Paperclip40 wrote:Okay, so here's what happened. I kept my earrings in until my wife got home. the first words out of her mouth were:Okay in one ear, NOT IN BOTH EARS!!
I thought oh-oh this isn't going to well.
She left the room and I sat there thinking that I knew this would be her reaction. She came back and had been crying (not a good sign). I suddenly lost all confidence I had built up over the last few days. I went and took them out and she said, NO if you really want them put them back in but you know everyone at work is going to make fun of you. And she's probably right. At that moment I gave up my dream (hopefully temporarily) of wearing earrings. I didn't want to wear one just in my left ear. I wanted them in both. All or nothing.
I really needed her support (not necessarily her permission) or this would never work. I would take flak from her family and friends and people at work and would need her total support to back me up. Later she felt bad that she couldn't give me her support and I said it was okay. Maybe in the future she will give me her support. At least the seed is planted. She knows that I want them. Hopefully if she thinks about it she will come around.
I hope you guys don't think I'm a wimp. Like I said, I didn't need her permission, just her support. If I was a stronger individual I could say to heck with everyone and just do it, but I don't have the confidence--yet.
Thanks again for all the words of encouragement. I will let you know if anything changes.
Sorry to hear your wife was so upset with your decision to wear earrings in both ears. I understand your choice to remove them and your need of your wifes support. Hopefully she will come around and see that there is no need of concern. No matter what you do in life, someone will always talk. It has been almost a week now since I pierced both of my ears and have not received any negative comments about them.
Give her time and who knows, now that she knows how much you want them, she will be there to support you in your decision. Have you shared with her some of the comments from this forum? Maybe if she sees your concerns you posted and some of the responses of others, this might help her understand your decision and desire to wear earrings. Men with earrings is as common as a man wearing a necklace, bracelet, rings, etc......there are even men who choose to paint their fingernails and toenails today! Just because they have chosen to do any of this, doesn't mean they are gay.
I hope your wife changes her mind and chooses to support you in your desire to wear earrings. I believe if she chooses to support you, you with both notice an increase in your confidence. As I have said before, since my piercings, I have gained confidence and each day becomes easier....you don't even notice you have them in.
Hang in there and I know all will go well. Please keep us posted.