What should I say?

[Nervous-Mother-F***er]

Hey all. My problem isn't so much a problem as an annoying teenage agst ridden quibble.

I asked this girl out a week ago and decided to keep it casual cos t the moment we're still friends and I don't want to scare her off by being to serious. I said 'You want to see a film or something sometime' to which her reply was 'Yeah. We should catch up sometime'. I know her through a theatre group and haven't seen her casually outside it so I think it's atleast a little obvious that I was asking her out (I hope she realised tht lol). My problem is I said I'd contact her through facebook and I don't know what to say.

I thought something along the lines of this, but I want to run it past you guys to say if it seems okay:

"Hi, how are you. I don't know if you're still interesed but if you still want to catch up I'm going to be in Canterbury" (where she lives) "... all of next week for work. So if you're not busy would you like to see a film, perhaps get a coffee first..."

What do you think? Right mix of casual and seriousness? Is any part of it to casual or serious sounding? Will that message send her running for the hills or not? Is there anything you would add?

Please note: I'm not posting this on her facebook wall, it would be mean of me to possibly embaress her on the place where all of our friends can see our conversation, it will be a private message.

[Guest]

hay, i think its perfect i would add one "x" at the end good luck

[Verve]

Nervous mother-f*cker my ass... You got skill, it's perfect... Do your thang!

[glidewest]

my only comment would be not to go for a film, if I was taking someone out on a date I'd want to talk to them rather than sit in silence for a hour and half, and Canterbury cinema is a bit minging

other than that you sound like you've got it sussed!!

good luck

[Guest]

my only comment would be not to go for a film, if I was taking someone out on a date I'd want to talk to them rather than sit in silence for a hour and half, and Canterbury cinema is a bit minging

other than that you sound like you've got it sussed!!

good luck

I wasn't really refering to that cinema, I meant the arthouse cinema at the university.

[glidewest]

ahh you wiley young thing, now that is high brow, and on my dog walking circuit!! sounds like you need no advice from us lot!!

[Guest]

ahh you wiley young thing, now that is high brow, and on my dog walking circuit!! sounds like you need no advice from us lot!!

Cool a fellow Canterburian (actually to get technical I live in Herne Bay).

[glidewest]

ahh you wiley young thing, now that is high brow, and on my dog walking circuit!! sounds like you need no advice from us lot!!

Cool a fellow Canterburian (actually to get technical I live in Herne Bay).

admission of living in Herne bay, now there's a brave man/woman!!

[Guest]

ahh you wiley young thing, now that is high brow, and on my dog walking circuit!! sounds like you need no advice from us lot!!

Cool a fellow Canterburian (actually to get technical I live in Herne Bay).

admission of living in Herne bay, now there's a brave man/woman!!

HAHA Yeah.

BTW I posted the message last night and she hasn't been _ yet but I presume she will be on some time tonight so I'll keep you updated.

[Guest]

edit: *hasn't been _ yet

[glidewest]

yeah, for some reason if you type 'o n l i n e' it displays an underline..what's all that about??

[danw]

try breakinf the ice with. "Hi. you sure look like you give great head!"

[Guest]

Unfortunately she rejected me. It was all going well, passing back messages about meeting up with me. then she said she didn't realise how busy she'd be and perhaps another time. She said she was rehearsing a musical or something. Tuesday was the only days she was free and that was only after 7pm.

I can't tell whether she's genuinly busy or if she is just letting me down easy.

To be honest I'm getting pretty tired of being let down easy.

[glidewest]

hey man, don't get so down, you've done a great thing and should be dead proud of yourself. If her life's so damn busy then leave her to it, just bang off a message saying 'well if you get a clear slot and fancy a drink, you know where you can find me'

yes, you'll probably feel like poo for a bit, but at least you took the chance and gave it a go, many blokes wouldn't have! get out there and hold your head high!

[Guest]

hey man, don't get so down, you've done a great thing and should be dead proud of yourself. If her life's so damn busy then leave her to it, just bang off a message saying 'well if you get a clear slot and fancy a drink, you know where you can find me'

yes, you'll probably feel like poo for a bit, but at least you took the chance and gave it a go, many blokes wouldn't have! get out there and hold your head high!

Yeah that's true. Thanks, you've made me feel better. I will do that, i'll make another message. But I'll wait a little bit, I don't want to seem needy.