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Will my wife stray

Postby andymate » Sun Apr 29, 2012 10:42 pm

Bit of a dilemma from Andy in the good old UK

Last year my wife, Jade and I went on a 2 week holiday at a very expensive resort. Mainly single people there looking to pickup, all good looking types. However, we still had a good time and have booked to go ahead this year. But then, unexpected work pressures means we can't go. Cancellation's an option, but Jade wants to go on her own. Guys at work said they would cancel if they were me, and they've not even met Jade!

She's a slim and attractive 35 yr old brunette. Stylish, well dressed, leggy style rather than boobs. I've never been a jealous type which is just as well given the number of men who've approached her over the years at clubs, parties and rest. When we went last time, we didn't spend all our time joined at the hip and I often found her at the bar or pool being chatted up by guys much better looking than me. Nothing happened, but she enjoyed the attention and loves flirting, she's very open and friendly.

She loves sex and her libido has increased over the years to the extent that wants sex almost every night! Also her attitude towards sex is that it's fun rather than an extention of love

Think she might stray but interested in other views
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby Littlejill » Wed May 02, 2012 9:22 am

Hi,

Yes I would imagine that there would be a good chance that she will stray. Especially what you've said about her. She might not be tempted while your there with her, but on her own!!!! I know if it was me I would lol.

Not only that you'd be tearing your hair out with worry the whole time she's away.

I've got an open marrage with my hubby, but even he wouldn't let me go away on my own.

Take notice of your work mates, cancel and take her away at a more suitable time, even if she's not happy about it.

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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby Mr B » Wed May 02, 2012 8:35 pm

Its possible she just loved the attention of being chatted up. Only you really know if theres a chance she might just go for it.
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby lovetopleasewife » Mon May 07, 2012 1:34 pm

I am not sure if she would stray or not, but I think most people with a high sex drive who are in a committed relationship need to avoid tempting situations. I know I have a very high sex drive and I am married. I travel a lot and I do not let myself go to a singles bar or even spend time in a place where I might meet someone looking to hookup. I am fully committed to my wife and have never strayed, but I would not trust myself going to a resort by myself where there are single people looking to hookup. That sounds like a problem waiting to happen.

I would cancel the reservation and work with her to set up some boundries.
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby andymate » Tue May 08, 2012 6:17 pm

Trouble is that things have moved on since my original post.

Can't re-arrange, cause these work comittments mean I'll be lucky to get more than the odd day this year!

Also, it would mean that my wife won't get a break from our two young ones all year if we cancel. Finally, I've had golf breaks in the past so I'm sure I'd get that argument back if I tried to say she couldn't go.

Tried to replace my place with one of her friends, but that didn't come off, so bottom line is she's going on her own. To enjoy the sea, sun, watersports and relax according to her.

Just need to accept what's going to happen I guess !
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby kinghelfer » Thu May 10, 2012 1:57 pm

andymate wrote:Just need to accept what's going to happen I guess !


:P ...Thats right andy - you just accept it instead of being a man and telling your boss that your going on holiday. But you won't,will you?
I have no doubt that things will "Move on " a little further when she actualy goes and you will be on here all night posting pics of your knob and looking to cyber with other, more sympathetic members,eh...... :wink:
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby Roo_meat » Fri May 11, 2012 10:20 am

so you don't trust your wife?
and you relationship is built on???
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby MaxtheGaul » Fri May 11, 2012 6:28 pm

Of course she will! You just have to decide whether you enjoy that prospect.
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby andymate » Mon May 14, 2012 12:09 pm

MaxtheGaul wrote:Of course she will! You just have to decide whether you enjoy that prospect.


Yes, I feel you are correct. I certainly won't enjoy the prospect, but neither am I at the other extreme where I'd automatically look for divorce if something happened and I got to find out about it. Depends what it was

As for trust, then I do trust her not to have an affair, go with a friend, work collegue, etc. But trust only goes so far, and you can never get completely into the other person's mind set. A one night stand is perhaps what I reckon could happen, especially in that environment. I have 4 female "friends" and they have all had a ONS at some point whilst being in long term relationships, their excuse being the temptation and excitement. Also Jade has had friends who have done the same, and she's supported them, arguing that a ONS is not real straying.

As for being a "man" and not letting her go, insisting on going with her, etc. Well for various reasons of work, etc that isn’t going to happen and even if it did, temptation would arise at some other point. Maybe I should just stick to her like glue until her looks and libido fade :P
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby shakirah » Thu May 17, 2012 10:12 am

Communication is very important because it will help to make you understand and she will also know your own feeling.
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby MaxtheGaul » Sun May 20, 2012 11:10 pm

When is the holiday?
So she's going to go and enjoy the sun and relax, and when she has dinner on her own, there isn't going to be a fit young doctor/banker/engineer who comes to her rescue and offers her a bit of company, and he's not going to fancy her, and she's not going to respond to his advances.
Face it if she's going on her own she's going expecting to have a bit of fun. What matters is not what she gets up to but what happens when she gets back.
For me I'd rather she was honest about having a few ONSs than that she lied about a single fairly chaste kiss - because once the lying starts....
If you want her to be honest then you need to accept what is likely to happen and tell her you want to be kept in the picture so that when she cally you (I assume she will) then she can tell you about the doctor she quite fancies, and whether or not she's going to have a ONS with him and not feel she's destroying you in the process.
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby andymate » Wed May 23, 2012 12:06 pm

MaxtheGaul wrote:When is the holiday?
So she's going to go and enjoy the sun and relax, and when she has dinner on her own, there isn't going to be a fit young doctor/banker/engineer who comes to her rescue and offers her a bit of company, and he's not going to fancy her, and she's not going to respond to his advances.
Face it if she's going on her own she's going expecting to have a bit of fun. What matters is not what she gets up to but what happens when she gets back.
For me I'd rather she was honest about having a few ONSs than that she lied about a single fairly chaste kiss - because once the lying starts....
If you want her to be honest then you need to accept what is likely to happen and tell her you want to be kept in the picture so that when she cally you (I assume she will) then she can tell you about the doctor she quite fancies, and whether or not she's going to have a ONS with him and not feel she's destroying you in the process.


The holiday's not until Aug, so plenty of time for us to discuss things. I agree, it's best to be honest and in a couple of weeks we are going camping at the Download festival. Just the 2 of us for 3 days, so time to find out what she's thinking
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby MaxtheGaul » Thu May 24, 2012 6:02 pm

that sounds like a good idea and gives you pleanty of time.

Mail me if you want to discuss further.
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby andymate » Thu May 24, 2012 10:13 pm

MaxtheGaul wrote:that sounds like a good idea and gives you pleanty of time.

Mail me if you want to discuss further.


Yeh, might do that.

Did you mean mail you direct?, as I don't have your e-mail

Also I'm new to this forum and not allowed to send private messages

Forgive me if I sound naive, but i have very little experience in forums generally :roll:
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Re: Will my wife stray

Postby Spoilt Bi » Thu May 31, 2012 2:14 pm

andymate wrote:
MaxtheGaul wrote:that sounds like a good idea and gives you pleanty of time.

Mail me if you want to discuss further.


Yeh, might do that.

Did you mean mail you direct?, as I don't have your e-mail

Also I'm new to this forum and not allowed to send private messages

Forgive me if I sound naive, but i have very little experience in forums generally :roll:


I think he is being sarcastic and saying if you can send him the dates and resort he will be there and cater for your girls neeeds. He is stupid but so what.
Me I would cancel or go together, and if you have so much doubt as the Aus guy says why are you with her - its a relationship going nowhere
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