Husbands with pierced ears?

[Guest37]

Okay, so here's what happened. I kept my earrings in until my wife got home. the first words out of her mouth were:Okay in one ear, NOT IN BOTH EARS!!
I thought oh-oh this isn't going to well.
She left the room and I sat there thinking that I knew this would be her reaction. She came back and had been crying (not a good sign). I suddenly lost all confidence I had built up over the last few days. I went and took them out and she said, NO if you really want them put them back in but you know everyone at work is going to make fun of you. And she's probably right. At that moment I gave up my dream (hopefully temporarily) of wearing earrings. I didn't want to wear one just in my left ear. I wanted them in both. All or nothing.
I really needed her support (not necessarily her permission) or this would never work. I would take flak from her family and friends and people at work and would need her total support to back me up. Later she felt bad that she couldn't give me her support and I said it was okay. Maybe in the future she will give me her support. At least the seed is planted. She knows that I want them. Hopefully if she thinks about it she will come around.
I hope you guys don't think I'm a wimp. Like I said, I didn't need her permission, just her support. If I was a stronger individual I could say to heck with everyone and just do it, but I don't have the confidence--yet.
Thanks again for all the words of encouragement. I will let you know if anything changes.

Sorry to hear your wife was so upset with your decision to wear earrings in both ears. I understand your choice to remove them and your need of your wifes support. Hopefully she will come around and see that there is no need of concern. No matter what you do in life, someone will always talk. It has been almost a week now since I pierced both of my ears and have not received any negative comments about them.

Give her time and who knows, now that she knows how much you want them, she will be there to support you in your decision. Have you shared with her some of the comments from this forum? Maybe if she sees your concerns you posted and some of the responses of others, this might help her understand your decision and desire to wear earrings. Men with earrings is as common as a man wearing a necklace, bracelet, rings, etc......there are even men who choose to paint their fingernails and toenails today! Just because they have chosen to do any of this, doesn't mean they are gay.

I hope your wife changes her mind and chooses to support you in your desire to wear earrings. I believe if she chooses to support you, you with both notice an increase in your confidence. As I have said before, since my piercings, I have gained confidence and each day becomes easier....you don't even notice you have them in.

Hang in there and I know all will go well. Please keep us posted.

[Guest45]

this is in response to the last post from Guest 45 about the family tradition of both boys and girls getting their ears pierced according to a family tradition. I have a couple of questions. Are you from the UK? Was this a common practice of piercing ears that way at the time you had it done? I am fascinated by that story.

Actually, this was in a rural village in India and a very popular practice possibly in context of old religious beliefs. I wonder if such practice was common here in UK in the olden times.

[Another Guest]

As this thread shows, this is a hard topic for many men. I remember wanting to have my ears pierced when I was about 6 years old, but never had the nerve to do it due to family and work constraints.

I finally pierced both ears when I was 30. My girlfriend had jokingly suggested it a couple times due to my fascination with her pierced ears, and I should have taken her invitation, but I was still nervous about reactions of work and family. When I finally did it of my own accord she was kinda weird at first, but quickly came to accept it, and even enjoy playing with them, as I have always enjoyed playing with hers.

With the job I had at the time I wore them until they healed, but then changed jobs and don't wear them at work. I've never come to terms with wearing them around family. I've sure they would get over any initial reaction and deal with it, but I'm not ready yet.

I love having my ears pierced and would highly recommend this to anyone. Having the support of your wife/girfriend sure helps and if I had to do it again I'd find the nerve to talk with her about it first, rather than just doing it.

[Guest37]

You are correct...this is a hard topic for men.

I grew up in a very conservative family....if you had a tattoo or earring then you were bad. When I was in High School in the mid 80's, I started seeing more guys getting their left ear pierced. I distinctly remember all the comments my father would make when he saw a man wearing an earring. As a child having respect for his father, although I wanted to pierce my ear, I would never wear an earring in front of him because of his hatred toward the idea.

Now we fastforward almost 20 years and now not only do we see men wearing earrings in both ears, we are starting to see men wear larger guage earrings in their ears....some even stretching to sizes of 1 inch or larger. Although I will admit that I am somewhat fascinated by the idea of stretching, I just can't see myself doing this.

It has now been 1 week since I pierced both of my ears. I was extremely excited about getting them done, but at the same time, worried what others would say......remember, I came from a very conservative family where men do not do this type of thing. After visiting with my father that evening and letting him see them for the first time, he was upset at first, but never showed his disappointment to me. I talked with my stepmother and she supported me in my decision and said that he would get use to the idea. After making past my father my next concern was work......while people were shocked that I did it, no one has made a negative comment to me. They are shocked because they say that they didn't think I was the type of person who would do something like this, but they comment on how well it looks. They are even supportive when I tell them that I want to get both upper cartilage pierced.

