Husbands with pierced ears?

[Gint]

I had the exact same thing happen to me. I mean exact. My wife said she didn't know about how it would look.
We went together one Friday night and got my left ear pierced. She didn't say too much at first. As a day or two
went by, other people saw it, never said a thing, and within a few days she pretty much told me that it looks stupid on
me, and that an earring doesn't fit my personality. I ended up taking it out. I really kind of liked it too. It just wasn't worth it to me to go through it if nobody else really cared for it. I always look at the fact that if somebody doesn't say anything at all, they pretty much don't agree with it. If they like it, they will comment on how nice it looks or whatever.
I simply thought it may spice things up with my wife and I or something, not the case. She disliked it. You can just tell, even though she mentioned to me in the past that she likes it on certain other males. Ultimately, I wanted to please both of us. Done and gone.

[Yousopoff]

Hi,

Today life has become a lot brighter again. Yesterday evening my wife and I had a nice talk. As she put it - the piercings are supposed to make me a happier person. And since they initially did, they could work. I overestimated her bothers over them, she said. An upcoming difficult exam makes her a hundred times more unhappy than the metal in my ear. Besides that, she's not comfortable with sudden changes, needing some time to grow on to them.

Ever so slowly my darling wife is getting more and more used to the fact that my ear is pierced. Her repulsion over it has faded for the biggest part, and she actually told me today that the fact that earrings are not the usual studs you get at a jewelers place, but piercing shop jewelry instead, makes it a lot more acceptable for her, maybe even appreciable.

So the piercings stay for the time being. The main thing is that I don't want to make my wonderful wife unhappy, and if I find out I do, I'll act on that. But for now she is supportive - encouraged me to feel happy with my pierced ear - so I am in fact a lot happier.

Today we went out all together as a family and had a good time. I felt totally confident again with my pierced ear. The feeling that they give when I suddenly move my head is quite unique. I really love that.

Contemplating on what friends do or do not think, I decided that my decision was controversial in the first place, so it doesn't matter if they think it to be a good or a bad idea. They won't stop being friends, as they were already chosen not to be shortsighted nor narrow minded. So they will get used to it as well.

So, that's it for now. Sorry for my submission of yesterday. I was in a bit of a gloomy mood. At Gint: You made a very wise decision. If my wife hadn't become more supportive now, I would reluctantly have done the same.

[Yousopoff]

Hi again,

They're still there and I suppose they will stay forever. My wife seems to have come to terms with having a husband with a pierced ear. My son (4½ years of age) told me this morning that I really should have two of those things in my other ear too. A desire for symmetry is typical for that age, that is. My daughter (who's seven) wanted tho know why I hadn't done them symmetrical. (Well, this way there is enough angle from which my piercings are invisible.) And when my wife asked them if they would like to have their ears pierced (which is not going to happen in the near future though), our daughter said she wouldn't like that (too bad, because it would have made a great trade against her having the haircut she'd like to have, which hasn't happened yet her in whole life, thus resulting in 93 cm - some 37 inches - long hair, i.e. 71% of her total length), but our son was quite eager to have them done, both of course.

My dad saw me a couple of days ago and asked me if this was the thing I'd wanted for so long. I told him yes and that was enough for him. Of course he informed my mum when he came home, so today she came by to have a look for herself. She said nothing, but her body language was obvious. She didn't like it, but at least she made no fuss about it. She did well, I must say.

From other people I still get almost no reactions at all. At first that seemed a bit odd to me, but after a while I found a perfect explanation for it. If people in my environment have a visible piercing all of a sudden, I would most definitely make a remark on that. But - of course - I am preoccupied with piercings, since they have captured my interest for the greater part of my life. If you don't have this thing with piercings, you probably don't care if other people have them and will regard them as a personal choice of that other person. In that case you won't comment on it either. How can you honestly compliment someone on something that means nothing to you. In quite a lot of forums you will find lots of entries telling that nobody commented on people who got pierced ears anyway. So, even though I really don't care what most people think about me having my ear pierced, I think nothing strange anymore of friends ignoring the hardware.

I just enjoy passing by mirrors !!! And the feeling of them moving when I move my head.

Cheers.

[Yousopoff]

Hi,

This is starting to look like my personal blog... But anyway, nothing much has changed over here. The piercings are still there. Most people around me have seen them by now. No comments however, except for one. A friend of ours saw me and she asked: 'Hey, do you have an earring ??' So I turned my head to show my ear, and then she continued: 'Two of them actually, Interesting. Did you already have them before ?' I replied: 'No.' So she asked: 'How come ?' I told her that I wanted them when I was thirteen and she understood immediately that I wasn't allowed by my parents back then. She smiled and said: 'So now you had your ears pierced at almost fifty then. Cool !' And then she added that she had her ears pierced only a couple of years ago as well. I am really happy with her reaction since I value her opinions. She's a very sophisticated banking executive and a very nice person.

