Husbands with pierced ears?

[Tina TV]

My husband wants to pierce his ears (both) and I'm not sure and have resisted to this point. He argues that I have two holes in each ear and he should be permitted at least one. Tough to argue back.

Mine are coming up for my first aniversary. At first my wife wasn't sure but now she loves them. Any excuse to go shopping for more earings

I wear simple zirconia studs most of the time and have yet to have an adverse comment.

[louise P]

Guest37
Great to hear that you didn't wimp out on having your ears pierced and now you plan on keeping the studs in.
I hope everthing goes OK at work.
P.S. Its suprising how many men choose Claires to have their ears pierced despite it girly atmosphere.
I know my boyfriend hated it when I did his ears. I suggested he came down to the shop at 5.00PM on a Saturday because normally its quiet at that time. Unfortunately it wasn't quiet and he had quite an audience by the time I had put the studs in his ears but he soon forgave me.

[Paperclip40]

Thanks for the response to my post. I am still a little (a lot) apprehensive about this whole earring thing. I know I shouldn't be. I am 40 years old and can make my own decisions. It just bugs me when people whisper behind my back and make snide comments about my appearence.
I had an idea on the way to work this morning. What if I talk to my in laws and wife and just explain why I want to wear earrings. Hopefully they will understand and there will be no snide comments down the road. What do you guys think?
I'm going out at lunch today to look for men's earrings. Maybe if I show them that they make earrings for guys they won't think it's such a ridiculous idea.
Like I said my left ear is already pierced, I just have to get my right one pierced. I always thought one earring looked a little lopsided. I'm glad guys with both ears pierced is more acceptable.

BTW, where are you guys all from? I'm from Canada (Ontario)

[Paperclip40]

Thanks for the response to my post. I am still a little (a lot) apprehensive about this whole earring thing. I know I shouldn't be. I am 40 years old and can make my own decisions. It just bugs me when people whisper behind my back and make snide comments about my appearence.
I had an idea on the way to work this morning. What if I talk to my in laws and wife and just explain why I want to wear earrings. Hopefully they will understand and there will be no snide comments down the road. What do you guys think?
I'm going out at lunch today to look for men's earrings. Maybe if I show them that they make earrings for guys they won't think it's such a ridiculous idea.
Like I said my left ear is already pierced, I just have to get my right one pierced. I always thought one earring looked a little lopsided. I'm glad guys with both ears pierced is more acceptable.

BTW, where are you guys all from? I'm from Canada (Ontario)

[louise P]

Paperclip40
I am in Essex in the UK.
I think you should go for it as well. Go and have some nice studs put in, I think plain studs look good on men. Surely after eight years you will need both ears piercing. Maybe your wife and co. didn't like the style of earring you wore previously, you might get a different reaction if you go home with a plain stud in each ear. Personally I think studs look the best for men, my boyfriend just wears a pair piercing studs most of the time and occasionally he wears a pair of gold cube studs which I bought him for when the 6 weeks healing was over.
When you go down to the shops to look at earrings, just get a pair put in your ears. What better place to show them off.

[Paperclip40]

well I did it...sort of. I went to Walmart and bought some stainless steel hoop earrings with posts. I put one in my left ear(the hole had not closed up completely). I walked around the store and it felt good to be wearing an earring again. It felt funny just wearing it in my left ear only, though. I want to get the right one piereced to so that they match. I drove back to my workplace with it in, but unfortuneately I lost my nerve and when I got back to work I took it out again. tsk tsk.
I hope to work up the nerve tomorrow. The big test will be my wife. She might hate it and want to divorce me (the extreme!!!) or may be indifferent about it, who knows...
Anyway, thanks for your support. I don't know why this is so hard for me, I hate being a wimp about this situation, I'm just a very sensitive person who thinks it looks cool to have earrings.

