by bijinfinder » Tue Jul 05, 2011 11:57 pm
Mental Cheating is not the same as physically cheating. If my partner is thinking of others I probably don't want details, but I assume that she does, because everyone looks, flirts, or fantasizes. I get married women who contact me, most would never cheat on thier husband, given the chance, but they want that extra communication for some reason. It is hard for one person to have everything that fulfills their mate. If one person is artistic or athletic and the other is not, doesn't it make sense that they will associate with others with similar interests. That doesn't mean they will leave you, it just means there are others that fulfill them in other ways.
Voyerism on the internet is a touchy subject. A majority of men participate in it and a majority of women do to, but in different ways, looking for different things. I call it being naughty. You might even suggest participating with him. Obviously he likes to lead people one. You could form a duo, where you lead men on and he leads women on. Between the two of you, you would have something for everyone. You might come to understand each other better.
Plus, many people don't like having the same thing done to them that they are doing to others. He may become jeoulous that you are doing what he is doing to you. He may think you are getting the same thrill as he does and he my not like that.
Good luck, I don't think your situation is intollerable. Sounds like an issue to be discussed and worked through. Don't be surprised if he is embarrassed and tries to talk around it. Just flow with it and you might be surprised how much he will appreciate you all the more for trying to understand him.
Hi there, just wanted to know if a relationship can survive mental cheating. My partner of nearly 2 years is very loving, caring and we are engaged. He asked to marry me, not the other way round. I have discovered he has another email account and being me managed to work out his password. On it I discovered he had gone on various dating sites, usually for older women, and asked for women to write to him. He then writes back describing sexual things he would like to do to them and vice versa. He has'nt given his real name, age, or address, or a real picture of himself. It's all made up. He's a bit like a Billy Liar in a fantasy world. I have confronted him about it and he doesn't know why he does it. He stops for a while then starts again. He has never met any of the women, I even posed as someone else and wanted to meet him but he kept making excuses to get out of it. He didn't know it was me either. So my question is though this is a form of cheating, its not physical, just mental. We have a great sex life for our ages and make love nearly every night. Can the relationship survive? I would be interested in hearing other people's thoughts.
