Why don't girls like nice guys?

[manxkitti]

Give me a nice guy any day. Love all you nice guys.

love you too!

Right back at you babe.

Nice guys are the best. They care more and a lot more loving. And much more attentive. I don't like being treated like trash.

[collegejulie]

some women like the challenge of trying to change guys i think.... i know i have been there! but in the end, most guys will not change for you. they ususally dump ya!

[manxkitti]

I guess I am repeating myself, but oh well. I LOVE nice guys. I love a man that can show me he is human and compassionate. I want to be friends with him as well as a lover. Maybe I am one of those women that want a man to be themselves. It makes me feel more relaxed when he is himself. No "airs" or thinking he needs to be something he's not.

I want a man to feel relaxed and himself around me.

[manxkitti]

Also, I find that "nice guys" take their time in plearing their partner. Honestly! How many of you men out there actuallly care what happens to women like me? I don't care, honestly. It just makes me retreat firther into myself. I say "whatever", but it still hurts. Regardless of what people say.

Every one wants to be loved and feel accepted.

[none of the above]

Also, I find that "nice guys" take their time in plearing their partner. Honestly! How many of you men out there actuallly care what happens to women like me? I don't care, honestly. It just makes me retreat firther into myself. I say "whatever", but it still hurts. Regardless of what people say.

Every one wants to be loved and feel accepted.

I don't know where you hang about but I know loads of nice blokes... married/partnered up/single... one can only assume you must live in a sort of black hole for reasonable chaps.

Get out and grin at everyone (not in a mad way) and you will find lots of happy going your way.

[manxkitti]

I have gotten better about the people I hang out with.Over the last 4 months, I have learned so much from this site. Now I know there are good, kind and loving men out there that want ME to feel good. And this is all new to me. Thank you everyone for letting me know there are good and kind men out there. I really appreciate it.

[none of the above]

That's good... for every three or four nice blokes there might be a weirdo though but generally I find chaps I take the time to know as chums to be decent and fun to be around. It's all good.

[Amy1986]

It is because some women have very poor taste in general!

I would second that xx

[Rip Van Fish]

most women like me- although i'm just a fun guy- life n soul.

[lovetopleasewife]

I think nice guys are sometimes asssociated with boring. I met my wife on a dating site and my username was nicenotboring. There are many nice guys that are just boring and no fun and I think that ruins it for us guys who are nice, but like to have fun, are spontanously and who are very confident in the bedroom.

[manxkitti]

I think nice guys are sometimes asssociated with boring. I met my wife on a dating site and my username was nicenotboring. There are many nice guys that are just boring and no fun and I think that ruins it for us guys who are nice, but like to have fun, are spontanously and who are very confident in the bedroom.

Well, if a nice man is considered boring, then give me boring any day. I have made a few good male friends on this site, and some on my Flickre page. And with them, not only do we cam, but also just talk about general things.

SO to you men that are nice guys and think you're "boring"? Look me up. I'll be flattered to talk with you.

[lovetopleasewife]

Sounds like you really do like nice guyes. A rare gem indeed.

[manxkitti]

Sounds like you really do like nice guyes. A rare gem indeed.

Why thank you.

[Rainmaker]

Well, to my experience and social observation, there are many reason that make women prefer a bad guy than a nice one. Here are some of them:
1. Nice guys are predictable. Who wants to see a movie that knows already the end?
Predictability is a passion killer, especially for women.
2. Nice guys are not a challenge. Females have the privilege of sexual choice. So if they choose an easy target, they secretely feel that they didn't made the best choice, they didn't searched enough.
3. Many women (perhaps the majority of them) secretely wished to be conquered, to drop their shields and surrender to a stronger opponent. Seduction is a form of surrender. But they can't let themselves surrender to someone who coannot conquer them; someone like a nice guy..
4. Nice guys try too much and in many cases they act desperately, because they don't have the huge self-conmnfidence of bad guys.
5. Nice guys are not desirable by other women. To a woman's unconsious mind that means they aren;t a trophy, a prize, so they actually can't deserve a lot.
6. Nice guys don't give a sense of uncertainity. So they aren't something a woman afraid to lose.
7. Nice guys are predictable and try too much, so they can be really boring after a while.

There are more. Maybe i will come back later.

[citygirl78]

Well, to my experience and social observation, there are many reason that make women prefer a bad guy than a nice one. Here are some of them:
1. Nice guys are predictable. Who wants to see a movie that knows already the end?
Predictability is a passion killer, especially for women.
2. Nice guys are not a challenge. Females have the privilege of sexual choice. So if they choose an easy target, they secretely feel that they didn't made the best choice, they didn't searched enough.
3. Many women (perhaps the majority of them) secretely wished to be conquered, to drop their shields and surrender to a stronger opponent. Seduction is a form of surrender. But they can't let themselves surrender to someone who coannot conquer them; someone like a nice guy..
4. Nice guys try too much and in many cases they act desperately, because they don't have the huge self-conmnfidence of bad guys.
5. Nice guys are not desirable by other women. To a woman's unconsious mind that means they aren;t a trophy, a prize, so they actually can't deserve a lot.
6. Nice guys don't give a sense of uncertainity. So they aren't something a woman afraid to lose.
7. Nice guys are predictable and try too much, so they can be really boring after a while.

There are more. Maybe i will come back later.

Absolutely spot on. Nice guys are quite simply BORING.