Husbands with pierced ears?

[postmaster]

Hi,
I'm a 57 yo male, and a manager in the nhs.
I want both my ears pierced, but my wife of 5 months is sure her friends and family will react badly
It would also be inappropriate for me to wear earrings at work.
I have seen Bioflex labrets that are barely visible. My wife is coming round to the idea if these would be feasable.
Does anyone have any views or similar experience please
This is now a passion for me

[Yousopoff]

Hi there,

I've always had a thing with piercing my ears. When I was about 13 - that being in the late 70's - I pierced my left ear. When my parents found out - which was quite easy because a metal stud was sporting from my ear - I got this marvelous speech on stupidity, ridiculousness and more humiliating stuff, so I got rid of the earring immediately. So when I was studying on University, I had a lot of thoughts on piercing my ears again. At this time I actually wanted to have them both pierced. So I did, but then I was afraid of how the people around me would react. Having your ears pierced as a boy was either very alternative (and my friends were actually quite conservative) or considered rather tacky by a lot of people. I took the earring out again. Since then, I now and then cannot resist the urge of piercing my ears. I plunge the needle through and put in an earring, feel totally sexy for a while and take it out again... Bit strange, I must admit.

As it happens, I am a genuinely happy married guy. My wife and I are 19 years together and I am totally in love with her. However, I still have this interest in piercing. She never noticed that I do my ears once in a while. After doing so I cover this dead up with some kind of Chanel ointment... I know she is very much 'not fond of' earrings, especially on men. She herself has non-pierced ears as well. I like that too.

Other piercings always had my interest too. A short while ago I got myself a PA and since no one else can see it, there is no social issue and my wife really adores it. She says it looks sturdy and it feels even better than it looks. And then she adds that she likes it a hundred times more than when I would have gotten earrings instead: "That would really have been stupid". Damn, just when I finally set my mind on having my ears pierced with a more definitive status.

I cannot convince her with arguments like "You have your ears pierced, so..." and in my social surroundings pierced ears for men are quite unusual. I don't know any guy with pierced ears personally, and at the school that my children attend, there is just one father and only one boy with a pierced ear. In Holland (where I live) pierced ears for man have gone out of fashion and it is also considered not very chic to have them. On the other hand, since I am otherwise a rather refined person, I think I can pull it off.

To decide if it's all worth the trouble, I really would like to know whether getting your ears pierced does or doesn't kill the thrill of it. Or should I go through the predicament of having studs in my ears 24/7 for 6 weeks, so I will have the possibility to put them in and out whenever I like (and take them out whenever my wife likes) ?

Cheers.

[Tina TV]

To decide if it's all worth the trouble, I really would like to know whether getting your ears pierced does or doesn't kill the thrill of it. Or should I go through the predicament of having studs in my ears 24/7 for 6 weeks, so I will have the possibility to put them in and out whenever I like.

1. The "thrill" doesn't go away although it may be blunted a little. All I need to do if it's getting a little dull is put some heavy rings in so I feel them whenever I move my head.

2. Six weeks is realy a minimum. Even after then if you leave rings out for a few days the holes will close up. You should plan to be wearing something, even if it's simple studs for a lot longer than six weeks.

In the UK we have a great excuse, it's called a "mid life crisis". I grew my hair long and got my ears pierced, even my mother hardly commented.

[postmaster]

One of my worries is that the thrill will go if I do get my ears pierced, but I have made an appointment all the same.
March 11th is the day, and I'm really hoping my wife will come with me. She's ok about me having one ear pierced but not at all happy about two, but I still want both done.
Since I made the appointment doubts have started creeping in, natural I suppose, and I'm considering warning people beforehand so it's not such a surprise/shock.
Advice would be welcomed

[Yousopoff]

Thanks for your reactions on my post. They helped me making my decision.

Guess what ! 'I always have been wanting to get my ears pierced, ever since I was thirteen or something', did the trick for my wife in convincing her that the moment has come to actually get it done. We agreed on her having a big laugh when she will see me with my left ear double pierced. She still thinks it to be a little strange on an architect in his late-mid-forties (me), but nevertheless a man has to do what a man has to do. Even if it's stupid... Over here it's quite unusual for men with an academic title to have pierced ears. Anyway, at least she loves me immensely, and it wouldn't surprise me at all if she even were to like the look of it, when it'll be done in the next two weeks or something. (First we go on a short holiday and because of possible need for aftercare I wait till we get back.) I'm quite confident that I can pull it off really well to wear two tiny barbells with 4mm gray titanium balls front and rear (the backside should also look good) of my earlobes. Not tacky, not macho, not too girlish, just me.

Can't wait ! I'm preparing myself for the comments of the people I know though. Especially my mum will definitely not be amused, being not really broadminded enough. And my 7yo daughter will have something to say about it either, because she does have an issue with things that suddenly look different. I won't tell many people on forehand, and I plan on not making up excuses when people notice the result of my actions. 'Why ?'; 'Because I just want it !'

I'll keep you posted.

