Wife watching / sharing

[Maisie26]

People need to get to know their prospective partners much better before they get so involved - I know cheating has been going on for eternity - but people need to explore where and why it does NOT happen.

As for me, I am still in the exporatory stage of life, and lucky for me, I've got a great circle of friends - male and female - who are not hung up about sex and getting hitched. We're still out trying to learn about the world and how people are with each other.

We engage in what we call recreational sex - as couples and small groups, for fun, for pleasure and to explore new things.

By the time I get hitched, and it may be to one of the guys in this circle of friends, I will know what I like and who I like - and I will know them well. And they will know me well, I will make sure of that.

Some people, mostly relatives, tell me I'm too fussy and should settle down, but I think it's better to wait than to make a heartbreaking mistake. At least I do for now.

[badlydrawnbloke]

..Sharing your wife/gf WITH another bloke is even nicer though - a gorgeous womans face as she's taking two cocks is an AMAZING turn on!

[MaxtheGaul]

As for me, I am still in the exporatory stage of life, and lucky for me, I've got a great circle of friends - male and female - who are not hung up about sex and getting hitched. We're still out trying to learn about the world and how people are with each other.

We engage in what we call recreational sex - as couples and small groups, for fun, for pleasure and to explore new things.

You know I think this is a great way to explore your sexuality, with a group of friends who are hopefully all being safe and looking after each other. Much lower risk than casual sex with strangers and much more interesting.

I did this for a while as a member of a certain political party youth wing, I think everyone ended up bedding everyone, but there was never any stress about it and I don't remember anyone catching anything because we all played safe and kept within the same group.

[MaxtheGaul]

I have recently discovered my partner has been having an affair, which I have suspected for nearly two years

While I had these suspiscions I regularly fantasized about her with other men, usually two or more at the same time and regularly used this during <A HREF="http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_64" target="_blank">masturbation</A> (which was something I did more amd more as she became less and less interested in sex with me)

Now that I know the truth, and particularly the fact the the man she was having an affair with was an ex-colleague and friend, who I had regularly played sports with and hence had seen naked in the changing rooms, I can't bare the thought of them together and that the pain and loathing that the mental image of them having sex brings feels like someone reaching into my chest and ripping my heart out and not in the slightest bit erotic

So that's a big NO to sharing and watching from me

I had a gf who did this to me with her boss. At first I felt really wounded by it, but she had at least told me directly without any lying. We talked about it and she didn't want to split up, but she did want to continue seeing him when they were away at events. I found the emotional commitment was worth far more than the sexual infidelity cost, and because she always told me what she had done found it much easier to cope with and even quite arousing at times. also she was never with him when she could otherwise have been with me. Interestingly we are still in touch (and actually had a short fling only a few years ago) while her ex-boss is long since gone.

So I think your pain is not that she has had sex with another man, but that she sees that man in preference to you. That's where the real pain lies. I don't know whether talking to her about it would help or whether you should just get out.

[Buzzsaw]

Max, your right the real pain was not the sex but the fact that they shared so much intimacy and affection that she didn't share with me

That has all changed now and we are back together being open and honest and more important intimate - still don't know if I could bare to share her with another man yet though (another woman maybe!)

Thanks again Max

[MaxtheGaul]

Well I guess it's not compulsory to share her with another man!! But I always find that focusing on the relationship rather than the sex bit helps get past some of these issues. Then how and what you get up to sexually sort of follows on from that.

Women seem amazingly willing to talk about their infidelities when they can do it without their husband b/f exploding as a result. And as soon as they talk about it they seem to lose a lot of the excitement that they had with their illicit affair - it sort of brings it down to earth.

Good luck anyway - hope all goes well, and she owes you at least one threesome with a very pretty girl!!!

[Buzzsaw]

Thanks again Max

Yea a threesome would be nice, I've never done that but fantasised about it many times

I can but hope!

[spin101]

hi paul4444,I must say my first time watching my wife kissing and playing with another guy was very hard.I was so mad I left her at the party and she got a taxi home.That was 10 years ago.We talked about it and she asked if I would watch or just be there and listen.Well that hooked me after I sat outside the bedroom and was able to listen to it all. Now I even join in on some of the hot ones we have.We get to do it about about everyother year now and I still can not tell you want makes it so hot of a thing to see or do with her.We will both be 40 this year and she told me would like to try a guy once a month for the entire year if it is ok with me.She tells me it will be her last if I let her.Tell you at the end of the year how things are.

