Tricky one... when i started going out with my partner we were 18, though she already had a girls holiday to portugal planned. She told me shed stay loyal though i had my doubts, naturally later on i found out shed spent the week with a waiter! What annoyed me was one night when she was away an ex-girlfriend asked me back to her place as her parents were away, and i turned her down, lol. Anyway I did shag an older woman when i was working as a bar man to even up the score in my mind. I let that one go, but a few years later after wed had a son, and got a morgage etc, we had a bad patch just after our son was born, i was working 90 hours a week trying to pay the house and put food on the table and she was struggling sitting at home with a new born baby all day, so ended up having an affair with a turkish guy in the local kebab shop! while sending naughty texts to 2 others there. I was woken up in the night by her crying and she broke down and told me this guy was going to hurt her because he felt shed led him on and wasnt spending enough time with him. What amazes me is she thought i was going to come to her rescue and sort it out. Sufficing to say i told her to get out and she refused, so i grabbed her by the hair and ejected her in her nightie at 3:00am. She banged on the door to take our son and i let him go with her, her mum came over the next day and picked her stuff up. she asked me to let her back home and eventually i relented because i missed my son to much, also her dad is a muslim and pakistani and was disguisted with her behaviour. We had a long discussion and agreed to make changes in our lives. Basically she said she couldnt cope with our son so we sold the house and moved into a council house and i quit work to spend time with her. In 2009 she had a 3 month affair with a someone, though by this time i was past caring I was spending most of my time playing an _ computer game with a married woman from Scotland and met her in a hotel and spent the night with her (with her 18 year old son in the next room!). I used her lap top as mine was broken and discovered shed left her face book on and saw the messages from this guy, they hadnt had sex but it was going in that direction, so i confronted her. She told me it was my fault and said really terrible things so I told her a few home truths about herself and about the women id slept with to get even with her. Basically I left her curled up in a ball crying on the bathroom floor after i told her what id done and she realised broken hearts work 2 ways. I was planning on leaving her, until we sat down and had an honest discussion about our relationship, we again agreed to make changes. One of these was our weight, she was a size 10 now shes a size 30, while id gone from 13 stone to 20 stone 3 lbs, when i stopped work i spent most of my time playing computer games and the lack of excercise wasnt a good thing. Again we talked things through and agreed to make changes, in this time i got a job 4 days a week and work hard, ive also lost 4 stone and am now 16 and getting lower all the time. She hasnt changed anything about herself. Ive noticed since i lost weight if i go for a drink women do seem interested in me and have been chatted up a few times but kept it polite and normally bring my kids into the conversation to let them know i'm not on the menu. The bad part is ive keylogged her computer, anytime she types anything into her computer its recoded and i always know what shes doing. Its wrong to invade her privacy but I dont trust her and her next mistake will be her last, though for 2 years shes behaved. From my side ive slimmed down ive got my confidence back, im happy and am not interested in other women. No more _ games no more talking to women. It will probably go wrong but Im hopeful were out of this tit for tat cheating weve done for 14 years. I do love her, but dont really fancy her anymore because shes size 30 and is very lazy and makes little effort in her appearance, if we didnt have 2 kids we wouldnt be together.
Ive tried to be honest here.