laylamum wrote:My 8 year old asks to wear a nappy to bed some nights but on the nights she doesnt wear a nappy she allways wears plastic pants. When she wears a nappy it is wet in the morning. She has recently asked for a nappy at bedtime when she was very constipated, her stools had been very hard for a week or so and she had had to strain very hard for a long time to pass anything and had had to do this both morning and evening, then for 3 days she couldnt pass anything( I kept her off school on the 3rd day so she could keep trying) on 2nd evening when she couldnt do anything she asked for a bedtime nappy saying it would be more comfey than just plastic pants which she wore and wet, next evening she asked for a nappy and when it was on as she got into bed she asked if she could do her poo in her Nappy- well I was shocked - this hadnt happened since she was potty trained, well I said to her if that was going to make her able to go poo then yes she could but this time only - It was strange changing a poo filled 8 yr olds nappy. That was 3 weeks ago - my daughter has been constipated for the last 2 days and tonight she has again asked if she can do it in her nappy , i dont know what to do, its not as if she is doing it in a nappy instead of using the toilet,she has been on the toilet trying several times today. She has no issues about using the toilet and always tries to do a poo before going to school, she is quite happy to sit on the toilet straining until she does a poo- although on a morning she doesnt have much time but spends as much time as she needs on an evening.
So to my question - Should I let her use a nappy when constipated? Does anyone have experience of this IE a child wanting to poo in a nappy as an older child,
Any advice appriciated
as a diaper lover i can understand that. The only thing that makes poo gross is the smell. once you overcome the smell poo can be quite comforting. Fresh poop is warm sometimes eaven hot. It can be gooey, mushy slimy. and for some it can be fun.
if i were you i would ask your daughter if she likes being in nappies and if she whants to be a baby again.
as strange as it may sound it could actually do more harm then good to discourage this. espeshaly at her age.
i would recomend that you indulge her. treat her like a baby for a couple of months. there will only be 2 out comes. one she will get sick of it and whant to be a big girl again. or if she is still enjoying it after 2 months, she will probably grow up with a fetish called infantalisim. Infantalisim is the technical name for the fetish i have. it has nothing to do with children. it is not linked to pedophillia. but it is a lonly and embarasing fetish. many people with infantalisim are to embarased to tell others about it. many people will live a single life, others will try to supress it and ushually fail.
there are many informational websites that aim to explain infantalisim. http://understanding.infantilism.org/http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infantilism
An awnser i found for a simaler question by a concernd mother regarding her 30 year old daughter who also likes wearing and using diapers.
Your daughter is either an adult baby or a diaper lover. Does she use a pacifier or adult sized baby cloths? Does she drink from a bottle? if the answer to any of these questions is yes there is a chance she may be an adult baby. In this case my advice to you is try not to interfere as she has an emotional and psychological need for the diaper's and being a baby. Any interference could potentially cause serious harm.
On the other hand is the answer to the questions is no than she is most likely a diaper lover. In this case it is a sexual need although their may be some emotional need tied in as well. Again i would advice you not to interfere as Infantalisim (the name of the fetish) is deep rooted and can go back as early as 7 years old.
I know the smell can be offensive to some people so i put it to you that you can try setting some ground rules. Also you can get tablets that supposedly take the smell away from poop though i never tried them. I think they are called Nullo.
The up side to all this is at least shes not doing drugs or prostituting herself. and if i were in your shoes i would be gratful for that.
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