Contemplating some more over the subject, I now think that having earrings is not as important to me as having my ears pierced. It's the action that counts, the fact that I finally dared to have it done and to go out and meet people wearing my earrings. I feel like a naughty boy doing so and that's nice ! On the other hand it would be nice if I could take them out sometimes, when they are less appropriate (like when playing wildly with my children or when meeting clients), but I still have to wait some five weeks more for that. I'm sure I can handle that of course... And when it will be possible to take them out sometimes, I think I'll wear them most of the time anyways. They make me feel good, pretty much most of the time at least, I feel a lot younger and - although probably a lot of people will disagree - I think they look really good on me. A bit strange, but then again, I AM a bit strange.

Unless you all would rather not have me do so, I'll keep you posted.

Cheers.

[urban earring zone]

I dont see what is wrong with men having their ears pierced it is very fashionable these days. Personally I think men do look kinda good with earrings. Go ahead and let him pierce them you might be suprised by how good he looks!

[Karen404K]

My bf wants to, but I don't think its a good idea.

[Yousopoff]

Hi Karen404K,

Of course it seems not such a good idea at first. On rather a lot of men it looks a bit tacky, and there are (a few) people out there that will classify men with pierced ears. Never heard someone say something like: 'Those earrings make him look really classy.' (Some people consider it to be sexy though.) But one might ask oneself if one cares. I for myself decided not to, and got my ear pierced three weeks ago. As a self-employed architect I have no career issue, as I only have to wear my earrings 24/7 for about six weeks. After that I will probably take them out when I talk with people professionally. Earrings and nice classic shirts (or suits) don't match very well anyway, in my opinion. But when I'm not wearing a nice shirt, but a tee or a hoody, I enjoy wearing my earrings. As I mentioned before, they make me feel a bit like a naughty boy. I think that that feeling doesn't go away when the holes in my ear are empty, by the way, and I like that. Odd as it seems, the piercings make me a happier person, although there were some bumps to overcome during the first couple of days (which I described in earlier submissions in this thread).

Maybe you have comparable thoughts on earrings on men as my wife does - she's not particularly fond of it, and was initially even slightly repulsed by the idea - but on the other hand you might find out (as well) that it is not such a big deal for you if your boyfriend gets his ear(s) pierced. For him, on the other hand, it could very well be an important experience he should not miss out on. And since other people don't care at all - most of them anyway - that's quite unimportant in making the decision.

So, if you are not totally grossed out by the idea of your boyfriend having his ear(s) done, let him do it. If it doesn't fit him, he'll take them out (after a while) and has a new story to tell afterwards. And if it fits him just fine, then you will enjoy a happier boyfriend. Seems to me that it's worth the try.

I hope I could have been of any help to you. Cheers.

[Karen404K]

Yousopoff,

It's sweet of you to write and explain. But I have this problem, it totally grosses me out. Beyond control. Whenever I see a guy with pierced ears, I just squirm. It's just so weird, for me. Yeah I know its not PC to be judgmental, but that's how I feel. So if its someone else, I have to accept it. But my bf? No way.

[Yousopoff]

Hi Karen,

Well, in that case it's obvious. He has to choose between the earrings and you. He surely will be wise enough to see that earrings are quite unimportant, if compared to a girlfriend. And maybe, just maybe, in time you'll get over this grossed-out-phase, so he gets his way any time in the future (it's in fact not such a big deal anyway), or he'll grow over the pierced-ear-phase (most of the times it is a phase, although it wasn't for me), and the issue never comes up again (which would be the easiest way for you of course). Good luck to the both of you, and live happily ever after.

Cheers.

[Yousopoff]

Hi there,

This weekend we had a lot of friends over for dinner. To my big surprise I even got some comments… Some woman friend of my wife told me it’s so not me to wear earrings. What does she know that I
don’t ??? One friend hadn’t expected me to do something like this, but he was okay with it, although he couldn’t imagine he himself would get them. And finally another friend told me that he found it a sturdy thing to do for me.

It’s funny that most people seem not to care, while most of them have strong opinions on about everything else.

