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[UtterlyNaive]

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[rescuer]

I am a male and would like to reply to your questions if you don't mind,because I works in the medical field.

1. I would say go see whoever it makes you feel comfortable.If seeing another female makes you feel comfortable,then do so.It's what you feel comfortable doing.

2.What do you mean by awkward?

I am sure if you talk to a nurse there at the free clinic you go to that she would make sure you get the help you need.Please! don't be afraid to talk to one of them about that and also,express your concerns to her about seeing someone.

[H. Franklin Layne]

Ok so I've never had sex but I still go to a gynecologist yearly cuz I was told you should go either when you turn 18 or start having sex; whichever comes first. I always go to a female doctor but I have no insurance now so I'm going to a local free clinic. I want to get back on the pill cuz my period isn't regular w/o it.
Question 1. Do you see a male doctor?
Question 2. Is it awkward?
Please keep in mind my girly parts have only been seen by my other gynecologist and myself. I'm really nervous cuz I can't ever relax during this (thank goodness its only once a year). And its always super painful.

UN, with so much time having passed, how did things work out? Did you get to see a doctor and did you get all of your concerns addressed? Not to be nosy, just wondering if a new doctor was able to put you at ease enough that you didn't experience pain?

[JustMeA007]

Utterly,

You are 27 and never had sex. How do you feel about that?

I often wondered why so many gyn/obn are against having husbands in the exam room with their wives?

[H. Franklin Layne]

Utterly,

You are 27 and never had sex. How do you feel about that?

I often wondered why so many gyn/obn are against having husbands in the exam room with their wives?

Because when it comes to male OB/GYN's and the intimate exams, some guys don't know what touches are necessary and which are going too far. That's why they have NURSES in the room with the Doctor and patient.

Yes, some men are that neanderthal.

[UtterlyNaive]

Utterly,

You are 27 and never had sex. How do you feel about that?

I often wondered why so many gyn/obn are against having husbands in the exam room with their wives?

Because when it comes to male OB/GYN's and the intimate exams, some guys don't know what touches are necessary and which are going too far. That's why they have NURSES in the room with the Doctor and patient.

Yes, some men are that neanderthal.

HFL, the exam went fine lol. polycystic ovarian something or other is not so fun, but i'm on the pill now so that helps keep me regular. the gyno(female) was very sweet and understanding, in her words, "I'd hate to traumatize you, that's the worse thing you can do to a woman, don't you think, traumatize them." She used a smaller instrument so that it would hurt less.

JustMeA, I feel peachy about it. ) I'm on my personal journey and enjoy learning more about me. Now I don't imagine I'll ever be a woman that has multiple partners, or sleeps with many men on rotation. Its all about me(no pun intended). I did feel strange about it before but now its just something that is, not good, bad or otherwise. For example, if a woman has had 10+ partners that's her business, it's not good bad, or otherwise. Why should anyone judge her for that or judge me for my age and lack of experience?

[H. Franklin Layne]

Utterly,

You are 27 and never had sex. How do you feel about that?

I often wondered why so many gyn/obn are against having husbands in the exam room with their wives?

Because when it comes to male OB/GYN's and the intimate exams, some guys don't know what touches are necessary and which are going too far. That's why they have NURSES in the room with the Doctor and patient.

Yes, some men are that neanderthal.

HFL, the exam went fine lol. Glad to hear that!! polycystic ovarian something or other is not so fun, but i'm on the pill now so that helps keep me regular. the gyno(female) was very sweet and understanding, in her words, "I'd hate to traumatize you, that's the worse thing you can do to a woman, don't you think, traumatize them." She used a smaller instrument so that it would hurt less. She understands, and clearly has a brain! Sounds like a keeper, as doctors go!

JustMeA, I feel peachy about it. ) I'm on my personal journey and enjoy learning more about me. Now I don't imagine I'll ever be a woman that has multiple partners, or sleeps with many men on rotation. Its all about me(no pun intended). I did feel strange about it before but now its just something that is, not good, bad or otherwise. For example, if a woman has had 10+ partners that's her business, it's not good bad, or otherwise. Why should anyone judge her for that because sometimes, it really winds up the more uptight individuals and some good laughs can be had at their expense! or judge me for my age and lack of experience?

[manxkitti]

A lot of women feel more comfortable with a female doctor. If you're more comfortable with a female doctor, go to a female. My gyno is a male, but I really like him. Previously, I had to be sedated before an exam because I would get extremely nervous. But not with my current gyno.

[suzzie76]

I've just read your post so glad it went well.

Some comments
Yearly, I've never been told to go yearly in Australia. No family history in my case.

One thing I read on a post a while back was having to completly changed and wear a gown. This to me is a warning sign and something you at times see on TV. I find it easist to wear a dress or skirt, not fitted so easy to pull up. The top or dress upper half opens and either no bra or front opening or maybe a stretchy tank with shelf bra you can pull up/down easy. This way panties down, on table, legs up, do the internal. Then sit up, pull panties on then open front and present breasts for exam. This way its fast and I feel more comfortable because I'm not half or fully naked, regardless of sex of Dr.

Even on rare occasion I have worn jeans I haven't had to strip off, Dr asked if I wanted a gown or towel, but no, just makes it take longer. Amazingly I'm happy to lie, walk and swim on a beach in nothing more than a G-string, but being half naked in a Dr surgery I don't like.

I find male Dr's will straight takers being very careful with their wording and questions and very careful with their touch, some female Dr's will say things like "wow nice large perky boobies" (I have implants) or talking jokenly like when your husband is "having a feel", remind him if he notices something unsual to say something to you. I've never felt the need to have a 3rd person in the room with a male Dr, but I started with female then one day a female Dr wasn't available for my appointment and nurse asked if I wanted to rebook and I said no I'm here I have to see a male Dr sooner or later, may as well be now. But I must admitt the look of the Dr, if he looks sort of creepy, I'd probably bail and I have felt more compfortable with male Dr's within 10-15yr of my age. Luckily I have not come across the "creepy" looking but probably quite normal Dr.

I know women who won't go to a female Dr and those who avoid male Dr. One friend stopped seeing a male Dr after she got married at request of her husband. You need to be comfortable with the Dr regardless of sex.