Should I Stay Or Should I Go..

[Happyaslarry]

Hello, I have quite a dilemma to overcome and would love some good advice please.
My wife of 22 years left me last February and moved in with another guy.. I ended up staying in the marital home with my 2 sons and a daughter,and maintained a settled homelife for them,which was very important to me.
The strange thing about this situation is that I was not upset that she had decided to leave me for another guy.. Anyway to cut a long story short, she turned up out of the blue and moved back in last May... It was a shame because we had settled into a steady routine without her.
Since then,I have maintained an amicable stance with her as arguing and being accusational is futile.. But I do not give her any inclination that we can resume where we had left off,and as such we are now "Living together" without being actually a couple..
What concerns me is that she has started to assume plans for next year such as holidays etc..
We have shared alot over a long period of time,but I am unsure that I want to carry on,but do not wish to be harsh by telling her that we are finished... I am in a right state over it all and any advice would be appreciated please.

[LightRibena]

Will you end up resenting her over time? If yes, then it is better to cut off the relationship now.

[splinkygb]

She,'s got a nerve.

If the children and still under 18 then if you can wait till they are 18 then that would be a good time to tell her to B***** Off! Otherwise do it some time soon!

[H. Franklin Layne]

I'm with Splinky on this one. You've got a real "darling" of a housemate there, and I think here love of going through the door ought to be put into motion one last time. Only this time, change the locks! She made a very conscious decision to walk out not only on you , but the children as well. Amicable dealings or not, she can't have her cake and eat it too. So, the affair didn't work out this time (big shock), do you think it will be easier NEXT TIME she has an impulse to throw you and the kids to the side for another go at selfish impulsive philandering.....I best not get started. My loathing of adulterers is well recorded here.

The short of it, tell her she made her decision, and she gets to plan nothing, and she might as well GTFO now. Tell her to grow up and be accountable for her actions. Worst yet, you have to be a little icy on this. Cold and methodical, send her the message in no uncertain terms, it's over.

[mike p]

your being a doormat, get yourself a new piece of ass as fast as you can