[Guest37]

Paperclip40

I am from the United States (West Virginia)

I know exactly how you feel....I too am concerned what people think...however, thanks to the encouragement of louise P, I was able to pass all of the obstacles I was afraid of...my father, church, and work. Today was my first day back to work. As I walked up the street, I thought that I would get extremely nervous, however the opposite happened...I couldn't wait for everyone to see my new look. As I stated earlier, I have gained new confidence since piercing both my lobes. Only three people mentioned it and nothing was negative. I also stopped by a local shop my friend owns and the first comment was..."looks like someone got some 'bling - bling'"! I can't help but look at them as I pass a mirror and can't wait until I can change the studs and try on small hoops, as well as other studs. I find myself drifting to the jewelry section of the stores to look at earrings when I go shopping.

Who cares what others think, go for it and keep them in!! You won't regret it. If my father can accept it, anyone can! If read my first post, you will have seen that I was extremely concerned about my father, as well as my boss. No I careless what people say. I actually hold my head high as I walk now. My brother told me that he wants to get his lobes pierced, and I found myself encouraging him.

As I said before, I am already planning my next piercing....I am going to get my upper cartilage of my left ear pierced, and will probably get the right side done as well....I too like the look of symetry.

Go for it and keep them in!!

louise P.....again THANKS for your words of encouragement....even though we do not know each other, your words of encouragement helped me find the courage that I was looking for.

Paperclip 40....don't give up. If I can do it, I know that you can! Good Luck!

[Paperclip40]

Hey, thanks for all the words of encouragement. I changed my mind about the hoops, I think I will start with studs, kinda ease myself into this earrings in both ears thing a little more. I like the hoops but it would be too much of a shock for everyone. Get them used to the studs in both ears then maybe down the road...
I think tomorrow is the big day. My wife has a class after work so it will just be me with my 3 year old son after work. I want to go and get my right ear pierced (the left is okay, a little sore, but I can get an earring in it, no problem).
It's nice to see other people with the same worries and concerns that I have. I thought I was the only one who thought like this.
Again, thanks for the words of encouragement

[Paperclip40]

Okay I did it!!! I now have both ears pierced. I'm the proud owner of two gold ball studs. Now the real test is when my wife gets home from her computer class around 8:30 pm tonight (In about 3 hours) I think I am going to write her a note to explain why I want to have earrings.
Let's hope I don't chicken out and take them out before she comes home

Once again thanks for the words of encouragement especially louise p and guest37. I couldn't have done it without your nice comments and words of encouragement.

[Guest37]

Okay I did it!!! I now have both ears pierced. I'm the proud owner of two gold ball studs. Now the real test is when my wife gets home from her computer class around 8:30 pm tonight (In about 3 hours) I think I am going to write her a note to explain why I want to have earrings.
Let's hope I don't chicken out and take them out before she comes home

Once again thanks for the words of encouragement especially louise p and guest37. I couldn't have done it without your nice comments and words of encouragement.

Great! Glad you did it....now just keep them in! Today was day two at work, and word is spreading throughout the workplace. I still am excited and glad that I went through with it, just wish I would have done it years ago. Hind sight is 20/20.....knowing what I know now, I would have taken the plunge many years ago.

I hope your wife likes it and chooses to support you in your decision...it is a wonderful feeling. As I was trying to make up my mind to go through with it, I read many different posts, polls, etc. regarding men with pierced ears. This forum has been the most informative and supportive in regards of this topic. As I searched the forums, I found a comment I think I will use as a comeback to those who say....."You know what it means when a man pierces his ear?"........."It means he is better prepared for marriage...he has experienced pain and bought jewelry."

I am glad I have been able to be an encouragement to you....it's the least I could do since louise P was such an encouragement to me. Please let us know how things go......and remember how happy you feel and let this feeling be the driving force behind your decision.

[Guest]

pierced ears for men NO

Oh I am convinced, LOL. Since when did you become president of telling people what they like to wear? This is the most rational explanation you can come up with? I am so tired of people acting like the fashion police. People have independent minds with their own self expression. Just let them wear what they want, it is not going to hurt anything, except closeminded views. Opening some minds would be a good thing.

