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MaxtheGaul wrote:So Sally, you obviously discussed it a lot, but who was really driving this, you or your husband. And once you took the plunge, who was getting the most out of it?
mande wrote:I would highly suggest NOT doing it with someone that you work with.
In fact, it should not be anyone that you are in contact with outside of your husband.
This removes any chance of jealous feelings happening, and it keeps the other guy from thinking "I wonder if she'd do me alone sometime?"
This happens ALL the time, so I really suggest having your husband find the guy.
Yes, you get to veto or approve of the guy, but it should be someone that your husband has to call to get together again.
sally wey wrote:dawny75 wrote:Hi all even though i am new here (first post) i have been reading around alot and i was so glad to see this post. Hubby and i have been married for a little over 6 years now and sex is good not great like it used to be but good. The thing is for about the last 2 years he has been talking about seeing me with another guy and even joing in doing a double penetration on me. At first i was against it but it seems the older i get (now 33) the more i am interested and find myself thinking about it all the time. My husband is a very sexual person but it seems as if his drive is just declining and i was really hoping this might help turn the heat up a little. Any advice on those of you who have already done this sort of thing?
hello dawny 75, yes my husband and I have had threesomes, (MFMs,FMFs) for quite some years now, unlike you our sex life wasn't declining, we just wanted more, the thing I missed the most was being chatted-up and then when we were going to have sex, being undressed and undressing someone new,
you need to talk to your husband, and if you still want to go ahead, sellect the man/woman and start the flirting game, we have not gone to a adult site and never would,
we used dancing to get near a person, remember its easy for a woman to get a man to bed her, but with your husband there, well good for your ego
love Sally
sally wey wrote:dawny75 wrote:Hi all even though i am new here (first post) i have been reading around alot and i was so glad to see this post. Hubby and i have been married for a little over 6 years now and sex is good not great like it used to be but good. The thing is for about the last 2 years he has been talking about seeing me with another guy and even joing in doing a double penetration on me. At first i was against it but it seems the older i get (now 33) the more i am interested and find myself thinking about it all the time. My husband is a very sexual person but it seems as if his drive is just declining and i was really hoping this might help turn the heat up a little. Any advice on those of you who have already done this sort of thing?
hello dawny 75, yes my husband and I have had threesomes, (MFMs,FMFs) for quite some years now, unlike you our sex life wasn't declining, we just wanted more, the thing I missed the most was being chatted-up and then when we were going to have sex, being undressed and undressing someone new,
you need to talk to your husband, and if you still want to go ahead, sellect the man/woman and start the flirting game, we have not gone to a adult site and never would,
we used dancing to get near a person, remember its easy for a woman to get a man to bed her, but with your husband there, well good for your ego
love Sally
. wrote:Dawny, so far I haven't done anything of the kind as I'm still unsure about how hubby would take it. Theoretically he's in favour of women taking up their sexual liberty, but reality might be different. I think I should talk to him about that guy in the office who fancies me, would he honestly not mind if I had a fling with him?![]()
Beth
mande wrote:I would highly suggest NOT doing it with someone that you work with.
In fact, it should not be anyone that you are in contact with outside of your husband.
This removes any chance of jealous feelings happening, and it keeps the other guy from thinking "I wonder if she'd do me alone sometime?"
This happens ALL the time, so I really suggest having your husband find the guy.
Yes, you get to veto or approve of the guy, but it should be someone that your husband has to call to get together again.
. wrote:splinkygb wrote:Dawny: I think a part of you is scared you would like it too much!
oh i know that is truehehe But he is also afraid i am going to like it and want to do it all the time
. wrote:I just don't want to end up liking it better than just sex with hubby
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