thanks for your replies. In this instance he doesn't have the best track record, this is a man who didnt understand why i was upset he couldnt bring the hot barmaid from the strip bar home to meet me , he said " i think you 2 could be friends"
shortly after i left him, within 2 months he was living with another woman.
he works in an engineering place, so predominantly male, other that some female admin staff. My gut tells me this is odd, we have only just started to try again, i reckon something is up and he may be trying to pre empt me finding out, telling me before i hear about it.
my pals reckon i'm mad for even considering going back to him, that's why i though i'd ask here, get some impartial, objective thoughts on the matter