[scotty_v8]

Hi
I am a 26 year old guy and have not too long ago had my ears pierced i have 2 in the bottom of each ear and one up the top of both making a total of 6 earrings.

I got them done like this after being with my girlfriend for 8 years who has hers done like this up until a few weeks ago she added one more in each lobe.

I had my cartlage's done in both ears for a few years now and she loves them thinks i look cute with them. she was not too keen for me to double pierce both and liked it when i did the left double first and wanted me to leave them like that. but i really want both done like hers used to be so she let me go ahead and do it. now she loves them after a few weeks of getting used to the new me.

all in all a winner i love them makes me so happy and i dont see why it can only be girls that are only allowed to have multiple pierced ears its up to the individual.

[tracker]

Well it only took 3 yrs....
I finnaly got my ears pierced for a seond set last week. We are are planning a new pair of earrings to wear. I still have apprehensions , like I expected , but my wife is taking charge on the outcome of my appearance.
It is a very exciting time for me and I can't believe I waited so long to take the plunge. 2 small dots and 2 small hoops look great. I have wanted double pierced ears for the longest time and now I have them.
Seems like a small thing , but it was very big for me.
If you followed my posts in 2008 you know I almost---but failed.
I can't believe I waited this long.
Just figured that I only go around once in this life ,and you should never have to look back and say I wish I would have.. Now I did!
tracker

[ringedjohn]

I have three piercings in each lobe - I did the first pair myself, over 50 years ago.

My wife does not approve, so I wear only a single stud in my left ear in public.

[resolution2]

I'd say if you want a pierced ear, then just do it.

[Yousopoff]

Hi,

It's done !!! Around noon I found myself in front of the best piercing shop in town. And this time I had the guts to enter. So I told the overwhelmingly tattooed and pierced girl behind the counter that I fancied my left ear double pierced. And subsequently it has been done. Done in the "official" way, with needles, not a piercing gun or something like that. Two little barbells with small balls on either side adorn my ear now. The culmination of a dream I have had ever since way back in 1976.

Now I wait till my darling wife will come home from her job, so she can have the big laugh we agreed upon. At least, I hope that will be the scenario of what happens, since I know she is particularly not fond of pierced ears on guys and she might as well decide to react a bit more negative. I didn't tell her that this would be the day for it to happen... so it's also a bit of a surprise.

Besides the ever so slightly feared reaction of my wife, I am also a bit worried on what our friends will have to say about it. I really don't know any guy with pierced ears, as I mentioned in an earlier submission, so I have a quite unique feature in my circle of friends.

But - Ooh - it looks so nice in the mirror and I feel like on top of the world.

Cheers for now, I'll keep you posted on what will happen next.

[Yousopoff]

My wife came home from work, saw the damage and said: "Well, I see you've gotten it done, than. You know it's not my cup of tea, but if it makes you happy, I'm fine with it."

- I'm still feeling on top of the world !!!

[postmaster]

I've done it today.
Both ears, labret studs with clear balls, and my wife came along as well
A special day

[Yousopoff]

@ postmaster:

Congratulations. Nice to see that your wife came along for both ears to be pierced. She must definitely love you a lot. Fine choice of jewelry, I must say, since I was contemplating on clear balls as well, but finally decided for metal ones myself.

Cheers.

[Chloex]

NO NO NO! earrings on guys are just a total turn off for me!
Try and convince him to get a tattoo or something

[Yousopoff]

Ouch. That hurts. I hear the same here...

By the hour my wife gets more explicit in telling me about how she is turned off by the sight of my pierced ear. I got it pierced only yesterday and her first reactions were very mild, but after a while she got more and more "second thoughts". In fact it's tearing me apart. I love my wife very much. I love my ear too, especially the way it looks now. I love my wife more, so it might just happen that the piercings won't survive this weekend.

The friends I met yesterday and today totally ignored me having my ear pierced. I know they noticed it, but they said nothing about it, which can mean two things. Or - and that's the best case scenario - they think nothing of it except that it is a private thing for me, which doesn't need to be discussed, or - more probable - they do not approve of it in any way, but also do not want to hurt my feelings. Maybe it's not for me to stand out in our circle this way.

Still, when I look in the mirror, I'm totally happy, but the rest of the time I feel miserable now. I wish my wife were to like it more, but she doesn't. That takes away a lot of the fun.

What shall I do, I ask myself. I can keep them for six to eight more weeks and than put some Bioflex retainers in so I will keep the holes. I know these six to eight weeks will be rather unpleasant. Or shall I take them out, so my guilt of making my wife unhappy will go away instantly, but then afterwards I will always envy everybody with pierced ears for the rest of my life.

The answer is there, I guess. They most probably should leave. But the decision to get them pierced in the first place was not taken in whiff, it being the result of a process that started decades ago. And if I decide to take them out, there's no way back for a long while, since they can only be repierced after the current holes are completely healed again. There wouldn't be a point in that as well though.

Sorry for the length of this post, but PLEASE REACT !!!

By the way, I will absolutely never ever get a tattoo. Okay for other people - I don't mind - but most definitely not for me.