Numerous sites show that girth is more important than length. Infact, too much length can be a hurtful thing. The average vagina is from 5-6 inches deep but able to accomdate a wide range of girths. If the women is fit, the walls of the vagina will be much more responsive to stimulation. The clit however is where most women produce an orgasm from, but reports of g-spot orgasms being the most intense are completely true. Most women don't know where their g-spot is so any man in their life is at disadvantage to helping them find it. That spot is why size matters. Although most women will say "you're just fine hun", they would be saying "oh my god, I think I saw heaven" if their man was large enough to hit the g-spot by accident, as well as stimulate their clitoris better, due to larger girth.
In my quest to please my woman, I have read many forums, took up jelqing to increase the size of my member, bought sex toys and more recently, told her that if she has someone larger in mind, just let me know, and I'll due my best to not be jealous, just keep it safe, discreet and never let him near my son. That's one thing I couldn't forgive. If my wife were to take a lover and see him while with my son, I would go postal.
Ok so some background, I am a 35 year old male, married to a hot, large breasted, 37 year old female. We have been together 11 years and married for 8 of them. I have had 3 sexual partners, includeing my wife in my life. My wife has had 7, excludeing me and includeing her exhusband, and that is only the ones I have found out about due to early in the relationship fights(yeah, they were painful) and other slips of the tongue. Could be 7 could be 27, not keeping score anymore.
When I first met her, she was 135lbs, 36DDs(yeah I am shallow when it comes to breast size) and smokeing hot in a "girl next door" way. Way out of my league, thank god for thoughtful cousins and blind dates. She was still in the midst of a divorce when we got set up on a blind date. She put out that night(that's why I wouldn't be surprised if a bunch of skeletons fell out of the sexual past closet), I was pathetic at best haveing only had one breif sexual encounter before her(the other was during a "break" time, before marriage). At that time, I really hadn't thought about penis size but I can say I was on the small size of average in both length and girth.
For some reason, she found me witty and charming and put aside my inadequate member. We had sex usually 2-3 times a week, and for the majority(like 99%) she was able to orgasm while on top, but almost never any other way. So that happened a lot, it was easier for her to rub her clitoris on my pad is the conclusion of that. At the time I suspected because of the infrequency of sex, that she had someone on the side that got her off and came to me for emotional gratification. I stopped careing after we had our son, it just became less important to me.
I have posed the "are you ok with the size of my penis" question to her at numerous intervals in our life, which is pretty much the same as handing her a loaded and cocked gun. And the answer has changed from "I have had bigger men and I felt it way more" to "well it definetly wouldn't hurt if you bigger" to "I love you and your penis no matter what size". But now it seems to be swinging back to the "well it definetly wouldn't hurt" stage. Not that she loves me less, just that she wants more sexual gratification from me personally and not to have to rely on toys and tons of foreplay.
Maybe she hit her peak a little later then most women, don't know, just know that the bigger the vibe is, the more intense her orgasms. I even went so far as to increase my member with exercises to where it is upper-middle part of the average scale. I'll put it this way, she has me, an avg size rabbit vibe and a huge realistic vibe(no rabbit peice and no way I could ever reach those proportions even with surgery). She now only orgasms while on top, the rabbit does the job adequately, moreso if I lend a hand, mouth or penis, but the huge vibe gives her an "oh my god, I can't feel my legs, Im just gonna lie here" orgasm. She doesn't like using Big Red often cause it makes her feel dirty and out of shape and worries that it might make me feel even more inadequate than I already do, even though I assure her on a regular basis that what matters is we both get enjoyment out of it.
Now, haveing said all that and haveing some readers ponder "what's his freakin point", here is my point. Early on I was a fat nerd with a smaller than average penis and somehow, I still managed to win her heart and keep it. Even though this bombshell had way more masculine and handsome suitors trying to pry her away from me(her ex and the man she cheated on him with, to name a couple), my penis was the least of her concerns.
Would she have loved it if I had a rock-hard 8" long, 6" thick penis? Heck yeah, she told me flat out really early in the relationship that the best orgasm she had was with a man with those proportions, how it looked more manly, and how it felt great in her hand and other places(yeah that was the fight that put us on a "break", I was still way to immature at that point). And she would still love it if I was bigger, but some women learn to look past the basic primitive urges and see the bigger picture. We have a beautiful son and loveing relationship.
As a side note, just after we got married, things started going downhill. Sex was almost completely absent, the internet was my only stimulation for weeks at a time. She was getting back in to shape, haveing gained 50lbs in the time leading up to this. They hit rock bottom when she regained her 135lb weight, now with 38DDs(yeah, I know, the breast obsession again, Im a guy, do the math), I on the other hand, had gained 60lbs and kept it and was away for up 12 hours a day, depending on how busy the traffic was on my long commute to work. This is when I started noticeing that guys would more actively stare at her and became jealous and started accusing her of cheating. The only thing that saved our marriage was on one of the rare occasions we had sex, she got pregnant. A feat she had been trying to accomplish since she was 19. She felt it was a sign from god that we were meant to be together and I thank my lucky stars she is cookey like that.
Any guy that finds himself in a similar situation, don't be a schmuck like I was. Realize something isn't right and talk about it. And don't just talk, make a plan, set goals together. Don't let her get to that point where she feels like she might as well be single and alone again since she feels that way anyways. Getting upset, throwing temper tantrums and playing the blame game is not the way to winning back her heart. If I have one pearl of wisdom, this would be it.
humbley,
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