I'm thinking a bit about getting my other ear pierced as well some time. The two barbells on the left might be nicely accompanied by something on the right as well. Something dangling (but definitely not too big though) maybe or a small gauged up thing (like 4 mm). The latter being a little problematic at times that I want my ears to be "naked" as I sometimes like them to be. A gauged up hole is very much not invisible. On the other hand, my wife is not particularly fond of earrings on men - as I've written down in this thread many times before - but she is fascinated by see-through tunnels. She mentioned several times that I should get them, but I'm not totally sure she wasn't teasing me a bit then (as she also one time said that I should get those big golden earrings with boats inside, that fishermen used to wear, because that would make a lot blunter statement than what I wear right now. Yeah, it would, but seriously, I wouldn’t want to get caught dead with that kind of stuff and she knows that).

The option of a small hoop or a dangling earring on the right is limited by the acceptance of my wife. She didn’t like me getting my earrings on the left in the first place, but didn’t want to keep me from it either. I might just push the line a little bit too far when I start about another earring again.

And then remains the question if I really need another one… I’m not a pin cushion after all.

Well, since there’s enough time to think about it until I’m sure what to do (or not to do), I’ll stay with the two barbells on the left for now. They haven’t even healed completely yet (pierced exactly a month ago today) and I am very happy with them.

Cheers.

[Yousopoff]

Hi,

Another week has passed again. Still very happy with my pierced ear. The holes are healing very nice. I've become totally confident with me wearing earrings now. Sometimes for a short while I am even not aware of the fact that they are there. At first I was a bit afraid of other peoples reactions, but I've had very little comment, and just a couple of negative reactions. It's nice to be able to act on my fetish with pierced ears.

Last Friday my wife was complimented on me having a pierced ear by a good friend of hers. She said it looks really nice on me. My wife is still not very much in favor of my earrings, but comments like this are helpful to my cause.

The thought of more earrings is also still appealing to me, but I not sure if I will ever pursue them. On this board I read about several men who had a second ear pierced later on, but almost no one has ever written an update on how it worked out in their lives. I'm rather curious about it.

Cheers.

[Science Bob]

As I mentioned in a previous post, I have my ears multi-pierced. I very rarely have anyone commenting on my earrings one way or another. If I was still single, I certainly would have them pierced as most females in the States seem to find it attractive. I think that it has to do with self-confidence, women seem to prize that attribute quite highly. Earrings, as they are still not standard on guys, display that attribute, as insecure guys would not wear them. However, this effect is diminishing as more & more guys are wearing them.

[Yousopoff]

Hi,

In the meantime more than seven weeks have past since I got my ear piercings, and they are quite nicely healed, so I finally can change the jewellery every once in a while. A couple of days now I'm wearing Bioplast retainers. They are only slightly visible from less than 40 cm (16"). My wife is very happy with them, because she no longer has to see earrings in my ear 24/7. I like them a lot too, because I know for a fact that my ear is pierced, but I can go about without people seeing that. In professional situations or whenever else I'm wearing a fine shirt it feels better without earrings. The possibility to wear earrings is the most appealing aspect to me (even more than actually wearing earrings in fact) and I am still ever so happy that I decided to get myself a pierced ear. Still not sure about the other ear yet. I like the look (and the feel), but the wife is not in favour of it...

Cheers.

[Gint]

Sounds just like my situation except I didn't even opt for the clear retainers. i don't mean to be negative, but it'll probably fade out for you and you will let it close up. If your wife isn't in full support or doesn't really care for them, you probably will get frustrated at some point, and forget the idea. It just doesn't give you much confidence if the person you care about the most doesn't even support it. You go though every day wondering what others think, and it just doesn't go anywhere........ Good luck
Maybe she would get excitement out of something else being pierced? Or maybe both of you with something else pierced, even if you can keep it between the two of you.

[Yousopoff]

Hi Gint,

The cool thing about my wife is that - although she doesn't like earrings - she is still very supportive towards me having them. Since I longed to have pierced ears (the other ear will be done some other time, I'm sure) for a very long time, I am really happy with my piercings and I'm quite determined to keep them. I'd prefer to wear my earrings often, but not all the time. Sometimes it feels better without them, and since the holes are still rather fresh, leaving them empty would jeopardize the definitiveness of the holes as they might close up. Therefore I use those retainers. I find it surprising that it doesn't matter very much to me what (if any) I'm wearing in them, the mere fact that there are holes in my ear is what matters to me the most. That's probably the difference between people who have pierced ears as a fashion statement or because they acted on a fetish. For me it's a fetish thing. I'm not even sure if it looks really good. On most men it looks slightly tacky (perhaps even on me). Nose, lip, nipple and bellybutton piercings are out of my league. As a fetish thing they are appealing, but I would feel really awkward if I had them myself. Earrings are commonly accepted at least.

And as for my wife getting excitement of something else being pierced, that's been taken care of. Since that piercing of mine doesn't show in public and enhances the pleasure of certain activities for both of us, there is at least one kind of piercing that shares our interest.

Cheers.