Would you share your wife or partner??

[mande]

I would highly suggest NOT doing it with someone that you work with.
In fact, it should not be anyone that you are in contact with outside of your husband.
This removes any chance of jealous feelings happening, and it keeps the other guy from thinking "I wonder if she'd do me alone sometime?"
This happens ALL the time, so I really suggest having your husband find the guy.
Yes, you get to veto or approve of the guy, but it should be someone that your husband has to call to get together again.

[sally wey]

So Sally, you obviously discussed it a lot, but who was really driving this, you or your husband. And once you took the plunge, who was getting the most out of it?

hello, I will try and answer your ?s, but where to start, I will put out two versions, not sure which was first ok,
1/ when John was caressing me I think I might of said, something like, I wish you had extra hands/lips for me,
2/ again when John was caressing me, he might have said, I wish I had two more hands to caresse you,
and things just went from there, we have no regrets, it worked for us,

who was getting the most from it ?, well John is small time voyeur,(meaning he likes men to see me with as little clothes on as possible, and likes to watch me whenever possible,)
I love the attention of other men, on our first MFM, when I had an orgasm, my legs shook, indeed my whole body shook, it was the most powerful orgasm of my life, I was worked up so much, and with John there beside us added to the excitement,
when I came, John told me after wards that he climaxed as well, (I know it was true by the dampness) it was the first time that had happened to him since his teens,
so you tell me which got the most from it, love Sally

[sally wey]

I would highly suggest NOT doing it with someone that you work with.
In fact, it should not be anyone that you are in contact with outside of your husband.
This removes any chance of jealous feelings happening, and it keeps the other guy from thinking "I wonder if she'd do me alone sometime?"
This happens ALL the time, so I really suggest having your husband find the guy.
Yes, you get to veto or approve of the guy, but it should be someone that your husband has to call to get together again.

hello, we got a guy that we knew very slighly,(we knew that if we didn't want to do it again we could stay away,) he was my choice but John agreed, we have done it with him now for years, also if John goes away for the night he stays with me, John know that we do it together, its different, orally, he has a moustache and beard, John hasn't, again this is our lifestyle, love Sally

[splinkygb]

Whilst staying in a hotel with my GF a few months ago, she said she was feeling so sexy that she would screw any guy in the hotel!

I was almost tempted to go and find one for her!

She has never done that though and she also fantasises about women too!

[dawny75]

Hi all even though i am new here (first post) i have been reading around alot and i was so glad to see this post. Hubby and i have been married for a little over 6 years now and sex is good not great like it used to be but good. The thing is for about the last 2 years he has been talking about seeing me with another guy and even joing in doing a double penetration on me. At first i was against it but it seems the older i get (now 33) the more i am interested and find myself thinking about it all the time. My husband is a very sexual person but it seems as if his drive is just declining and i was really hoping this might help turn the heat up a little. Any advice on those of you who have already done this sort of thing?

hello dawny 75, yes my husband and I have had threesomes, (MFMs,FMFs) for quite some years now, unlike you our sex life wasn't declining, we just wanted more, the thing I missed the most was being chatted-up and then when we were going to have sex, being undressed and undressing someone new,
you need to talk to your husband, and if you still want to go ahead, sellect the man/woman and start the flirting game, we have not gone to a adult site and never would,
we used dancing to get near a person, remember its easy for a woman to get a man to bed her, but with your husband there, well good for your ego
love Sally

Sally that is just wonderful to know that you can do things like that and it not ruin your relationship I just wish i could be more like you i am so jealous and selfish that i could not imagine seeing myhuband inside someone else I feel so horrible about it because he would love it to have another man come in but i would not be able to return the favor with letting another woman join. Does that make me just a total selfish person???

