My daughter wants friends with benefits

[Scottishlad]

There is nothing wrong with friends with benefits, and its quite common.

Leave her to explore, she will have plenty of sex without or without your approval or knowledge.

I agree

[ziggy66]

I moved out when I was 17 after complaints from my dad and mum about bringing girls home and not being very quiet about it.

I had many gf with benefits and once I moved out I didn't have to account for actions with my father. It actually made us closer once he stopped trying to control me and accepted me and what I could do.

Interestingly his father through him out at 18 when he got my mum pregnant.

[northlondoner]

Justin Timberlake would like you to see 'Friends with Benefits' at your local cinema.

[RichardGee]

I sort of expected you to say what you said. But then you are my daughter's age. You are not a mother of a 20 year old that's freaking out with "friends with benefits".

I was hoping to communicate with some mothers, but looks like you are the only one writing. I bet other mothers with daughters like mine will agree with me 10 to 1.

I am getting together with the mother of my daughter's first bf to figure this out. Both us mothers are best friends and we introduced the two of them when my daughter was 13, and taught her all she knows on how to please her bf. We'll figure a way to get them back together and get rid of other "friends with benefits".

Meanwhile if there are any mothers out there who agree with me, I'd like to hear from them.
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Don't try to control her hun, you are really asking for serious trouble! I'm not trying to be a Bleet i'm being honest with you, there will be a point when she will rebel against your wishes and make her own way in life. If you get in the way you will be pushed away and you'll have made things much worse for both of you.

I almost did it to my mum and a couple of friends of mine did do it to their mums.

And how is controlling your daughters life fair on her by any degree of the imagination??

So true. My girlfriend has lots of friends with benefits. A lot of my friends play with her, and I play with a lot of her friends, both male and female.

It's quite common these days.

[espresso]

The disconnect between sex and emotional ties is always interesting and it's being fobbed off as the 'modern' thing to do. Yesterday's promiscuity is today's recreational essential. I can't see how this kind of unattached sex is at all really satisfying beyond getting some sexual release?

One thing I think is just good manners for bringing the 'benefits' (presumably then just some coc*ks or pu**ies, each conveniently attached to different brains and oh don't forget to factor in some boobs and balls and maybe an odd a**hole for extra benefits) home is to be discreet. Finding a daughter giving some 'benefit' a BJ or an adult son fu**ing somebody, unless it's a genuinely accidental discovery is just skanky and should lead to him or her living elsewhere. I don't want any kid of mine seeing or hearing me like that and I don't want to see or particularly hear them going like crazed rabbits at each other either. Having a regular groupie in your parent's home whilst they are in residence is also just skanky and plain disrespectful.

[RichardGee]

The disconnect between sex and emotional ties is always interesting and it's being fobbed off as the 'modern' thing to do. Yesterday's promiscuity is today's recreational essential. I can't see how this kind of unattached sex is at all really satisfying beyond getting some sexual release?

One thing I think is just good manners for bringing the 'benefits' (presumably then just some coc*ks or pu**ies, each conveniently attached to different brains and oh don't forget to factor in some boobs and balls and maybe an odd a**hole for extra benefits) home is to be discreet. Finding a daughter giving some 'benefit' a BJ or an adult son fu**ing somebody, unless it's a genuinely accidental discovery is just skanky and should lead to him or her living elsewhere. I don't want any kid of mine seeing or hearing me like that and I don't want to see or particularly hear them going like crazed rabbits at each other either. Having a regular groupie in your parent's home whilst they are in residence is also just skanky and plain disrespectful.

Nonsense. It's fun. Might be disrespectful if you do it in front of parents, but otherwise fine.

[aussie_man]

well sorry to burst parents bubble

but a lot of time when out clubbing see a lot of chick get fingered and sucking some guy off in the toilets

or some girl get f*cked outside in car park

so to me these days i don't trust chicks that are out clubbing every weekend a lot of the time they can remember how many guys felt them up or f*cked them that weekend. i suppose a lot of time wondering why you're daughter cant get a bf because she is the town skank every guy fucks her but no guy will date her.