dummy, after a while he took it. He should be next month 5 years old. The couple is gone quiet on the I-net, because lots of people couldn`t accept what they doing. They really let them know it.

With your child growing up, explain, when it can understand, what you are doing and that mama also likes a dummy. Tell, that all mamies (most) don`t have a dummy, but your special.Tell, other people don`t like mamies with a dummy, they think is no good (bad), dummies only for Babys. So other people shouldn`t know it, that mama still have a dummy. Explain, only you and the child know about it. On You Tube, you can see baby and mother sharing a dummy. (Mama, Granny stealing, sharing the dummy/pacifier) The child will easely understand you, it is innocent. Not like most adults with full off prejustice! Listen to you, do what you feel like is good for you. Don`t listen what other people may think (bad) about it.

Xavier

[chas.k.parr]

Thought I would update this blog. My daughter has now got a boy friend it took her two weeks to tell him about the Dummy habit but when she did he just smiled and said thats fine she now uses her dummies in front of him and he realy don't care. We have just bought some more dummies from Nuk in Germany and they arrived yesterday so we have got plenty of spare's it is cheaper to buy in bulk because of the postage. She has just looked over my sholder and has asked me to say if there is anyone that reads this and is into dummies and wants to contact her then just post a reply and she will contact them. I will keep an eye on this because of her age but any genuine message I will pass on to her.
Tilley

Hey Tilley2010, does your daughter still use her dummys?

[Janepeersmorgan]

Hi there, my daughter started using a dummy at bedtimes at age 15. I do not know if it was loosing friends which started it or exam pressures or whether it was through babysitting her niece but she enjoys it. Now shes 17 and although I don't think she uses it every night I do occasionally see her with it when shes in bed or sometimes when shes studying. I dont have a problem with it as its not harmful to her and helps her to relax. I think that so long as your daughters teeth are not being halmed that it is perfectly fine for her to have it.

[Steph123]

Hi,
it was so nice to read how understanding you are of your kids . I'm 19 now and still have a dummy at bedtime and i darent even speak to my mum about it. . Personally i dont see the harm i used to suck my thumb untill i started using a dummy and that made my teeth have a really big gap and stick out so i had to have braces and even though i tried to stop the thumb sucking i couldnt and with the brace it caused my teeth to be really wobbley. So really i started with a dummy and all the problems stopped and now i have healthy teeth. aslong as its not affecting her teeth and its helping your daughter sleep and relax what harm can it do.

[michele 2]

Hi Steph123, Babyseahorse and Tilley and daughter .I commend you all for talking about life issues and being open and frank about it. We are all responsive to the environments we grow up in and have different ways of coping and enjoying our environments.I am in my 40s, although most say I am 10-15 years younger. I did a google search and found Tilleys story to see if anybody else had similiar habits. I have been secretly sucking a dummy/soother on and of since my late teens.I have tried to give it away a few times sometimes lasting 6 months without the dummy. I am single and have always feared that people staying or visiting may discover a bag of dummies as I sometimes forget where I put them.Sometimes after giving up for months, I have these cravings to have the soother back. It is like a home coming. I could have my dummy all day with a good book.It gives me so much comfort and relaxes me. Maybe that is why I look younger for my age. I have had the NUK5 for about 2 years. I much prefer these larger soothers. I have heard that soothers have been used to calm adults with mental health conditions. I have been caught out a few times over the years with the dummy by passers by whilst reading in the car which is very embarrasing. lucky these people did not know me. Well its good to see there are others out there with one of my habits/pleasures. We should feel just like normal people, and don`t feel we are oddballs.
Regards Michele 2

[silent786]

Hi everyone,

I have been using a dummy for a long time now, I am 32, it comforts me and I use it to go sleep. I just have a few questions to the people who use them, which ones do you like / using, I use mainly Tomme Tippe ones, I like the cherry ones with a round teat, they have stopped making them now, Tommy Tippee Classic Dummys, the old classic ones were brilliant, they have changed the shape and they are not the same, so I am looking for similiar products, I am not familiar with NUK ones but when I have looked at them they look flat and not round like the Tommy Tippee ones.

Many Thanks
Silent786

[michele 2]

Dear silent786. I also like the large round teats . You can get large round babies dummies in the USA, Australia and NZ. The NUK5 is not readily available in stores. You have to buy it _. It is round and flat, but about 3 times the size of babies dummies. You should try the nuk5. At least give it ago. I think it was designed for people with dental or speech issues. Its the one I mainly use at home. There are some days where I have my Nuk5 with me all day if I am home, giving it up for meals. I wish sometimes I could reduce my craving. It just gives me so much calm and relaxes me. I must admit I do suck the dummy far longer throughout the day than a baby does. Babies have more intermittant needs. When I have looked after a friends 2 yo toddler she has only used it for 2-3 hours. I do wonder if the interest in dummies as comforters is mainly among girls/women or are there guys out there also.

[tomahawkdk]

Hello, I am Thomas and I am also in my fourties, and I have this habit too. I don't sleep with the dummy every night, but through rough times it comes close. I have used a dummy (again) since my early teen years.

Yours, Thomas

[Tilley2010]

Hi All Tilley here sorry I have not been around for while I just checked in to femalefirst for the first time in ages thinking that there was very little response to this forum I had a plesent suprise when I looked. Well a lot of you are asking if things are the same well yes nothing has changed apart from my daughters school work that has improved a lot she is near the top of the class,when I asked her why she had done so well latly she just said because she was happy and chilled out. When ever she is studying she has her dummy in her mouth and is lost in her work. So I am so pleased with her and happy I took the coarse that I did. As far as I am concerned I still use my dummy I am totaly addicted now. I have ordered two new dummies from the usa from http://pacifiersrus.com/paci/ they make great dummies but expensive they have cost me nearly £100 for two we both like the look of the cherry teat dummies so because she has done so well at school I decided to treat us both.
Keep in touch
Tilley

[Tilley2010]

Just incase anyone was wondering we got our new dummies and oh boy they are great they feel so nice in your mouth and are a good fit for adults plus we both got a free gift with them.
Tilley