Hugs
Dawny

[dawny75]

Hi all even though i am new here (first post) i have been reading around alot and i was so glad to see this post. Hubby and i have been married for a little over 6 years now and sex is good not great like it used to be but good. The thing is for about the last 2 years he has been talking about seeing me with another guy and even joing in doing a double penetration on me. At first i was against it but it seems the older i get (now 33) the more i am interested and find myself thinking about it all the time. My husband is a very sexual person but it seems as if his drive is just declining and i was really hoping this might help turn the heat up a little. Any advice on those of you who have already done this sort of thing?

hello dawny 75, yes my husband and I have had threesomes, (MFMs,FMFs) for quite some years now, unlike you our sex life wasn't declining, we just wanted more, the thing I missed the most was being chatted-up and then when we were going to have sex, being undressed and undressing someone new,
you need to talk to your husband, and if you still want to go ahead, sellect the man/woman and start the flirting game, we have not gone to a adult site and never would,
we used dancing to get near a person, remember its easy for a woman to get a man to bed her, but with your husband there, well good for your ego
love Sally

[dawny75]

Dawny, so far I haven't done anything of the kind as I'm still unsure about how hubby would take it. Theoretically he's in favour of women taking up their sexual liberty, but reality might be different. I think I should talk to him about that guy in the office who fancies me, would he honestly not mind if I had a fling with him?
Beth

i don't know about your hubby but mine would be very upset if i had a fling without him being involved

[dawny75]

I would highly suggest NOT doing it with someone that you work with.
In fact, it should not be anyone that you are in contact with outside of your husband.
This removes any chance of jealous feelings happening, and it keeps the other guy from thinking "I wonder if she'd do me alone sometime?"
This happens ALL the time, so I really suggest having your husband find the guy.
Yes, you get to veto or approve of the guy, but it should be someone that your husband has to call to get together again.

Right now there is a guy that he works with that i would be willing to let come in I have known him for about 20 years and hubby has known him for about 12. I have never talked to him just know him because we used to ride the same bus when we went to school together. This guy has already made comments like he would love to come and watch us. Then there is this other guy who has been hubby's best friend since they were little he is the one hubby wants to bring in but i am just not so sure about him for one thing he is way to big for me i am serious the guy is hung like a horse it kind of scares me.

[splinkygb]

Dawny: I think a part of you is scared you would like it too much!

[Guest]

Dawny: I think a part of you is scared you would like it too much!

oh i know that is true hehe But he is also afraid i am going to like it and want to do it all the time

[sally wey]

Dawny: I think a part of you is scared you would like it too much!

oh i know that is true hehe But he is also afraid i am going to like it and want to do it all the time

but surely, that is the reason to enter into extra sexual things, you dont go for it and not like it, that would be stipid, love sally PR i'm sorry I didn't mean to call you surely,

[Guest]

I just don't want to end up liking it better than just sex with hubby

[sally wey]

I just don't want to end up liking it better than just sex with hubby

I will say it again, with threesomes etc, it is sex and only sex, every man will do it differently, I get complete sexual satisfaction from my husband whom I love, after our first MFM, I asked John what he must think of me having such an orgasm,
he answered, "isn't that why we entered into this", and I must admit I have had sex with the other man on my own and though nice its not as good as with John, John knows about this, never keep anything from your husband/partner, keep the LOVE and sex apart,
you may wonder the reat of your life about what it would have been like, NOT ME, I know what its like, love Sally

[MaxtheGaul]

...never keep anything from your husband/partner...

I so agree with that.

[mande]

I think it's pretty unlikely you'll like it better than sex with your husband, unless something is really wrong with your relationship, or your husband can't fulfill you now.

Because, when you love someone, it's just an entirely different thing.
This is also why I recommend NOT doing it outside of your husband being there, and in on it, meaning, not just WATCHING you with the other guy, but actively participating at all times.
That way, no matter what is happening, it's an extension of your lovemaking with your husband, not an alternative experience apart from it.
Does this make sense?
This way, it ADDS to your experience with the one you love, not competes with it.