I wear women's
panties on occasion, although it's not often. It started during puberty when I became fascinated with all things female (as any horny boy can attest to). I was fascinated with pu**y and
panties were the closest article of clothing to that. This turned into a fetish for
panties. Wearing them makes me think of sex with a woman.
I never had any homosexual feelings or desires. I have no desire to cross-dress. I am not trying to get in touch with my feminine side. I just find
panties a turn on sometimes. A lot of it has to do with some of the fabric options.
nylon and other silky fabrics feel different from what you can find in men's underwear. That is part of the appeal to me.
As to it being wrong or not normal, what is normal? If your argument is that there are enough choices in men's underwear to please a man, well, clearly that isn't the case or there wouldn't be men who choose to wear women's
panties.
If your argument is that the style doesn't matter, it's just if the item was made for a man or a woman, then think about this. In the past, there was a time where women never wore pants. The first women who chose to wear them had no choice but to wear men's pants since there weren't any for women at the time. But because they did wear them, eventually pants for women were manufactured and sold. Today nobody gives it a second thought because it's been around long enough. Also, what about women who liked to wear men's boxers or briefs? That has also gone on long enough that there are women's underwear styles that match but that are made specifically for a woman.
Right now there are very few styles of men's underwear that are made of the silky fabrics that some women's
panties are made of. And unfortunately, most of those are made to cater more to the cross dresser or homosexual male. So they haven't really made the mainstream yet. So if a man simply wants something plain but with that silky feel, there are extremely few options other than women's
panties. However, I'm sure that eventually this will change, although perhaps not within my lifetime.
One thing that slows it down is that culture today is much more accepting of a woman being masculine than of a man being feminine. This largely is because the majority of the worlds population is much more accepting of lesbian tendencies in a woman than gay tendencies in a man. Look at bisexuality. It's perfectly acceptable to a surprising portion of the world's population for a woman to be bisexual. But it's still a relative minority that accept a man being bisexual. Because of this fact in today's culture, it will take much longer for it to become acceptable for a man to openly wear clothing that is feminine in any way.
If you don't believe that the biases are so strong, go read through this thread. You can see just how many people feel strongly about it. Regardless of if the biases are right or wrong, they do exist.
What I find bothersome is how some posts in this thread lump every guy who wears
panties into the "gay" or "closet gay" category. In my opinion, that seems to show more of the poster's insecurities than the "gayness" of the men wearing
panties. It also shows an inability to consider all possible reasons for wearing the
panties. Those posters narrow it down to "wear women's clothes, must want to be a woman" or something similarly inane.
I know I do it because of my desire for women. Maybe it doesn't make sense to some of you out there, but it works for me. My first wife accepted it. My current wife actually likes it and finds it extremely sexy. But as I said, I don't do it but on occasion. It's not out of fear that holds me back. It's simply if I am in the mood or not. Maybe that makes me different than some. But I'm sure I'm not the only one who is this way. Even if a man chooses to wear them all the time, they could have the same motives that I do. The desire for women and the sexy reminder that something silky down there gives about just how soft and sexy women are.
I personally don't care for the feminine look in
panties. The more plain, or masculine, the design, the better. I just like the silky fabrics. Now, would I wear silky underwear designed for a man instead of women's
panties if there were good choices available? Probably, but also probably would continue with ones designed for women as well. Would largely depend on the style. But I do have to admit there is something about
panties designed for a woman. Which makes sense since my entire motive is because of desire for women. Where is that fulfilled if I am wearing something designed for a man?
Now, I agree that a man should not lie about it to anyone he is in a romantic relationship with. However, it's something that you can't talk about right away because it can be a sensitive subject. So patience should be given. But honesty in a relationship is a must. But even in honest relationships, you don't go blabbing all your secrets on the first date. It takes time to build the trust for a man to share something so intimate. With the biases I mentioned earlier, it's even harder for many men. They risk rejection or insults.
I also agree that a man should not steal the
panties. I admit I did steal a few when I was a kid. And just like several other things I did as a kid, it was wrong. But as soon as I was old enough to deal with it myself, I bought my own or got voluntary "donations" from women I knew.
As to the insults that have been posted in this forum. Grow up! There is no need to insult anyone for their choices. You have the right to disagree. But how hard is it to state your opinions in a respectful manner? I personally am mildly homophobic, largely because I was very unpopular as a young man so I was accused of being gay. The hurt of the things that were said to me stick with me to this day (I'm in my 40s now). However, I have a friend who is gay. So my phobia doesn't extend to others with that choice. It more has to do with a fear of the concept of it or being accused of being gay, which fits with what happened to me when I was young.
Also, those who have emphatically stated that if a man wears
panties, he has issues or he is a closet case or whatever, how do you know what their innermost thoughts are? Just because you have a narrow enough mind set that you can only see one reason for their behavior doesn't mean their mind set is also so narrow. I'm sure there are many that ARE closet cases. The insulting tone used by most who said such things sure isn't going to help them come out of the closet, is it?
There will always be things in life that you will disagree with. I disagree with cross dressing, but that doesn't mean I try to enforce my feelings on it. I don't agree with homosexuality either, but I also don't try to push my opinion on others. What I do care about is what I have to put up with directly.
For example, I told my gay friend that I didn't want to see him acting affectionate with his boyfriend when they were around me. I said it wasn't that I was trying to change him, but that I simply had no desire to witness that. At that point it was up to him to decide if he could live with that or not. I don't feel that is being unreasonable of me because everyone should have the choice of what kind of behavior they want around them. I was making a choice for MY life, not his. He had the choice if that was acceptable or not. If not, he could move on to other friends with no malice.
It's really no different than somebody telling a friend they don't want foul language used when they are hanging out together. That isn't telling the friend be a different person, It's just asking them to respect one's boundaries. We each have a list of things that we like and dislike and it isn't unreasonable for us to politely ask for certain things in our friends. If they are unable or unwilling to accommodate, then they perhaps are not the right friend for you.
I think that's enough for now. Let the praise and/or flames begin!
. I crossdress quite often, usually with 'undies' on under my male work clothes. Sometimes I wear womens undies when I'm in bed with my wife.. the sex can be mind-blowingly fantastic.
by daz/shaz » Tue Dec 25, 2007 6:33 pm 
