walterego wrote:I ask myself this question more each day. She seems to be suffering the mid-life female libido death, and that leaves me sad, depressed, bitter and frustrated. We did recently have sex, but it was the first time in nearly a year. I enjoyed it, but in my mind were all sorts of negatives, like how long will it be before the next, and trying to ensure I didn't do anything that might deter that prospect. She is the sort of person who is very enthusiastic with anything new, cars, clothes, hobbies etc, but as things in her life become commonplace, she forgets them, and I feel like I am now a pair of old shoes left in the bottom of her wardrobe. Occasionally she sees me there and might even try me on, but quickly puts me back to languish for a few more months or longer. I love her, adore her, and want her as badly as the first day I set eyes on her. I work hard to provide for her and our two boys, but I really don't know how much longer I can do this without the reward of feeling loved and desired. I wake every day to her naked beside me, but can't touch her as her reaction is usually akin to sticking her with a cattle prod. Every night I see her undress and again lay beside me, beautiful, sexy and naked, and ache to touch her and have her want to touch me and share that sacred pleasure, but it never happens. She says she simply isn't interested,often using the 'tired' excuse (we might have 2 young children, but she doesn't work apart from their care, and I do more than my share of that too), that she has more important things going on in her life, and that it isn't important to her. We are only in our early 40's, not our 80's, but my sex life has resorted to one like a 15yo, sneaking a <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_64' target='_blank'>W***</A> whenever I can to try and satisfy my natural urges. I have registered on a couple of dating sites, but I guess for every 500 guys like me there'll be just one female. Why am I with her ? Because the very sight of her warms my soul, makes my heart skip, and stirs passion in me. Perhaps we should ask why she is with me instead !
LightRibena wrote:Why have you signed up to dating sites?
LightRibena wrote:Have you tried couples counciling?
walterego wrote:LightRibena wrote:Why have you signed up to dating sites?
I can honestly say, if I didn't have two children with her that she would be living elsewhere by now.
LightRibena wrote:Sometimes staying together for the kids isn't the right way to go. For starts, your kids learn how to conduct adult relationships from their parents. There's no shame in admitting you couldn't make it work together and you do a better job raising your kids out of a partnership.
kinghelfer wrote:LightRibena wrote:Sometimes staying together for the kids isn't the right way to go. For starts, your kids learn how to conduct adult relationships from their parents. There's no shame in admitting you couldn't make it work together and you do a better job raising your kids out of a partnership.
...He already knows that. Thats going to be his big speech when he tells her he's got someone else...probably younger. Read his post history - he's tried openly asking for it and gotten nowhere so now he's trying for sympathy.......
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