I guess what I am trying to say, we need to stop worrying about the thoughts and concerns of others. I am currently not married or seeing someone at this time.....however, I feel that since the piercing, I am finding that I have found this new confidence in myself and find that approaching women is much easier.....before the piercings, I wasn't that ocnfident about myself and found it hard to approach a woman.

I agree with each of you in the fact that you need your wife/girlfriends support in your decision. Hopefully they will see this desire and support you in your decision. Now that they are aware of your desire, they will probably become more alert and will start looking to see exactly how many men have their ears pierced. Prior to getting mine done, I started noticing more men with both pierced....which aided me in mine final decision of getting both done.

Good luck to each of you and forget about the concerns of others....family, friends, co-workers, etc. If it makes you happy and if you are in a relationship and your wife/girlfiend supports you, then go for it. Ultimately you are the one that needs to be happy....who knows, you just might be the one that will start a trend at work and be the encouragement that other men are looking for and they too will get their ears pierced!

[Paperclip 40]

Hey, I really appreciate all the positive comments regarding this issue. I don't think my wife will change her mind about my having earrings. She said yesterday in the car that not many 40 year old men have earrings in both ears. I told her I see a lot of guys with both ears pierced and they look my age or are at least in their 30's.
Surprisingly, she doesn't have a problem with tattoos, though. She wants me to get a tattoo, but I need to lose a fair amount of weight before I want to do that. Maybe if I get a tattoo she won't be so against the earring thing. I'll just have to wait and see.

[a visitor]

I am a woman - 45 years old, and I love pierced ears on men! I've been trying to convince my 46 year-old husband to get at least one of his ears pierced for 15 years, and last year he finally gave in and let me pierce both of his ears. I love them! I'm not sure why, but I find them very sexy, a turn-on for me. I love to play with his earrings. He is glad that we did it, too. He works in creative field, so that sort of thing is not really frowned upon as much as in some other professions.

I am very piercing-oriented myself, with 10 in each ear. Now that my husband has broken the ice, we are both thinking about moving "below the neck" for our next piercings.

[Guest]

Hey, I really appreciate all the positive comments regarding this issue. I don't think my wife will change her mind about my having earrings. She said yesterday in the car that not many 40 year old men have earrings in both ears. I told her I see a lot of guys with both ears pierced and they look my age or are at least in their 30's.
Surprisingly, she doesn't have a problem with tattoos, though. She wants me to get a tattoo, but I need to lose a fair amount of weight before I want to do that. Maybe if I get a tattoo she won't be so against the earring thing. I'll just have to wait and see.

I am 37 and just recently pierced my ears. Men of all ages pierce their ears.

Hang in there, hopefully she will change her mind. As for the tattoo....thats great! I have a tattoo myself on my upper back and I am in the process of trying to select a second tattoo. Be prepared, tattoos are addictive....once you get one, you will want another.

How does she feel about body piercing in general? Would she be against a piercing that you can hide and that only she would know about and enjoy? Two years ago, while out of town on a business trip, I decided to get my nipples pierced. I had read many forums regarding this and there were different reactions to the pain level involved....I didn't think it hurt at all....quick sharp jab and a slight warm sensation. I love them! It is a piercing that no one knows about, unless you want them to know. Your nipples become sensative to touch and I think your wife might actually like them. You don't have to worry about family making comments or people at working making comments about your piercings unless you decide to tell them. Who knows, if she goes for a piercing you can hide, maybe she will go along with the pierced ears.

Anyhow, good luck with the ear piercings and tattoo. As for wanting to lose weight before you get your tattoo....where are you planning on getting it? Depending on the location, you might not need to worry about losing weight first.

Hang in there and keep us posted.

[Paperclip_40]

I don't think my wife will change her mind about the earrings. I tried to casually bring up nipple piercing. I said simply, "How would you like it if I got my nipples pierced" and she said NO.
I still think she's okay with the tattoo, though. The reason I wanted to lose weight first was not so much that it would affect the tattoo, but I want to feel good about my body and be able to wear a muscle tshirt to show off the tattoo during the summer. I think I would like to get a tattoo on my upper arm to start off with. I might just say to hell with it and just get it done and lose the weight afterwards. It might give me a better incentive to lose the weight. I've tried numerous time to lose weight(I have about 80 Lbs to lose).
I will keep at her with the earring thing though. I saw a guy while out shopping today with 2 hoops in his right ear and one in his left and I was so jealous.
Oh well, like I said, if I get the tattoo maybe my wife will be more supportive of the earrings.

[GUEST-NT]

I am a woman - 45 years old, and I love pierced ears on men! I've been trying to convince my 46 year-old husband to get at least one of his ears pierced for 15 years, and last year he finally gave in and let me pierce both of his ears. I love them! I'm not sure why, but I find them very sexy, a turn-on for me. I love to play with his earrings. He is glad that we did it, too. He works in creative field, so that sort of thing is not really frowned upon as much as in some other professions.