[Paperclip40]

Okay, so here's what happened. I kept my earrings in until my wife got home. the first words out of her mouth were:Okay in one ear, NOT IN BOTH EARS!!
I thought oh-oh this isn't going to well.
She left the room and I sat there thinking that I knew this would be her reaction. She came back and had been crying (not a good sign). I suddenly lost all confidence I had built up over the last few days. I went and took them out and she said, NO if you really want them put them back in but you know everyone at work is going to make fun of you. And she's probably right. At that moment I gave up my dream (hopefully temporarily) of wearing earrings. I didn't want to wear one just in my left ear. I wanted them in both. All or nothing.
I really needed her support (not necessarily her permission) or this would never work. I would take flak from her family and friends and people at work and would need her total support to back me up. Later she felt bad that she couldn't give me her support and I said it was okay. Maybe in the future she will give me her support. At least the seed is planted. She knows that I want them. Hopefully if she thinks about it she will come around.
I hope you guys don't think I'm a wimp. Like I said, I didn't need her permission, just her support. If I was a stronger individual I could say to heck with everyone and just do it, but I don't have the confidence--yet.
Thanks again for all the words of encouragement. I will let you know if anything changes.

[Guest]

pierced ears for men NO

Oh I am convinced, LOL. Since when did you become president of telling people what they like to wear? This is the most rational explanation you can come up with? I am so tired of people acting like the fashion police. People have independent minds with their own self expression. Just let them wear what they want, it is not going to hurt anything, except closeminded views. Opening some minds would be a good thing.

I agree with you Guest. That notion of "pierced ears for men NO" is so outdated and closeminded.

[Guest45]

As as boy, when I was 13 I was taken by my aunt to this middle-aged woman's house. She made us welcome and asked me to sit beside her. She looked at my ears and made some marks on my lobes. She then took a needle out which had a loang and thick black thread already in it. After applying some oil on my lobes she started pushing the needle into my right lobe first. Ouch, the pain was enormous, and I tried to shift away from her but she held me very tight. The needle had now stopped and she tried to pull it from the other side forcefully to pierce my ear with the thread. It was trully agonising and I was crying "please stop it". At last with a mighty swoop the thread went through my lobes. She then tugged the thread in every direction to make the piercing uniform, and then pulled it out. I thought that was it, with a great relief, but was I wrong. She immediately piercing again through the hole just made. Again, when it came to pushing the thread through the lobe it was really painful. She was always on about both the girls and boys must pierce their ears (I believe in context of some ritual) especially boys must have larger piercings than girls. She carried on piercing like this, alternating the piercing from back to front and front to back after a few piercings. Then when it became possible to thread my ear lobe with very little resistance and with large enough hole she pieced it the last time, looped the thread and knotted it thrice. Finally she tugged the looped thread up/down/left/right, and oiled over my new piercing.
Then guess what, she proceeded to do the same on my left ear. I felt the same agonising pain when needle went into my lobe and even more cryful pain when she forced the thread first time in that ear. And again...and again. (she must have pierced it at least 30 times until a large hole was made). After that she looped the thread through my left ear and tied a knot, oiled and tugged the lobe. She then asked me to look myself in the mirror nearby. When I saw my pieced ears I was really amazed at the size of my piercings - at least 4mm hole in each lobe!! The woman said that the holes will close up 1mm and that I will be left permanently with the 3mm size opening. The woman gave my aunt some instructions on how to clean the lobes and also suggested to have my upper ears pierced when she saw us again in two weeks time. I said a definite NO-NO. We left the house and on the way I asked my aunt why my ears were pierced in the first place? And she answered that it was a part of a traditional ritual in our family to get boys ears pierced as well as girls and that we must uphold that tradition. I was very annoyed with her at that time mostly because she had not told me that I was going to have my ears pierced.
Anyway, at 45, my piercings are still 3mm big and I wear thick studs and plugs (and sometimes tunnels). I find that the woman who very painfully pierced both my ears did a good job agreeably, and indeed look very sexy!! (And yes, when I did go back to see her after 2 weeks of my piercing, she indeed pierced both upper ears very forcefully and painfully, using a slightly smaller needle and thread that time!! I now wear small and thick earings in the upper ears.)

[guest40]

this is in response to the last post from Guest 45 about the family tradition of both boys and girls getting their ears pierced according to a family tradition. I have a couple of questions. Are you from the UK? Was this a common practice of piercing ears that way at the time you had it done? I am fascinated by that story.