Hello all, the following story is a bit awkward... Went through something quite embarrassing, am blushing as I write this, but if anyone took the time to read and respond would be nice, very appreciated. Am too embarrassed to talk to anyone I know about this...
I’m a 50 year old single mom with a 21 year old son, we have always been close and especially have been the last three years since the divorce, we get along quite well most of the time. Despite this though we sometimes argue, but I’m not sure how to properly respond to what happened last night...
My son was in a bit of a rowdy mood, usually I am in good spirits but I wasn’t so much that day, but I guess he wasn’t aware of that fact. I was doing yoga downstairs in the basement; he came down and asked me a few questions as I was stretching, mainly about what we were doing for supper tonight. My legs spread out and leaning forward I had my back turned to him, and I guess my underwear was sticking out.... Because as I was in that position he grabbed hold of my thong and yanked it up my back..... Yes, he gave me his mother a wedgie, and not just a little one but a full out one, and he held it for a few seconds. My thong was half way up my back, around my bra line, so he was pulling about as hard as he could, I yell out in discomfort, but still he held on for a couple seconds and taunted saying "Wedgie!"
He let go when my thong started to rip, and just stood there grinning waiting for some kind of response. I turn to face him not wanting him to see my underwear that had been pulled out of my pants, I give him a stern look, and he backs off and goes back upstairs, an unsure expression on his face.
I try and get my head around it, but still can't. A few days ago we saw a wedgie in a movie and we joked about it for a bit, probably what motivated him to give me one today. Getting the wedgie was very painful, and it ruined the undergarment, but worst of all it was embarrassing, felt helpless and didn’t like it
When I calmed myself down I gave him a talking too telling him it wasn’t funny, didn’t appreciate it. He didn’t seem to listen though, and didn’t even say sorry, just joked about it.... At the end of the talk I warned him if he did the same thing again there would be consequences, but he didn’t seem t otake me seriously.
Two days later after that incident, me and him were arguing over various things coming back from the grocery store, again I wasn’t in a good mood and as he seemed to want to irritate me that day he joked about the wedgie he gave me several times, each time I told him not to joke about it again... But he kept on bugging me about it, so I tried just ignoring him. That worked until we got home, as we were putting things away, I bent down to grab something and he once again reached down and grabbed hold of my panties and pulled them up my back, not as far or nearly as painful as the last one, but because he did it again I was furious and again humiliated. I yell at him to go to his room, he again jokes about it, but I didn’t let him get away with it, I showed him I was mad and finally he took me seriously and went to his room. Shutting the door on him I yell that he’s grounded until I decide a proper punishment for him, he is to just go into his room after work.
No idea how to talk to him about it or how I should respond. All kinds of punishments are going through my mind ranging in harshness, but I can’t decide on which would be best.
So far, the only thing I have said to him about it is that there will be a consequence, I should probably stay by my word. No idea how harsh it should be. If you went through what I did how would you react?
Any input would be nice.