How do you keep guys in the Friend Zone?

[sam.ryan9919]

Still not ready to settle down at 40, I've had a number of relationships over the years, including one night stands and find that when I meet a guy who is "date" material, I can establish whether I would like a sexual relationship with him within the first hour generally.

Else if not, and if I like the guy, we could become friends. Often I will hang out with these guys, but even after I've made it clear that it's just friendship, they often still try it on, even months or years later.

Do other girls have this experience and how do they handle it? I'm too polite to guys and i think that's the problem

Thanks,
Sam

[none of the above]

Still not ready to settle down at 40, I've had a number of relationships over the years, including one night stands and find that when I meet a guy who is "date" material, I can establish whether I would like a sexual relationship with him within the first hour generally.

Else if not, and if I like the guy, we could become friends. Often I will hang out with these guys, but even after I've made it clear that it's just friendship, they often still try it on, even months or years later.

Do other girls have this experience and how do they handle it? I'm too polite to guys and i think that's the problem

Thanks,
Sam

I have plenty of male friends and they do not try it on. They know they are friends and there is no ambiguity...

If they're trying it on then you must not have made it clear enough.

[LightRibena]

Perhaps you are naturally flirtatious, so much so you aren't aware of just how flirty you are. In which case, you may need to make it even more clear of your intentions.

[H. Franklin Layne]

Another of "those" types.

[mike p]

i thought this vid was quite good : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA

generally speaking men do not want to be friends with women, only friends with benefits. you may have guy friends who hang around you and dont come on to you, but that is most likely because they are shy, or not good with girls. if you offered any of your guy friends a blowjob, they wouldnt hesitate. dont kid yourself that they would.

i am 31 and i have NEVER intentionally spent time with a woman that i didnt want to screw, with perhaps family being the only exception to this.

if you want to make it clear to a guy you dont want to have sex with him, tell him. if hes hanging around hes after your pants.

[none of the above]

...if you offered any of your guy friends a blowjob, they wouldnt hesitate. dont kid yourself that they would.

Some would accept, some would not. There really is more to life and social interraction than the contents of someone's pants.

[H. Franklin Layne]

...if you offered any of your guy friends a blowjob, they wouldnt hesitate. dont kid yourself that they would.

Some would accept, some would not. There really is more to life and social interraction than the contents of someone's pants.

A cake and some dirty talk?

[davidoffuk]

i thought this vid was quite good : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA

generally speaking men do not want to be friends with women, only friends with benefits. you may have guy friends who hang around you and dont come on to you, but that is most likely because they are shy, or not good with girls. if you offered any of your guy friends a blowjob, they wouldnt hesitate. dont kid yourself that they would.

i am 31 and i have NEVER intentionally spent time with a woman that i didnt want to screw, with perhaps family being the only exception to this.

if you want to make it clear to a guy you dont want to have sex with him, tell him. if hes hanging around hes after your pants.

Blowjob, probably not. Boobs - oh YES

[jinjin]

If you had made the rule clear to him then he was not a good friend. Separate yourself from him and find a better friend. Friends do not let friends catch exceptions.

[Heartofgold78]

I agree with Mike P's view. Guys are genuinely not friends with women. There is usually some underlying attraction there and ulmtimately they will have the aim/hope of something happening at some point. I was 'friends' with a guy for 3 years. When we both were single at the time it turned flirtatious and we did end up having short fling. I was really hoping that the friendship would be fine ultimately and felt that after 3 yrs it would be but sadly not. And now I realise that it was likely that he was just playing the long game, and that at some point he aimed to get into my knickers. I am very wary of making friends with guys just to be friends now.

[collegejulie]

there is nothing like being sooooo in love! good luck... (sorry commenting on so many old posts and bringing them back to page 1.... need to hit 75 posts to use pm!)

[bijinfinder]

Keep in mind that guys can have sex without getting attached. Yes, we might be friends and hope something sexual happens, but it doesn't mean we still can't be friends. What we want and what we get are two different things. Same with women, how many women are friends with a guy, hoping he will see the light someday and choose them as their romantic partner? Sometimes we imagine having sex with a female friend, but then when or if it happens we are not really ready for it, we just want to fantasize. Sometimes I flirt with a female friend, just to make her feel good. If a woman can tell me no, she feels good about herself because she was in control of the situation. So just say,"Thanks for the offer, but we don't want to ruin a good friendship do we?"