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Please help me, im seeing a different side to him.

Postby Whispers » Sun May 22, 2011 11:48 pm

I'm struggling with a long distanced relationship, were always fighting like children.
Were moving in together soon, which is nice.

But the thing is lately, i've seen a side to him which i've never seen before.. you see.
I thought he was different to other men, he 'cares,loves,reassures' he's built my confidence,
and had really been so lovely.. its unmistakable.. but..

He keeps asking me for.. 'photos' and he said to me ,if i earn 'points' can i get a certain photo,
so i said 'ok' to relieve the arguing so i woke up to loads of sweet texts, him saying things
he'd usually say to me, as to which he loves me and he'd write little poems for me, but adding
in 'how many points have i got now' the thing is if i try talking to him about anything, it'll
turn into an argument and sometimes its me who says sorry.

I love him, but he's reminding me of these more immature guys i used to date the type:
''your fit lets have a dirty picture'' And its getting to me, he keeps asking and hinting
for a photo and i dont know how to respond. I've sent him photos before or me but he
always wants more.. i feel like a piece of meet to him.

When we've argued in the past we'd argue for days until i couldnt bare it anymore, i'd break it off.
Suddenly he'd be appologetic and really sweet towards me and he'd pull me in again, then when some
time passed he'd start faulting me '' im disapointed with you '' if i say im doing something, he doesnt
believe me, he doesnt trust me he has no faith in me what so ever, i cant have male friends.
He deletes numbers off my phone.. if i dont text him back after five minutes he asks me what im upto,
and wont leave me alone until i say.

I really dont want to leave him because he can make me happy, but its getting far too worse and i dont know what to do, and all of the above is just scratching the service, you could probably imagine the other controlling things.

What should i do?
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Postby miss77 » Mon May 23, 2011 11:51 am

Yes he is controlling,and it sounds like he Is doing it in a manipulative way,which is a very common way of bullying.you know deep down, you have to ditch him.
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Postby none of the above » Mon May 23, 2011 12:11 pm

You don't seem that happy with him, I doubt he will suddenly change for the better. You should get out before you waste too much time on a lost cause I think.
Do it now...before it's too late.....

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Postby LightRibena » Mon May 23, 2011 1:35 pm

Any successful relationship has trust. So, other problems aside, unless he can learn to trust you you're relationship can go two ways, it ends or you subside to him.

Living with someone is much harder than dating. Leaving someone you live with, well, that is just horrible. Get out whilst it is more plausible.
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Postby chevyrecycler34 » Mon May 23, 2011 5:34 pm

Holy F*** girl, Run Run Run as far and fast as you can, never look around or back.

He`s a control freak, worst kind.

You`ll suffer the worst verbal and mental abuse with this freakshow than anyone dares imagine. Been there with the other side of the coin, female, you cant do enough, behave well enough, bend over backwards enough.

Run for your life !!!
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Postby ps_abbrev » Thu Jun 09, 2011 2:53 pm

He's a classic manipulator. Kick him to the kerb; ASAP.

And be prepared for a reaction worthy of a controlling manipulator.

He'll have a 'death in the family', or something equally tragic. Firstly to get you to start communicating with him again, and then he'll work in a new layer of guilt on your behalf. Distance yourself from him completely and utterly.
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Postby Goodboy » Sat Jun 11, 2011 1:51 pm

I understood you very well, what the guy is doing is actually the reason why is good to be in a bit long time relationship before it goes into marriage. What you have to do is to keep on following him but should be very careful. The more you follow him is the more you know more about him. At last you can now weigh his bad and good side and decide if you can keep the relationship.
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Postby jinjin » Tue Jun 14, 2011 4:44 am

If you were really happy with him then you would have no need to post your issues. No good can result from a relationship with a manipulative person.

I recommend you leave him without saying a word, stay away from him, do not answer any of his calls and get yourself a new mobile number.
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Postby it_was_me » Sun Jun 26, 2011 6:48 pm

If he's like that now I would seriously wonder what he will be like when you live together.
I think, therefore I thought about it.
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Postby sammy789 » Fri Aug 12, 2011 5:50 am

He sounds very manipulative. Men who are controlling have a need to appear sweet to reel you in but usually have other motives. I say run away, FAR AWAY. He shouldnt be making you feel so uncomfortable if he really loves you. Dont be afraid to ditch him!
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Postby koli » Sun Sep 11, 2011 9:01 am

leave and you will find your new life ! :D ImageImageImage
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Postby yucww210 » Sun Sep 11, 2011 7:25 pm

none of the above wrote:You don't seem that happy with him, I doubt he will suddenly change for the better. You should get out before you waste too much time on a lost cause I think.

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Postby Lewi-D » Sun Sep 18, 2011 4:59 pm

Don't get trapped and used to this 'relationship' - follow everyone else's advice.

Go, before he has more 'hooks' into you - this sounds abusive already.

Ribena is right -

Follow Jin JIn's advice, buy a new phone and leave.
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