I have read accounts here from men and woman about wife watching or sharing and am interested to know how one can take fantasising about it to actually doing it.
Does the woman in the partnership have a stronger sexual appetite than her partner and the husband accepts another man in the relationship?
Or is it the man who encourages his wife because he wants to see her being pleasured by another man?
I would welcome views from other men and women who have actually participated in wife sharing, how they got started, whether they used a friend, or whether they prefered a discreet stranger from the swinging sites on the internet.
Also, how does one go about suggesting this to ones own wife?

[Open Rela]

Was in an Open Relationship (from start how twas) and strangely(?) felt un-satisfied 'my guy' didn't mind when i was with others. Now am the 2nd woman in what may(likely?) become 3 'wife role' participants for an incredible man. We divide house chores, and confide with the other when children not around. Nothing homo involved either, only 'slight' drawback is sometimes when horny and he chooses 'sister'wife to sleep with it bugs me some, she says same thing. If any other women consider being 1 of 2 or 3 'wives'; I recommend it. When ill for example; having another mother figure to attend the children is quite a good confidence to have. I'm odd, she's even, holidays are all 3(soon maybe 4?) and we all are content, feel totally this is 'normal' life, our children have most difficulty I think since so few understand how it is good, and 'normal' behaivor in Majority of WORLD! Good MEN get More women to Spread Seed type thingk "MR" requests I add to post. Who else here agrees with this as being normal? <I ask... Signed: Tawny Tanya

[MaxtheGaul]

Of course it's not normal (by definition!). On the other hand I really can't see anything wrong with it. If you're all consenting adults and are happy with the arrangement then why should others, who may well be in less satisfactory relationships, condemn you. I would say though that the inverse applies equally well. Why shouldn't women be "allowed" to have multiple male partners. I can easily see lots of arguments in favour.

Good luck to you I say.

[Well Put MtG]

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[Carol Hughes]

A few years ago my partner raised the subject of me having sex with another man for his gratification. I had been involved in the swinging sene before so it was not such a problem for me but I was not sure how he would cope with the jealousy.

He did not want to watch. He wanted to know I had been with another man and then get me to reveal all the details.

We have done this often and I tell him all about it as we have sex.

We have just recently started something a little different. My partner waits outside the bedroom and as soon as the other guy has cum he comes in, sticks his c**k in me and gets me to tell him the full details. He reckons it is the best sex he has ever had.

I have to admit that i find it such a turn on telling my partner what I have been up to and sometimes do some very naughty things with these guys just so I can talk about it to my partner.

This sort of thing is not for everyone and if you have the slighest doubt whether you can handle the jeaousy then DONT do it. Remember you cannot undo the act or wipeclean the images in your mind.

[JamesM]

To tell you the truth I would love to go for that. However I am horrified of STDs. I cannot stand to wear a condom. And there are just too many STDs floating around.

When I was younger, a simple injection in my butt fixed everything. Now days that is not the case.

I still find myself fantasizing about it. Go figure!

[Guest]

my wife did tell me once she had a fantasy of being with 2 men - but didn't elaborate on the whys & wherefores.

in a drunken party session one evening with friends - she told a m8 of mine in front of his wife (& me !) that she didn't mind him feeling her tits. Same couple - & again after a drinking session as we left for home - she would often drop her jeans / pants and bare her behind - bent over to him as we left.

on a recent holiday with them - we stayed in their villa in gran canaria with them, I know for a fact he asked her if she fancied a shag - but she declined thankfully. Maybe it was to do with the size of his dick - he's built like a very large donkey and she has seen him in the pool starkers - both of us men go in for a skinny dip in the mornings in their pool

[meagan]

from a womens view i must say it is a big turn on for me to know my hubby is watching or in the other room listening.we are not new at this and i will tell you this i an way over 21 i have had as many as 4 guys taking me all different ways on my 30th birthday party.i get the best of both worlds and my hubby is my one and only true love. i would never do anything to mess this arrangement up.
but like the others said you must know in your heart that this is what you really want and she really wants.if not stay with a dream.