more acceptable choices in mens earrings?

[stooge]

I know ear piercing for guys has become quite accepting and most mothers are getting their sons ears pierced as well as there daughters now!

But why hasn't the style and choices for men become more accepting. I mean for the moms or wives, what if your son or hubby wanted to wear some large hoops like the girls wear or even some dangly chandeliers for that matter, would U allow it?

I'm a canadian guy who just recently got his ears pierced and I figure why should I be limited In my earring choices! I would luv to be able to wear some large hoop earrings!

I think if piercing on men is becoming so accepting then when should also accept the fact that men should be able to wear whatever earrings they want and not be looked down upon in society for doing so!

[Yamaharley_UK]

I'm straight and English, and have had both lobes pierced for a few years now. I always wear earrings: studs for office or formal, and small hoops (steel, silver or occasionally gold) that just miss the bottom of my lobes otherwise. I always though big hoops and dangles were for the girls - it's like jeans, tops and shoes: some are designed for females, some for males. But push the boundaries, why not?

[stooge]

thanx for the reply Yamaharley_uk!

Someone has to set the bar for the men and maybe that someone should be me...lol

[Draugnar]

I just pierced my ear two weeks ago so I'm still in the piercing stud, but my friend has one of his ears pierced twice and he wears "interesting" dangles or hoops on the bottom with a stud on the top. And by "interesting" I mean that he has a naked Santa (has the hat, but no clothes) he wears to the company holiday party every year and lots of themed dangles for the other holidays as well.

I think it is becoming more acceptable for men to wear dangles and hoops provided they fit their personality. I'm straight and wouldn't be caught dead wearing a feminine dangle, but could easily see myself wearing one of the themed dangles or a celtic or southwestern sterling silver hoop. But go push the edge. Someone has to or the boundaries never move and progress stagnates.

Hell, women are wearing briefs with a masculine look (down to the access port in front) so why can't you wear something outside the norm?

[stooge]

Well said Draugnar! im only about two weeks in too so im still a studs man myself. Naked santa sounds interesting but not my style...lol. I do think i will push the bar a bit though someone's gotta do it.

[petticoatfriend]

Sorry, I am new in the forum, that´s why I didn´t read your message earlier. - This was also my problem for many years.
I got both ears pierced at an age of 18 (now 35 years ago!), wearing earrings in both lobes most of the time. I must confess however that I like feminine stuff in general. As a crossdresser ( my wife being supportive!) i prefer large hoops and dangling earrings because it gives a more feminine appearance. I ´ve learned however to distinguish: waering studs at work and prefering large hoops and dangles at home, sometimes when going out with my wife in the evening and always when being on a holiday trip in summer. In general it will be a matching outfit if you have long hair beyond your shoulders (- sorry, I haven´t!)
Having much in common with everybody who is pushing the boundaries!
Tomboyish girls who prefer a more mannish attire will never be teased or ridiculed by our contemporanians. Why should boys and men submit to all those restrictions?

[stooge]

I agree petticoatfriend. When women do something out of the ordinary no one bats an eye, but as soon as the shoe is on the other foot all hell breaks loose. Its quite sad actually.

I personally have started wearing hoops that are in and around 1" and even that is a stretch for guys but I luv it and don't care what other say or think, and I will continue to do so.

[Kalith]

ya it is a double standard that men need to dress a certain way and girl is more free. As for earings i just stoped wearign them now that i am on the i am on the varsity football team, and i hated losing them cause i need to take them off so often, but whatever fills ur boots i wore a half inch ring on my left ear and i never got made fun of...although i am bigger then most other guys.

[nicom]

When I read all the posts I'm surprised.
I got both my ears pierced 16 years ago. Still rare in Europe at that time. Now I wear hoops, dangling earrings, pearls. As long as I like them and they fit me I don't see a problem.
So for all other boys : the same advice. If you like a certain earring and it fits you, just wear it.

[Tammy_04]

I mean for the moms or wives, what if your son or hubby wanted to wear some large hoops like the girls wear or even some dangly chandeliers for that matter, would U allow it?

My son was four years old when his ears were pierced. Until last year he was the only boy in his class with pierced ears, so he has always worn earrings similar to what the girls his age wore including hoops and dangles.

[stooge]

Thats great tammy and I read your posts from a while back on the other piercing topics here. I just find it a little hard to believe that you allow your son to wear dangles and 2.5" hoops as u had mentioned. I mean what kinda comments does he get when he goes out like that and what about his family including your husband he never once objected to your son wearing such feminine earrings? Not to sound rude or anything but it all just seems a little fishy and sounds made up to me.

I would luv to be able to wear that kinda stuff too!