I am very piercing-oriented myself, with 10 in each ear. Now that my husband has broken the ice, we are both thinking about moving "below the neck" for our next piercings.

I am a man - 21 years old and have always dreamt of my ears peirced repeatedly with needle and thread until a large hole of about 3mm was made in each ear. I wonder if this is possible and where can I have it done? Would you know how to do this? Yor reply will be much appreciated.

[Guest UK]

I had found for several years that I wanted to get my ears pierced - was almost envious of men who had it done. After years I finally told my wife my interest and to my surprise she was all in favor of it. She even did a little research and recommended going to a piercing salon rather than a place that used a gun.

We went on a Saturday morning and I was taken into a room. Wife and I had selected steel hoop captive beads for each ear. 10 minutes later I had rings in my ears. When I came out of the room, I could not find my wife - they told me to wait. She came out of another room a few minutes later with two new hoops in her cartilage in right ear.

Since then I had a smaller hoop added above the right ring - just to look different.

Strongly recommend it to men who want it - be yourself. If you do it, go to a salon. You pay more but the work is so much better.

[Guest]

I say go for it! My partner had his ear pierced especially for me and he looks so sexy! Even his family commented on how good it looks!

If he or you dont like it all he has to do is take it out and it will grow over - its not like it HAS to be permanent like a tattoo. Let him have it done - he wont thank you for controlling him!

[Guest37]

Now that it is coming up on two weeks since I pierced both lobes, I have been thinking about piercing my upper cartilage. Both lobes are healing well. I have removed the studs to clean them and inspect the holes...they are looking good. I have tried on a pair of hoops that I bought and can't wait until they are fully healed so that I can begin wearing them on a regular basis.

When I got my lobes pierced, the girl that pierced them recommended using the long posts for the piercing...she told me that it would allow more air to get to the piercing and aid in the healing process. I always made sure the backs were pulled back to the end of the posts, resting in the indentation in the stud. I believe because of her recommendation of using the longer studs, my lobes are healing quickly.

As I prepare to get my upper cartilage pierced, I would like to hear the opinions of others. Which looks better on a man, the left cartilage pierced, the right cartilage pierced, or both? I know it is personal preference, but wanted to hear from others out there as to which looks best. What about a second lobe piercing in one or both lobes?

I have been talking with my brother and he has expressed his interest in getting his ears pierced. He asked his wife and she said that she didn't care....so when I asked him if he was going to do it, he said that he was and he told me he would let me know when he was going to get them done so I could come along.

[Paperclip_40]

Guest37
I say go with the second piercing in both ears. I am not a big fan of cartilage piercing, but if it's what you want then GO FOR IT!!! Whatever looks good on you.
I think it would look better if both ears were done, however, keep everything symmetrical.
I am sooooo envious of guys whose wives encourage them to get their ears pierced. I am thinking of wearing my earring in my left ear and once my wife gets used to it then easing into getting my right pierced. Maybe if she sees me enough with at least one earring she might soften up and say go for both!!!.
I shaved my head last week end (my wife supports and encouraged this, it was actually her suggestion) and I think I would look so cool with earrings in both ears, especially since I am now completely bald!
Anyway, I will keep trying to persuade her. If anyone needs support, encouragement or advice I'd be glad to help!

[Guest37]

Paperclip_40

Thanks for your input. I was thinking of getting both done, but my brother had suggested getting only the left side done. He has seen men with only their left cartilage done along with two lobe piercings in each ear. I have considered the possibility of getting a second lobe piercing in the future, but will wait and see.

Glad to hear you are considering wearing your earring in the left ear...since your wife supports this, I would go for it. I believe she will finally give in and let you go for the right ear as she gets use to seeing you with the left one done. As for the head shaving, that is something I myself wish I had the courage to do. I have always wondered what it would be like to be totally bald, but feared what people would think or say. My hair is very fine and is thinning by itself, so I feel that at some point in my life, as it thins on its own, I will finally go for it. Who knows, with the new found courage I have found since piercing my ears, I might actually go for it and see how I like it.....it's just hair, it will grow back!

Good luck with the ear piercing and tattoo venture and keep us posted. Again thanks for your input on the cartilage piercing and I look forward to hearing from others....men and women, regarding this topic.

[Paperclip_40]

Guest37
I have had nothing but compliments about my shaved head. It is very common here for men to shave their heads bald. I don't know what it is like around where you live. A shaved head and 2 pierced ears look really cool! You might like the look, and like you said, you can alway grow back the hair if it doesn't look good.
I am still building up the courage to wear one earring in my left ear. I put one in in the car on the way to work this morning and was going to wear it at work and see the reaction but I chickened out. Oh well, there is always tomorrow...