[T_ammy_04]

I just find it a little hard to believe that you allow your son to wear dangles and 2.5" hoops as u had mentioned. I mean what kinda comments does he get when he goes out like that and what about his family including your husband he never once objected to your son wearing such feminine earrings?

Stooge,

When my son started kindergarten the other children simply accepted him as a boy who wore earrings. They had not been conditioned that earrings were just for girls, so it was no big deal to them. Until last year he was the only boy is his class with pierced ears, so his earrings were always similar to what the girls in his class wore. The bottom line is that none of his friends have ever made any comments about him wearing earrings. One of his close girl buddies also wears large hoop earrings, so when the two of them are together I suspect some people don't realize he is a boy. I also think that in today's world some people may have thoughts about his earrings but they keep them to themselves because they don't want to get invovled.

My husband's objection to piercing our son's ears was his fear of his parents' reaction. That's why we agreed he would not be there the first time his parents saw our son wearing earrings. As soon as he saw our son with earrings he agreed they looked good on him. My mother has always thought he looked cute with earrings. My father passed away before my son was born, so of course he never even knew he had a grandson.

My in-laws are still not happy their grandson wears earrings and probably never will be, but they accept the fact that he enjoys wearing them and is not going to stop just because they don't like them. My son is also careful to wear conservative studs or small hoops when he is going to be around my in-laws rather than any of his larger earrings.

Tammy

[stooge]

Thats all well and good Tammy but I wanna know what actually prompted your son to start wearing such large feminine earrings. I mean did he ask U if he could wear them, did he see them in a store, or did u buy him his first pair of large hoops and say to him that he should wear these. And didn't him or your husband ever question why he was wearing those big earrings like only the girls wear.

And I must say as much as id like to be able to wear those I fear for your son when he gets older in this society. Especially if he plans on having girlfriends and stuff because he may get looked upon negatively.

I congratulate you and your son if its true but i must say im still very very skeptical, sorry.

[Guest]

Thats all well and good Tammy but I wanna know what actually prompted your son to start wearing such large feminine earrings. I mean did he ask U if he could wear them, did he see them in a store, or did u buy him his first pair of large hoops and say to him that he should wear these. And didn't him or your husband ever question why he was wearing those big earrings like only the girls wear.

And I must say as much as id like to be able to wear those I fear for your son when he gets older in this society. Especially if he plans on having girlfriends and stuff because he may get looked upon negatively.

I congratulate you and your son if its true but i must say im still very very skeptical, sorry.

Hi,

I see boys (even quite young boys) regularly wearing hoop earrings with a diameter of perhaps 1" or 1.5". However, even earrings of that diameter appear large on most boys and attract attention. Though I have seen the odd boy over the years wearing large hoops, I would think that it would be inadvisable to send a boy to school wearing them.

I'm not opposed to boys wearing larger hoop earrings - I just don't think it's a good idea for school.

Tammy, those of us with sons with a pierced ear(s), or those contemplating it are just interested in your experiences.

[T_ammy_04]

Thats all well and good Tammy but I wanna know what actually prompted your son to start wearing such large feminine earrings. I mean did he ask U if he could wear them, did he see them in a store, or did u buy him his first pair of large hoops and say to him that he should wear these. And didn't him or your husband ever question why he was wearing those big earrings like only the girls wear.

My son was fascinated by the way some of my hoops would swing in my ears so I bought him his first pair of hoops when he was five years old. We allowed him to wear them only at home or when my husband or I was going to be right with him. I purposely bought him hoops that had very thin wires where they passed through his ears so they would swing in his ears. He would stand in front of a mirror, shake his head and then giggle as he watch his hoops swing in his ears. That hooked him on hoops. As he grew we bought him larger hoops, but still allowed him to wear them only at home or when one of us was going to be with him. He was 8 when I allowed him to wear hoops to school, but my firm rule was the hoops had to be small enough that another child could not hook a finger through them. I did not want to take any chances with problems, either accidental or itentional. When I felt comfotable that he was nto going to have any problems with hoops at school I allowed him to wear somewhat larger hoops. The largest hoops he has worn to school are about 1 3/4 inches diameter. His largest hoops are for casual wear only. He outgrew standing in front of the mirror, but still likes to occasionally move his head and feel his hoops swinging in his ears.

We consider all my son's hoops to be gender neutral. They are all plain and fairly small in cross section, not the thick hoops some girls wear, so my husband has not had any concerns with them being too feminine. My husband's real concern about piercing our son's ears was his parents reaction. As soon as he saw our son with earrings he agreed they looked nice on him.

My son has some earrings he no longer wears because they are styled for younger children. If he someday feels a particular pair of hoops are giving him a negative image he will probably stop wearing those too. He changes his earrings most every day, so it would be a simple matter for him to just stop wearing that pair.

Tammy